Play group vent

[u/Marlasinger2-0]

I’m trying to get better about play dates/groups so that we both get social interaction but today made me feel like I never want to have another play date again lol. My son is 18m and so far has met all milestones except for speech. One of the moms at the play group has a child who’s autistic, and she kept making comments that my son is too, specifically about his lack of speech and the “way he was playing”. It became the full topic of conversation in the group about how I need to get an evaluation ASAP and it all made me feel so bad like I’m failing my child or missing something. I have brought up speech to the pedi and she’s not concerned and has never had any concerns about his development. But wtf? Am I wrong to be upset like this was mean girl behavior? Or am I wrong if I don’t take it seriously? I’m so annoyed that I finally went to a group and this is what happened.

[u/ams42385]

I just make things more awkward but kind of on purpose. I had someone comment on my baby who wasn’t quite crawling yet but her older cousin was. I just said “yeah she’s pretty lazy” and the girl walked away. Mind you she is one of the fastest kids in her class now. Some kids just don’t talk as much. Mom may have been trying to find some common ground and went about it in a bit of a pushy way. Other new moms probably felt just as uncomfortable and didn’t know what to do. Maybe give it another go and steer clear of her, maybe she won’t be there or politely (or not lol) tell her you don’t have those concerns at this time.