Just looking for anyone who used the message boards at Girlmom.com in the early 2000s?

I need advice.

my 11 year old has had the same group of friends, about 7 girls, since 3rd grade. The leader of the group has always been a mean girl, but one on one my daughter had no issues with them. In a group setting it was different story. This year (6th grade) the mean girl behavior increased and they started ignoring my daughter on random days. My daughter finally had the courage to leave the friend group and tell them. It was a rough few weeks but she seemed to finally make some friends with another group. Today, a week later, this group of friends told her they don’t want to be friends with her anymore. She was so upset and my heart just broke seeing her like that. She feels so defeated and says everyone already has a best friend in her grade and she cant find someone to hang out with. She also thinks her old group of friends are going around telling the girls in class not to talk to her and spreading rumors.

my daughters elementary school goes from kindergarten to 6th grade. Next year she will be in junior high, 7th-9th. We have an option between two schools, one where all her current classmates will go to and another where it will be a group of new people. I want to do what’s best for her and I think starting new is best. She said she will be nervous being the new kid and I feel so torn on what to do. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!

My daughter has always been ‘aware’ of her vagina but recently she’s been very curious about it (pulling open, pinching etc.) I’ve noticed we’ve been telling her “don’t touch!” A lot more recently and I’m worrying it’s making her want it more lol. Has anyone ran into this or have any piece of advice to move forward??? I don’t know what to say or how to guide her..

Looking for a bonding experience with my eight year old daughter through a legitimate camp that specializes in bringing mom and child together through experiences and play.

Do you know of any retreats like this - anywhere globally?

Camp Cedar Cliff in Asheville NC appears to be similar to what I'm looking for; will call them to check.

https://thesupermom.org/2026/misty-pena

Hello all! I am in this class, and I need the parents of girls to take this survey that is about where you shop for your daughters' clothing and how you dress them! It would be so lovely if any of you could take this, and if not, that is totally ok!

here is link for it: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdhQeBNBoYd0JrECjTyY4BLkJsOSioPo-p8RxIW0Wiexe2XIw/viewform?usp=dialog

Take this mod-approved survey if you can!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeEIQYxBumVuAERMDCX9O2_1GMQgWZw9A-xIrPPjM1HseKy7A/viewform

My daughter and 3 of her cheer mates are all set on thinking they can win the judges over bu choosing to dress "less" as they call it. Skirts already stop mid thigh but they insist on no shorts and just thong underwear and also not wearing bras. I dont care what her friends do but I need her to not follow suite, how do I tell her no but not break her heart at the same time? My daughter is always top at the pyramid in routine so it will definitely be noticeable if they do this and thsys not what I want.

My daughter just turned eight, and apparently, that means accessorizing is now serious business.

For her birthday, her aunt gifted her a set of silk scrunchies. Soft, shiny, pastel-colored ones that looked beautiful on my energetic little girl.

She has been overly excited eversince, the kind of excitment you have when temu or alibaba is having their november discount sales

She lined them up on her dresser like treasures. She carefully chose one every morning before school. Pink for “happy days.” Blue for “calm days.” Yellow for when she wanted to feel “extra sparkly.”

What melts my heart is how creative she gets with them. Sometimes she wears them in her ponytail. Sometimes in two tiny puffs. And sometimes, my personal favorite, she slides one over her wrist and declares it her “fashion bracelet.”

Last week, I even caught her wearing one as a headband with a big smile across her little face while reading in the living room mirror.

They’re just scrunchies. But to her, they’re confidence boosters. They make her feel pretty, grown-up, and expressive.

And to me, they’re little reminders of how quickly she’s growing.

I watch her admire herself in the mirror, adjusting her silk scrunchie until they are just right, and I can’t help but smile.

It’s amazing how something so small can bring so much joy.

I’ve got two daughters, and my baby has very noticeable bright blue eyes (I say noticeable because they contrast strongly with her skin and hair). My toddler has beautiful brown/hazel eyes. I don’t even think I’m being biased (but of course, I naturally am) when I say I genuinely think both of my girls are stunning.

My problem is that so often, we get comments on the baby’s eyes, right in front of my toddler. I get it, they are quite piercing and quite blue. I just also understand that many sisters grow up feeling compared on their looks, and I want to do my part in combatting the creep of societal beauty standards on their young girlhood, and especially their sisterhood.

I’m not offended to have people comment on my baby’s eyes, I think she’s beautiful! But I also think my toddler looks like a little golden ray of sunshine and she understands so much more than a stranger might realize, and I’m wondering what gentle responses I can give that thank/acknowledge their compliment and don’t leave out my big kid.

Hi everyone,

I’m feeling a bit silly even writing this, but I’m actually pretty hurt and could use some perspective.

My 6-year-old recently started calling me an “aunty” and saying I look like an aunty. At first, I brushed it off because… she’s 6. But when I gently asked her what she meant, she didn’t really have a clear answer.

What got to me more was when I asked her about other people—like my younger sister (who is 5 years younger than me) or my sister-in-law who’s older than me—and she said they’re not aunties. So somehow, I’m the only one in that category.

She kept repeating it’s because I’m “old.” I’m actually 8 months pregnant, so I know I’m not as physically active or playful with her right now, but it still stung more than I expected.

I think part of why this is hitting me so hard is because of my own childhood. My mom used to make comments about my appearance like “you don’t look rich,” “you look lower middle class,” or even “you look like an aunty,” and it really affected my confidence growing up. It took me years (and moving out at 21, meeting friends, and learning how to dress and carry myself) to feel comfortable in my own skin.

Now hearing something similar from my own child feels… triggering, honestly.

I did tell her calmly that I don’t like being called an aunty, and she said she didn’t know—but then followed it up with “but you do look like one.”

I know she’s just a child and doesn’t fully understand what she’s saying, but I’m struggling with how to handle this without projecting my own insecurities onto her.

How would you approach this? How do I explain this in an age-appropriate way without making it a bigger issue than it is?

Thanks for reading 🤍

Hello, if anyone here is a parent and would like to help me with this assignment, I can pay $25 by zelle after the interview has ended. It should only take around 15 minutes or so. The interview is about your parenting style. I can send you a list of questions and the description of the 4 parenting styles if you're interested. Please let me know asap because the assignment is due today by 11:59pm (California time). It also will be recorded but audio only. You don't have to show your face on zoom. Thanks so much for your time!

Has anyone dealt with a girl who is very sensitive with sensory stuff? My daughter's been potty trained since 2.5 but I continued wiping her. All was well. She recently turned 4 and very suddenly decided she didn't like how I wiped and that it wasn't dry enough. But when she wipes herself she takes maybe 10+ passes. She wipes so much and so hard she leaves behind bits of tp fibers that irritate her down there and then have to be very carefully cleaned out. Bathing/rinsing isn't always enough. I repeatedly show her how to wipe properly, but it doesn't help. She's also lately become really sensitive about how clothes feel and her hair touching her. I feel like all of this is pointing to ASD but we haven't tested yet and haven't had any other signs. Mainly looking for ways to make the bathroom easier and not have her wiping with a whole roll of tp for 20 minutes every time she pees. Thanks for any help.

My oldest daughter just turned 6 a few weeks ago. She has always LOVED to take baths. Recently I’ve been having her take showers more often than baths and this seems to really upset her. I feel like a shower is more hygienic, with her being in school and playing outside. Any time I have her take a shower she has a huge tantrum and I’m having to fight to wash her hair. Should I just let her take baths like she wants?

Hi, I guess I’m posting her for some advice, bear with me it’s a little long.

My 11 year old daughter has had the same group of friends since 3rd grade. It’s a group of 7 girls and around 4th grade I noticed a lot of mean girl behavior. They have one girl who is the group leader and when she decides to pick on someone she gets the whole group in on it, they all listen to her. Unfortunately, two of the girls get picked on the most and one of them happens to be my daughter. My daughter has come home crying and upset before and she completely stopped FaceTiming them after school because it would always end up in an argument. My daughter is a quiet kid, I wish she would stand up for herself more but she doesn’t. We have had multiple conversations about it and she has expressed wanting to leave the friend group, however she always ends up staying with them because she doesn’t think she can make other friends. she’s also afraid they will spread rumors and talk about her to other kids in the school. It’s a little frustrating to me that she continues to be friends with them but I don’t want to push her into doing something is doesn’t want to even though I think it would be best for her.

My daughter will be starting middle school next year and our home school will be the same school her group of friends will go to as well. We have an option of putting her in a different middle school, within our school district. My daughter does not want to go to another school because she’s said she won’t know anyone. I feel like she won’t leave her friend group if she stays in the same school as them and that’s why I want to move her to a different school. I want her to have the opportunity to make new friends and I don’t think she will if she’s around her current friends. What would you do in this situation? I know middle school is already difficult and I don’t want to make it worse by moving her but at the same time I know her group of friends are going to continue to pick on her if she stays with them. Give me some advice, please!

So yesterday my 12 year old started her period. She was super chill about it because we have discussed what and how.

What I need now is some advice on some of the products out there now. When i was 12, it was pads and tampons. She seems to feel comfortable using pads and doesn't want to use tampons because she's not a fan of sticking it 'up there' - her words. I think that would rule out any sort of period cup.

How do period underwear work? She said her friend told her about it, but all I can think about is free bleeding and it going everywhere. So if anyone knows about these and uses or has used in the past, educate me, because I'm clueless.

Also I use regular pads - when I have my period that is - but i'm hearing that people are moving more to cloth pads for environmental reasons. What are your thoughts on those as well

Thank you!

i believe this was initially a bow until i washed it and now it is two loops. anyone know how to make it back into a bow? i cant find anything online about it