Does Feeld actually work?

[u/Ginger_Gerl]

has anyone had luck with the free version of Feeld? I've been using it for a couple weeks now with zero luck. I dont want to pay for it just yet cuz I've had little success with online dating in the past. Maybe I'm impatient, or maybe this is another app that just wants your money....idk.

any advice?

we are being open and honest in our bio. maybe we arent using the right terms and such? we worry that some people might think we are looking for a "unicorn". but that's genuinely not what we are looking for.

If I've learned my terminology correctly then what I'm looking for is "a closed V, kitchen table relationship with a woman".

I (31F) want a girlfriend that is comfortable with polyfi. She doesn't need to be attracted to my man, but I'd like for them to get along so we can all hang out together.

[u/StaceOdyssey]

Can I ask why you’re proposing that they need to be okay with dating only one person and they need to be okay with you have two partners?

A lot of hinge poly relationships work out that way but I wonder if that’s why you feel the app isn’t working for you. “X for me, but not for thee” is a turn off for a lot of people on principle, regardless of what X is.

[u/Ginger_Gerl → u/StaceOdyssey]

It's always extrapolates like this..... :/ like I'm some kind of stereotype....

One of my friend's from high school had this kind of relationship. Without getting into their lives and situation too much, I'll just say they are very happy together and still together today (going on 47 years). They raised 3 kids together, and one is my best friend. They were like family to me back in high school. I've talked with them openly since my husband and I have made the decision to do this, and they've been really encouraging and supportive. But, they all met and started their relationship back when THEY were still in high-school.... So, things have changed a lot and they don't have much advice besides "communicate." (For clarification: My husband and I are 30+)

[u/JustKittenxo → u/Ginger_Gerl]

You might not like people’s advice or perspective but that doesn’t make it less valid. Nobody is stereotyping you. They’re just pointing out that most people aren’t going to be interested in an offer like that, so you’re going to have to be very very patient and very very lucky. It may take years or decades to find someone who wants that, or you may never find it at all. So either you accept that it’s not realistic to expect to have any success in a few weeks/months with that kind of unusual setup, or you decide you’re open to some compromise or other configurations. Because the reality is that you’re looking for a very rare person who is going to be completely fine with relying on you to meet all of her sexual and romantic needs, while being okay with your sexual and romantic attention being split between two people. I’ve been a unicorn before and don’t have anything against joining a couple and even then I feel like it’s really risky to expect someone who’s splitting their time between two people to meet all of my needs when I can’t get them met by another romantic partner. A closed triad may be harder to establish in terms of chemistry and attraction, but it’ll be easier in terms of fairness and making sure that the two ends of the V aren’t left out or lonely when you have twice the number of date nights etc because you have both of them and they only have you.