r/workingmoms • u/Valuable_Bag_3455 • Mar 13 '26

Daycare Question Daycare Scaries

Does anyone else lurk the childcare workers sub? FTM - getting ready to send my 11 week old to daycare in 2 weeks. Having a hard time (as I’m sure everyone did) coming to terms with being away from him all day. I’ve been lurking in the Reddit for daycare workers trying to make myself feel better. 8 hours ago someone posted asking if other workers would send their children to daycare and basically every comment is a resounding NO. Trying not to let this get to me, but I’m totally freaking out.

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u/MsCardeno Mar 13 '26 edited Mar 13 '26

This sub will tell you being a working mom is the worst life you can awarded.

Reddit will tell you will regret your kids and parents are miserable.

Literally don’t take anything you read on Reddit seriously. People are miserable and mad on here - that’s what motivates them to post. And lots of people are trolls. Don’t take anyone’s words 100%.

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u/RatherBeAtDisney Mar 13 '26

Agreed - Plus, you get no upvotes if you’re a happy, successful person. Those posts get hidden due to engagement.

Did I love sending my son to daycare young? Of course not, but did the workers at our center genuinely cared about him. He was also way more engaged and stimulated by being at daycare. Now at nearly three I look back and can’t imagine doing things differently given the options we had at the time.

Not working was never an option for me, my husband jokes I’m not allowed to retire because he’s seen how my mother and aunt have more or less let themselves go (mostly mentally), when not working. I also really want to set a good example for my kids that women can have careers, that’s important to me. It’s not about finances for us (although yes that matters too), the primary decision for me to keep working has always been the non-tangible benefits.