Is Tr*mp going to make it illegal to get sterilized? With what's happening in NC I'm thinking I should do it while I have the chance.

I had my bisalp in November 2025, and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

What surprised me most was how different I felt afterward. Almost immediately, I felt like my body was finally mine.

The closest thing I can compare it to is owning a house instead of renting one. Before, there was always this possibility hanging over me, even though I was always religious about my birth control. After surgery, that was gone.

It felt like I finally owned the place.

I could make permanent decisions. I could make plans for the future knowing exactly what I wanted my life to look like. There was something incredibly freeing about knowing that chapter was closed because I chose to close it.

For a lot of my life, I felt like I was just responding to whatever came my way and trying to survive it. This was one of the first times I made a major decision simply because it was right for me.

What I didn't expect was how much it would affect the rest of my life.

Making that decision gave me confidence to start making other big decisions. It made me realize that I don't have to follow the default path or live the life that other people expect me to want. I can choose. I can change course. I can build a life that actually fits me.

Looking back, the surgery itself wasn't what changed my life. It was what it represented. It was the moment I stopped being a passenger and started driving.

Since then, the trajectory of my life has completely changed. I've become more intentional, more confident in my decisions, and more willing to take ownership of the direction my life is heading. I no longer feel like I'm just passing through life and reacting to whatever happens next. I've taken the wheel.

I know everyone's experience is different, and not everyone attaches this much meaning to the procedure. For me, though, it was incredibly empowering. It gave me a sense of freedom, ownership, and control that I wasn't expecting.

I'm curious if anyone else felt this way afterward. Did your bisalp end up being about more than just birth control? Did anyone else walk away feeling empowered by the decision itself?

I have severe trust issues and quite the strong hatred for men. i have been assaulted, I am mentally ill, and I have the titism.

I have tokophobia which is an extreme fear of being pregnant and pregnancy.

So, having my tubes removed sounds like a great option. But there are a few things that are extremely triggering for me is being completely unconscious, having a uteral manipulator and a catheter in me and the thought of them shaving me. I am going to request all female staff but there's still the thought that they'll say yes, but I'll have male staff in there. And sometimes you just don't have a choice in a rural community. I might be stuck with whoever I get stuck with

How and what should I do to help with these fears

How do I convince the gynecologist that I'm seeing on Tuesday and she's female, but she is notorious for denying women's sterilization even if their life depends on it but she's the only one in my area. It's not like I could walk in and explain that every single time a child screams I want to ram its head off the ground, or that if I ever get pregnant I'm going off myself. Yes, i am mentally ill, but I don't think she'd take me serious if I said that and you just don't say those things to a doctor, I'm trying to get sterilized, not put in a mental institution🤣

I am bringing my mother to vouch for me that I've never wanted kids, since she told me and showed me where babies come from and nothing's changed but I'm not too sure my mom will be convincing enough.

What if you're on your period or start your period within the two weeks after surgery? But you use a diva cup or disk, because you're allergic to every pad in the damn store and for some reason they make period underwear extremely cheeky or you just bleed thro. At this point period underwear is just a joke to me. what do I do I can't just freebleed. And Google says you can't use a diva cup or disk for two weeks after surgery. I don't know if any one knows this. But you don't really have much control over the surgery date when it's booked ahead of time. Sometime months or even years ahead of time.

Yes, am I having a weird allergic reaction to random things. But doctors don't care, because my blood work shows up normal. Now remember I'm autistic. I don't like the feeling and the texture of reusable pads. They're too thick, they move around, and they're shit. And I have tried all natural organic feminine products too. I'm allergic to them too. The cup is the only thing that is comfortable. So has anybody just ignored the doctors and user cup anyway

I am starting a new job in july and getting healthcare finally. I immediately want to look into getting a bisalp but obviously, being a 22 year old new grad, I dont have a large savings and want to minimize spending on this. I heard you can get it completely covered but you have to ensure its listed properly for the healthcare? IDK i am just looking for advice about the payment/paperwork sides of things