r/SouthJersey • u/SpareEducational5920 • 1h ago
Camden County Dating 40+ in south Jersey.
Seeing all these South Jersey dating posts from the 20-somethings made me realize… where are the 40+ people at?
Surely I’m not the only one whose ideal date now includes decent conversation, no games, maybe tacos, maybe a Target run, and being home before midnight because lower back pain is undefeated.
South Jersey has to be full of people who still like music too loud in the car, random late night Wawa trips, horror movies, tattoos, sarcasm, and pretending we’re “just browsing” at HomeGoods.
Single, divorced, separated, emotionally exhausted… whatever your status is, how are people over 40 actually meeting anymore around here?
And yes ladies, there are still some normal straight dudes around. We’re just harder to spot now because we blend into brewery crowds and garden centers.
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u/ControlledChaos3298 54m ago
Waiting for the option to choose one and have him delivered thru door dash. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/No-News-3608 34m ago
After a particularly sad breakup that wasn’t expected 5 years ago, I’ve decided to ride my 50s on out solo ( just turned 50 last month)
I couldn’t go through it again…it’ll suck never being able to share my day with anyone again, but….
That being said, I wish you all luck. I’m sure it’s not easy.
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u/amatom27 1h ago
I know you're talking 40+ but I dated in my mid to late 30s before I met my now wife right before COVID and it royally sucked.
For me I would go on dates with women who thought they wanted a companion but I could tell they enjoyed single life too much to commit. Or were looking for prince charming or something. There are good ones out there. It's all a game.
The #1 thing would be to try to find friends who have single friends you may not know. Online dating is a mixed bag.
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u/haelous 47m ago
For me I would go on dates with women who thought they wanted a companion but I could tell they enjoyed single life too much to commit. Or were looking for prince charming or something. There are good ones out there. It's all a game.
I want to echo that I've had a similar experience. It almost feels like a bell curve where it's more for fun or casual dating again like in my early to mid 20s.
I get tired of partying like I'm 24 again when I'm 42, but that's kind of what I run into.
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u/Specialist_Issue_214 Bootlicker Kicker 1h ago
We're around.
I usually just stick with the apps and get a decent enough number of matches (for a man). I just match with everyone that meets my criteria and see who responds and filter from there.
I might try speed dating just to see how it is, curiousity more than anything.
I go in cycles where I'm like oh yeah a partner would be nice. Then within a week or two I'm like ehhhhh...I'm good.
And of course our female counterparts are doing the same thing. So I think a lot of us are just content with life and not as horny as we used to be and aren't lonely and therefore aren't really trying that hard to find a partner?
Just my guess. I'm just a dumbass sitting on a couch, what do I know?
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u/haelous 45m ago
So I think a lot of us are just content with life and not as horny as we used to be and aren't lonely and therefore aren't really trying that hard to find a partner?
I think this is a really good point. A lot of us who are single at this stage of our lives are happy with our quality of life and enjoying what we have. It can be difficult to switch from that type of life to a serious relationship. Someone won't just "slot right in," it requires adjustment.
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u/djspacebunny Mod Salem County Xennial 1h ago
Imma delete this unless you're interested in making it the monthly dating thread. Some other dude was doing this and disappeared. Don't want this community full of dating posts. Want it all in one place... or another subreddit altogeter.