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Guys, I am in the middle of an anxiety crisis. I do not want anything to happen to me, but why is my body still acting strangely against my will?

It has been 17 weeks since everything happened, since the last time I had sex with a guy. And I regret it, I regret it every day. I regret it when I wake up, when I eat, when I shower, when I lie down, and even when I dream.

I no longer know what to do. I should start therapy soon, as is obvious. But as time passes, I increasingly feel that I am reaching a deadline.

My periods scare me a lot. They are very frightening to me. They are light, with little flow, probably because I took a hormone overdose.

I have countless negative blood tests and ultrasounds, and none of that seems to be enough.

My history:

*• January:* 23
*• February:* 3, 13, **18**, 19 and 26
*• March:* 13, 18, **20**, 26 and 31
*• April:* 15, **22** and 27
*• May:* 14, **20** and 26

Currently, I have a total of 16 negative tests, and the ones that are underlined in bold are the monthly ultrasounds I have been having.

My periods occurred on these dates:

*• January*: 8 to 12
*• February*: 20 to 21
*• March*: 26 to 30
*• April*: 26 to 31
*• May*:

My body is giving me crazy symptoms, and I am also starting to feel like I am going crazy. I took two emergency contraceptive pills (22/Jan and 23/Jan), I even tried to insert a copper IUD for emergency contraception (23/Jan), and then I took a combined hormonal contraceptive from 28/Jan to 17/Feb. Could this be the reason my body is so out of balance?

I mean, my hormonal tests are normal, and the CA-125 is also normal. So if it is not pregnancy, fibroids, cervical cancer, ovarian cysts, etc., why has my body still not regulated and recovered after 4 months, almost 5, since my last sexual intercourse?

I will stop testing in September, and in October it will be my desired 9 months, meaning it will be the end of the line for me.

**Future plans:**

**• June:** 11, 18, 25 and **30**
**• July:** 15, **23** and 30
**• September:** 4, 9 and **30**

With my body acting in a strange way, I will never feel 100% at peace.

I am praying that the tests keep coming back negative.

There are 33 days left until my next appointment. I am going to talk to her about my cycles behaving strangely, and of course, it will also be my sixth ultrasound.

Boa sorte para mim! 🫪

I don’t have penetrative sex with my partner. However, we do do other things. I am on cycle day 35. I track my cycle using my oura ring and natural cycles app. Suspected ovulation was cycle day 19. Me and my boyfriend did fool around on cycle day 26 & 27. He fingered me, clean hands the first night. The second night he fingered me and then I gave him a handjob and he came on my chest/stomach. I used a damp washcloth to clean up, then washed my hands and went to sleep. Now my period is 6 days late and I’m having none of my normal pms symptoms. I’m so scared. We are mostly abstinent because of my tokophobia and now I’m going through this even without intercourse. Please help

Dec 26-31 heavy bleeding

Jan 22 unprotected sex plus yuzpe

Jan 23-31 heavy bleeding

March 1,7,10 and 11 negative test

March 12-17 heavy bleeding

April 4 and 6 negative test

April 8-13 heavy bleeding

May 4 and 11 negative test

May 12-17 heavy bleeding

May 18 negative test

Can I now rule out pregnancy and stop thinking about hidden and cryptic pregnancy? I saw a lot of testimonies that they have bleeding and negative pregnancy test yet they are pregnant an they knew it at 20 plus weeks of pregnancy. I saw one that she had negative test for 4 months but still pregnant. Also someone that had 2 full period so she didn't suspect she's pregnant.

Guys I know this is stupid but please. All i need is reassurance and help.

April 23, I masturbated for the FIRST time.
April 27-28, Got SA'd the guy fingered me. ( he hand pre-cum on his hand)

April 29, i had egg-white discharge
Ovulation day prediction - May 1-2

May 4 and 6, he fingered me again.

So later that day (May 6), i had a weird white looking discharge that has some blood in it. It was slimy.

May 7, i woke up with a small spotting in my underwear. Then around 7 pm, i had discharge again. It was brown and has hints of small blood clot (really small.)

May 8 (3:00 am), brown discharge with red streaks and little blood clots again.

9-10, no discharge, no stain. Just when I pee. It was watery and light brown. I tried inserting a finger then when i pull it out, some old blood was in my finger, I'll describe it as wet tissue paper, close to dissolving.

Please help, guys...

tested negative may 12

Got my period as of May 15

After my period ended i took a test again. It was negative but i saw a faintest line or maybe im just imagining things.

I then got movements from my stomach, sometimes cramping or stomach sounds. I have been bloated as well and i read somewhere that if you lay on your back your tummy will be flat. but mine is not.

Im afraid it might be some "ectopic pregnancy".

help guys, please. i need reassurance.

Hello ,
J’ai eu il y a moins d’une semaine une ovulation assez douloureuse et les règles sont arrivées avec 5 jours d’avance , j’ai fais un test de grossesse négatif la semaine dernière et j’ai un stérilet au cuivre , ça me met dans une angoisse phénoménale j’ai tout de suite peur de faire une grossesse extra utérine ou autre…
Aidez moi à faire redescendre la pression svp…

Hello, I am new here and I feel this place is perfect for my fear. I've always felt so silly for being afraid of pregnancy every month, even on months I had no intercourse, and I'm not alone in that.

This month my period didn't come, I don't know why. Its not uncommon for me to have weird cycles but this is quite long even for me. PMS symptoms have been everywhere and I've been so bloated I feel like a rubber ball. I keep thinking ill look and see blood... but no

I'm very safe in bed. Safe enough im 99% sure I am not pregnant, me and my boyfriend agree it would have to be immaculate conception... but that 1%. how do I deal with this one percent? It has been costing me sleep, making me nervous, ruining my peace of mind every time i feel bloated, thinking to myself 'what if it's a baby and now you have to become a mom? what if? what if??'

I should take a pregnancy test, but I feel so guilty asking my boyfriend for one even though he offered. I just lost my job and I feel like a huge burden on him. Another part of me is so scared for if it were to come back positive. My whole life could be over. Schrodinger's pregnancy.

I'm not sure what to do with myself. My friend just laughs at me. How do I handle this anxiety?

I recently joined after finding out the name of my phobia. This is my first post.

I am a 36 yo female with a Catholic and Latina background. Ever since I was little, I thought I would at least have two children. Although I'm grateful for the life I have lived, and for my current partner, I'm at a loss for seemingly letting my youthful years go without trying to have a child because of fear of pain and confusion.

Also, my current partner has never wanted children. There was a time we both wondered 'Yes' or 'No', but he decided 'No' over 5 years ago.

I'm afraid it's too late. I'm afraid I'm not good enough. I'm afraid of growing an individual inside of me. Giving birth being a bloody and near-death event. I'm afraid that the day I finally have a child in my arms, is the day I will always worry about the million ways I'm not only messing up with decisions regarding my life, but someone else's.

I'm also afraid I'll be alone, seeing as I know my partner loves me, but I think he loves his life not being a parent more than he loves me. And I've also had a fear that any child of mine will be taken by my mother somehow. She's the baby expert. In every single way-she's seen it and done it all. There won't be a moment where I'll be doing anything right in her eyes.

I love children. I was a preschool teacher for so many years. I exited that career recently because I thought I was finally ready to settle down and try. Even if my partner gave me the go ahead, I would still be scared. Scared of the entire process. I take mental health medication and have other chronic illnesses, so I know there can be real complications.

I always think about holding my own baby and smiling wide. The comfort of seeing him or her smile, eat, play and laugh. Watching them grow, day by day. I was looking forward to teaching my child how to speak Spanish, as my current partner only speaks English. There's something so comforting for me to think of having my own family.

But at this point, it's just all been fantasy because of all my fears. I just don't ever want to think that I'll regret even trying to get pregnant because of fear. There have been so many wonderful things in life I've missed out on because of fear. Fear of physical pain. Fear of emotional pain. Fear of regretting my choice to even have a family.

I just want someone to love me enough to say that this is what they want too. That they love me, no matter what I decide. I don't want to beg another, or convince even myself.

I'm not sure what I need, but I would like some emotional support. I don't really have any friends right now (I moved in with my partner two years ago and haven't actively made any female friends at work or just in the area).

I am the only daughter and the second oldest in a big family of six total children. I feel alone in this decision, but also feel that it wouldn't be right to bring someone into this world. I was upset about being alive and being a female when I grew up with all brothers.

I just need some reassurance and friendship.

Thanks for reading. And thank you for adding me into this group.

Hi im F(19) and i've recently discovered this thing called a destiny matrix where is doesnt necessarily predict your future but sorta like that and kinda saw like themes of pregnancy during 25 years old ( that beinv a 3rd energy year ) i know it sounds silly but it kinda triggered my anxiety i know i have full control on my body snd thats not set in stone but like i began to feel so much fear because i dont want kids at all i want to be sterilized im not on birth control since i cant necessarily afford it every month and i cant really afford both but nonetheless i really dont want kids and im worried

I take birth control (POP pills) and rarely mess up, and I also always use condoms for PIV. My partner and I also don't have PIV sex too often because we're both busy and also just don't like it that much.

Despite this, I keep freaking out about stories of accidental pregnancy and wonder if I'm doing anything that could get me accidentally pregnant. I generally hear that those who accidentally got pregnant definitely did something obviously wrong like not using protection. But then I see so many seemingly smart women getting genuinely confused about being pregnant and it scares me that I might also get pregnant and be just as confused.

Does anyone have any advice for this? Is it really just carelessness that causes accidental pregnancy?

About 15 weeks ago, or rather, three months ago (January 22, 2026), I had sexual intercourse, and since then, there has not been a single moment when I have not thought about it. I feel completely and 100% regretful, and I do not plan on doing anything like that again anytime soon. I am not mentally well enough for it.

I do not want to go into too many details because I know how irrelevant they are now.

I am trying to hold on to what I already have, which is 13 negative tests. To make my post clearer, these are the monthly tests I did.

February: I tested on February 3 (βHCG: Negative), February 13 (βHCG: <0.1), February 18 (I had a transvaginal ultrasound at 3 weeks that did not identify any problems, gestational sac, or embryo), February 19 (βHCG: <1), and February 26 (βHCG: <2.0).

In total, I did around 4 blood tests, one per week, during February. I should mention that many “strange” things happened during that month, such as this situation: https://www.reddit.com/r/Periods/s/mwrqW0jvUz

I admit that I do not know whether the gynecologist I saw was trying to calm my anxiety or not, but during the checkup he said: “The chances of you being pregnant are very low, but you should do another scan at 6 weeks if you intend to have an abortion.” My immediate thought was: “What the hell!?” He also mentioned that because, according to him, my endometrium was only 6 mm thick, indicating a hostile thickness for implantation.

March: I also did around 4 blood tests (between 7 and 9 weeks), on March 13, 18, 20, 26, and 31. All negative. It is worth mentioning that on March 20, I had a transvaginal ultrasound at 8 weeks after intercourse. The doctor confirmed ovulation, my endometrium measured 12 mm, and there was a corpus luteum present. Six days after the ultrasound, I got my period. The doctor did not see any heartbeat, gestational sac, or embryo. My period lasted from March 26 until March 30, with a light flow.

April: A terrifying month.

I did three tests: 2 blood tests and 1 ultrasound.

I had a blood test on April 15 (11 weeks after intercourse), and it came back <0.200. I had another transvaginal ultrasound at 12 weeks on April 22, and it felt strange.

The doctor did not see any sign of ovulation, not even a corpus luteum. My endometrium was thin, measuring 7 mm, indicating that I was not close to menstruating, and that is when things started becoming confusing to me. Does the endometrium get thicker during ovulation and then thinner around menstruation? Could that be it? She said she did not see any embryo, and I believe it would be very unlikely to miss a 12 week embryo on ultrasound.

Afterwards, she prescribed some hormonal tests, including a pregnancy test, and I ended up doing them on April 27 (13 weeks after intercourse). When I went to the lab, the woman told me: “The child will come at the right time,” and honestly? I hope it never comes. I had a complete breakdown and cried for hours. On April 28, I received the results. Another beautiful negative result, and my hormone tests were also normal, meaning they showed nothing abnormal.

My April period started on April 26 and ended on April 31. It was a strange period. I only used 1 to 2 small pads per day. Very little flow. Sometimes a larger amount would come out in the toilet, and if needed, I could go hours without staining the pad. The blood was bright red, with the presence of some very small clots.

May: I plan to do another blood test on May 15 (16 weeks after intercourse) and another transvaginal ultrasound on May 19 (also 16 weeks after intercourse), four days after the blood test.

My anxiety has been at 1000 lately because I have been having strange symptoms. I do not know if it is all in my head, but I feel different.

My stomach does not feel hard or bloated, but my breasts hurt, and I feel more fatigued than usual. It feels like my sense of smell is more sensitive. A few days ago, after an exhausting work week, I spent an entire day sleeping, and that had never happened to me before. I also feel like I get tired more easily.

Are 13 tests (10 blood tests and 3 ultrasounds, with the most recent ultrasound at 12 weeks showing no embryo) really reliable? Could my symptoms be psychological? I feel deeply scared about this situation, especially after reading crazy stories such as positive tests appearing months later, fetuses never appearing on ultrasounds, or stomachs remaining flat after months.

Am I safe? I have been testing monthly, almost weekly, and the tests always come back negative, even after 3 months since my last sexual encounter.

It sounds crazy, but I am 100% willing to keep doing monthly ultrasounds and tests until one day I wake up and realize there is nothing inside me, but that would probably be excessive on my part, would it not?

There is about one week left until my blood test, which will already be my 11th, and 11 days until my transvaginal ultrasound, which will be my 4th, and it feels like this paranoia will never go away. And my anxiety, even though logically I do not see how it would be possible, keeps convincing me that somehow the tests will magically come back positive.

I was thinking about staying quiet during June and August to take a break from all these tests. And yes, I have already accepted that I will probably spend 9 or 10 months dealing with this obsession. As a precaution, last month I scheduled another ultrasound for July 23. Access to resources and appointments is not a problem for me.

Considering that I already have, or will have, 15 tests done, honestly, how bad would it be to do one ultrasound or blood test per month? Or would that be completely unnecessary?

Thank you to everyone who read my post until the end. Hugs and kisses!

Update: On May 14, I took another βHCG test, and it came back negative. It was <2. Now I am waiting to have the ultrasound on May 19, in two days.

Update 2: On May 20, I went for an ultrasound, my fourth one. My gynecologist said that everything looked normal. He saw some follicles in one of my ovaries and even commented that I had ovulated from one of my ovaries as well. My endometrium measured 5 mm, so everything appeared normal.

Last year, I made the life-changing decision to get sterilized. For those who don't know, the new gold standard in female sterilization isn't tying the tubes, it's removing them. My chances of getting pregnant are slim to none. I stayed on hormonal birth control for some extra peace of mind and also for period management.

I always knew how scared of pregnancy I am, but I never knew just how much that fear plagued me until it wasn't living in my body anymore.

I have had tokophobia for as long as I have understood that as a female, *that* is a genuine possibility.

Absolutely terrifies me. Nauseates me.

It is deeply stressful and upsetting to the extent that I’ve had to get accommodations for classes, I’ve sobbed asking professors for accommodations, I’ve missed friends Abby showers and cried to myself about how I can’t be a supportive friend.
One time I had a full night crisis because the last chapter of the trilogy I was reading ended in an intentional phobia situation. It’s been two years. I have not read the last chapter of the book.

It’s taken me awhile, but I’ve decided I do actually kind of want bio children. There are positives to it that I find very valuable. But the deep fear is still equally there. I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to do that, but I feel more positively towards it than ever before.

Some people would say “oh you’ll get over it one day, you’ll want children”. Wanting them doesn’t change the fear at all.
I’ve always wanted children. I just always imagined I’d adopt. And when I got a boyfriend, I imagined going through that personal process would never be able to be on the table.

But anyway, for at home exposure therapy.
I’m very oddly very kinky. And somehow, I can’t explain how, but somehow *that* is incredibly arousing to me if I am already aroused.

And honestly, engaging with such media while horny has helped me a lot to feel less anxious while thinking about *that* in general.
It’s made me feel more positively about it personally and the idea of me choosing that in the future if I ever were to.

I think without that kinky exposure I never would have been able to see progress in my anxiety. I don’t know. It’s an odd thing to think about.

I guess just hoping I’m not the only one. Or that my experience might be able to help someone else out.

Well, in about the next 30 minutes, I’m going to get an ultrasound, my legs are shaking of anxiety, it has been 12 weeks since everything happened, I feel literally so freaking nervous, oh God! I’ll update you all when it’s over, and also going to do some questions to the doctor! Wish me luck! 😭

I think I have type two, because I was briefly pregnant once before and it was a terrifying experience. It took me years to shake. Now over a decade later I’m trying for a baby on purpose. But I’m so scared to be pregnant, and even more scared to give birth. My fears are pretty intense, and they come from lived experience. I was wondering if anyone had gone through this and found ways to relax a bit? Or if there are any resources you suggest. I want to have a family so much, I just wish the baby would appear and it didn’t have to be stuck inside me for so long.

I don’t want to scare people with the details of what happened before, but I want to move past it. Women have been doing this since the dawn of time 😭 Why are things so hard for me that other people don’t struggle with at all 😭

She talks about her Tokophobia on Red Flag Green Flag.

Je (28 F) suis childfree, et j’ai envie de le rester. J’ai un stérilet au cuivre, je n’ai jamais de retard de règles.

Ça doit faire 10 ans que je suis phobique absolue du déni de grossesse. Chaque fois que j’ai mal quelque part j’ai peur que ce soit un déni de grossesse. J’ai déjà eu mal aux hanches, je pensais que c’était un bébé. J’ai des brûlures d’estomacs , je crois que c’est un bébé. Je suis fatiguée , je pense que c’est un bébé . Et ainsi de suite.

Je lutte TRÈS FORT pour ne pas céder au besoin de vérification mais c’est dur d’être dans cette incertitude là même quand elle est irrationnelle.

Chaque récit de grossesse réactive ce stress chez moi. Hier une copine m’a annoncé sa grossesse et j’ai eu peur d’être enceinte à mon tour.

Avez vous des trucs et astuces pour gérer ça ?

Je suis déjà en thérapie..

I have had this thought before.

There are a lot of people today that got sick at some point with something that would have killed them 100 years ago due to lack of modern medicine, especially considering how high child mortality was. A lot of people who would never have received the physical or mental treatment they needed in order to live.

I've often asked myself how I could have lived in the past, with so little agency and no safe contraception or abortion, and no way to become sterile. I've come to the conclusion that I simply would have killed myself. I was simply not made to live in any time period other than the modern one, and if things were to regress back to how they were before, the world will become inhospitable to me again and I will most likely end up pregnant one way or another and have to commit suicide or die in extreme pain performing an unsafe abortion.

This thought actually comforts me more than the idea that I would have had several children had I just been born in a different time. I'd rather know I'd just die.

I really like historical period stories and learning about historical figures and I sometimes enjoy fantasizing about living there and sleeping with a specific historical figure I like, but it's always as another person, never as myself. It's the only way I can really enjoy the fantasy without panicking about the reality of those times and thinking of myself being pregnant. As soon as I imagine myself in that situation the fantasy falls apart because I know that I'd then have to kill myself for my stupid mistake.

I’m going to start birth control soon. I want to get a copper IUD as well as a hormonal method, but I’m worried that a hormonal method will make me more paranoid. I use three barrier methods (condoms, spermicide, withdrawal.) Despite that, I still get very paranoid and my period is the only thing that comforts me.

I’ve heard that with methods like the patch and pill the “withdrawal bleeding” isn’t a true period, and can still happen if you’re pr***nt, and that spotting can happen, which scare me. In that case, I think I’d prefer to not take a week off so I don’t have to bleed at all if it’s not doing me any good.

I want a hormonal method because 1, i’m worried about having the copper IUD alone because i’ve heard it can shift out of place and not be effective, and 2, my periods are very irregular and usually always late. Supposedly birth control can make them more regular, but it seems like it only takes them away?

Has anyone experienced increased paranoia because of this? What comforts you other than a true period?

Why do some people take nine months to overcome a pregnancy scare or anxiety related to pregnancy, while others get their period and simply move on with their lives? Has anyone here ever become so overwhelmed that they took multiple tests, even ultrasounds?

Some info: I’ve been on the implant since October of last year.

So basically in December, I had a scare. I thought I was being assaulted by a guy in the laundry room, but it turns out I had a seizure (I have epilepsy and I didn’t forget my meds) and a nightmare to go along with it. The doctor in the emergency room said something about a common illness, which I don’t recall much of.

The tests I took a few days after the event (for stds and pregnancy) were all negative but i didn’t trust them because it takes a while for things to show up.

Next month, I got retested and specifically requested a blood test for pregnancy, since those are accurate. Got the results back a while later and everything was negative. Happy, right?

Well, I got super anxious and started thinking that maybe they made a mistake or something and that this would end up in like a cryptic pregnancy or something. Then I visited my social worker and she sent me some exercises to look through whenever I had these thoughts.

Now, I still panic from time to time and fear that something bad might happen. I tried the exercises but they seem less effective when I’m super stressed. I genuinely don’t know what to do and I’m scared despite how accurate blood tests are and how they would definitely detect something.

I don’t know how to deal with this anymore. I just wish I could get a hysterectomy and get done with it already.

I've been struggling with my mental health for a few years now. I'm 19, and I have depression and anxiety. For last year I developed extreme paranoia about pregnancy -I'm not on birth control(I don't have access to anything accept condoms), I've never had penetrative sex, the only way I have any sexual contact is oral, and I rarely let my boyfriend touch me in any way because I'm extremely anxious. When I just touch him, I use hand sanitizer, I wash my hands and make him do the same thing. It ruined my sex life. And even with little to no sexual contact and being careful I'm somehow convinced I could've gotten pregnant. I've been checking my cervix and I'm really focusing on my discharge. I have to keep track of every single thing, because I think that if I won't I'll go crazy. And even now, after my period on day 9 of my cycle I can somehow convince myself that there is a way that I got pregnant, and that the period was just implantation bleeding. It's so tiring, I can't have a day without worrying about it, and I seriously don't know what I should do. I'm on antidepressants, I go to therapy, I feel like I've tried everything and nothing works. Has anyone felt like that? Do you have any tips? I feel like I'm going crazy, and I don't know what I should do

Hey! I'm AFAB, agender, 20yrs old. I am seeking solace, comfort, and other's stories in regard to the worsening of tokophobia due to the recent abortion bans in the U.S.

The second I knew about pregnancy (around the age of 9), I knew I could never experience that. It was my first instance of tokophobia. I thought that you could get an abortion anywhere, growing up.

However, when abortion ban laws started coming into place, my tokophobia started sky rocketing. I live in a state where most abortions are illegal. But luckily I live close to a state that is still pro-abortion and that has given me some hope. But the more pressure I see for abortion bans just gives me unease. How long will pro-abortion states last? I don't know. I really don't want to resort to unsafe abortion if an accident or assault happened, but would do it if it were the last option.

I was wondering if anyone here shared the same feelings of helplessness, fear, unease, and the like.

1. What are your stories? (If you're comfortable sharing them).

2. What has helped you when these things get you down?

3. Any words of comfort or solace for each other are welcome too. I would like to build a sense of community.

Hello guys. I’m dec 31st I got my period. I took my birth control patch off that Wednesday. Unfortunately I ran out of my patches and was without my birth control until Jan 10th. Before that I was using condoms with my boyfriend and then on Jan 10th the day I put my patch on, we had sex again and I once again made him wear a condom. Unfortunately that night he finished on my back and I felt some start to drip towards my butt crack. He said nothing dripped lower and he caught it in time but I have really bad anxiety and ocd about being pregnant so I’ve been obsessing ever since. Then three days after I developed a really bad UTI that eventually put me in the hospital. I was so scared I was pregnant. On Tuesday Jan 20th I took my patch off to try and get my period bc I was scared I was pregnant. It’s the 25th and I still haven’t gotten my withdrawal bleeding and now I’m really panicking. Do yall think I could be pregnant or are my hormones out of wack bc I had been off my birth control and then when I started again I took it off early?? Thanks