r/workingmoms • u/eng2fly • Jan 22 '26
Working Mom Success Handed In resignation
You can read prior posts to see I had stepped up after my team of 4 was reduced to just me.
It’s been 2 weeks and I’ve seen all I needed to see. They continued piling work on me, not listening, and offered exactly $0 in compensation increase.
I gave my notice. The workload was unrealistic. They acted shocked and when I started going through the transition list with them they are now going to hire 3 people to replace me. A critical project has been placed on hold.
I’ve decided to (temporarily) step away from the work force until my kids are in school. Goodbye working moms, you were a great community and helped me through some tough years.
I’ve flaired it as a success because ultimately I stood up for myself and stuck to my boundaries.
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u/Magnolia_Mystery Jan 22 '26
Going to hire 3 people to replace you... what bullshit.
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u/eng2fly Jan 22 '26
I actually laughed when they said that. I’d been telling them I was inadequately compensated and it was ignored.
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u/South-Helicopter-514 Jan 22 '26
You should tell them you'll come back for 3x the salary and benefits, to save them a huge chunk of time and money hiring and training THREE PEOPLE! /s
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u/mrsjavey Jan 23 '26
How dare they tell you. Werent they embarrassed? Like they proved that what you were complaining about was true!?
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u/eng2fly Jan 23 '26
No. They’re now trying to spin a narrative that my ex (wonderful) boss didn’t communicate it and pin it on someone who left when in reality my boss boss is an idiot. He was aware of everything and just ignored it. Boss boss was also warned by others if he didn’t take care of me I’d quit and here we are.
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u/CloseCohen_Careers Jan 23 '26
Yes that part! that was the part that stood out to me too. Leadership really needs to get their act together.
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u/Effective_Pie1312 Jan 22 '26
In Q4 last year, I made a similar decision under similar circumstances. If you are anything like me, there may be an emotional roller coaster headed your way. I started therapy. If you are in a position to do so, I highly recommend it even if temporarily just to process the sudden transition.
Know, you rock! The inhumane leadership that exploited and extrapolated from you are at fault. You are so precious and have so much more to offer the world than what they tried to make and take from you.
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u/eng2fly Jan 22 '26
Thank you, yes I think we are similar. I’m type A, high performer, super driven, and have always excelled. It’s going to be very very weird. I have a therapist and this is something we’ve talked about extensively. I will be keeping up with him as I navigate this huge change
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u/makeitsew87 Jan 22 '26
Refusing to treat your employees fairly is a prime example of penny wise pound foolish.
Proud of you ❤️
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u/eng2fly Jan 22 '26
Yes they will be out at minimum $240k for these replacements when I was asking for a $40k raise.
I even put if they felt that was unfair to run a compensation report for my education, experience, certifications.
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u/RoyalMundane6564 Jan 23 '26
Not I including the overhead cost of benefits over time or the work to manage 3 people v 1. What dummies, but good for you!!!
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u/Filthy-Gab Jan 22 '26
good for you. it is wild how they suddenly find the budget for 3 people once you leave. enjoy the time with your kids, you earned it.
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u/eng2fly Jan 23 '26
And it’s going to be 3 people new to the company who don’t have the system or company knowledge I do so best of luck annnnd there’s no one around to train them
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u/TraditionalAir933 Jan 22 '26
My team of 10 went to 2. If we didn’t need my income, I’d be doing the same 🥲.
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u/eng2fly Jan 22 '26
That is AWFUL and at my job they just expected me to absorb it. Went from a high performing 3 person team to just me
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u/TraditionalAir933 Jan 22 '26
Exactly this! My colleagues were amazing and contributed so much. Now my coworker and I are pretty much in survival mode will no support or $ in sight. But good on you for making the decision that’s best for YOU and your family ❤️.
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u/eng2fly Jan 23 '26
I’m sorry. I was so stressed out the last two weeks I can’t imagine. The “support” I was getting was to train my new boss and get a new to me, new to the company direct report that I’d also have to train. Such a joke.
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u/MaarvaCinta Jan 22 '26
Bravo 👏🏽👏🏽 I resigned from a role several years ago where I constantly shared that I was doing the work of two senior leaders. I was ignored. Once I submitted my resignation, they split my role into two senior leader positions. My last form of advocacy before my official last day was to ensure two of my direct-reports were promoted to the new positions.
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u/eng2fly Jan 23 '26
I don’t understand why it has to take resigning to get them to listen. I had two calls and sent a recap saying what I would and wouldn’t do along with timeline on compensation and they just ignored it.
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u/neverthelessidissent Jan 23 '26
It's largely men doing this. Women's work is invisible unless it's extraordinary, and even then it's pretty invisible.
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u/Mustard-cutt-r Jan 23 '26
Because they don’t care bc we are replaceable or they can’t do anything until it’s an emergency. It’s ridiculous but hey capitalism
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u/Tinyturtles45 Jan 23 '26
In the same boat. Giving my notice today.
It's not worth it. I come home exhausted and don't have enough energy for my 19month old.
See you on the other side at r/SAHM lol
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u/eng2fly Jan 23 '26
Hahaha girl I feel so RELIEVED, now I don’t have to train my new boss. New boss is arguing with me while I’m training him and that’s wild. I’ve decided to just drop the rope.
Their grand idea of help was for me to get a new direct report that I’d have to train and a new boss that I (shocker) also was expected to train.
There is so much relief in being done. It’ll be harder for us financially but I’ll take a few tight years over working 6 am to 6 pm and being ignored.
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u/cityburbgirl Jan 23 '26
Same situation. The last straw was being berated for something they thought I didn’t do after a 72 hour work week. I’ve neglected my family for far too long. Good for you!
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u/eng2fly Jan 23 '26
I’m sorry you went through that too. There was a lot of clarity for me when I hit my last straw. I was also being setup to fail and I could see the writing on the wall. I’ve left them hanging on a huge project but I’m so glad that’s not going to be pinned on me anymore
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u/attractive_nuisanze Jan 23 '26 edited 25d ago
Mass delete Reddit posts and be just like me! I bulk removed this comment using Redact
relieved act fearless butter bow straight crawl include gold ghost
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u/Status_Rice_4007 Jan 23 '26
Congratulations - it’s a really tough decision to make but you should feel proud of it!! I was in a very similar situation and put my notice in in December, worked until the end of the year. It’s only been a few weeks of this “new” life but every single day I am happy about the decision I made. ENJOY IT!
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u/eng2fly Jan 23 '26
I am so glad to hear you are enjoying it. I’ve been working 6 am to 5 pm. They wanted me to train a new direct report and train my boss 😭
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u/glibly17 Jan 22 '26
Congratulations! I was/am in a similar boat - resigned and started a new job which I actually also just resigned from to pursue teaching. It’s been a rollercoaster but you know in your body and heart when it’s time to leave. It’s clear your former employer was treating you terribly and you deserve so much better. You and your family will benefit enormously and trust yourself to navigate this new chapter! You got this ❤️
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u/SunnyRyter Jan 23 '26
That's great! :) You know, you're right: it is a success! Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so happy for you and I wish you all the best! ❤️
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u/VacuumSealedFresh Jan 23 '26
As someone who did this same thing a year ago, I can tell you it is absolutely EXHILARATING!
Congratulations and go enjoy all the things they made you miss out on!!!
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u/TranquilTeal Jan 29 '26
Good for you. You saw the reality, set a boundary, and acted. That’s a win, even if it doesn’t feel light right now.
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u/Ornery_Advice_4142 Feb 14 '26
While im happy for you OP I think you could've considered staying on the job doing minimum or what you can realistically do and wait for them to fire you - that way you could've gotten severance potentially. If future employers ask you what happened you could've said truthfully that you had to do 4 people's job and it wouldn't have mattered if you were laid off.
I say this because sometimes companies do this expecting people to resign, and that way they dont have to pay severance.
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u/eng2fly Feb 14 '26
While some people can do that it’s not my style. I’m also no longer interested in engineering
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u/Decent_Camel8977 Jan 22 '26
Bravo!! Good luck to you mama.