r/stayathomemoms • u/Mother-Oven4872 • 9d ago
Discussion Quitting my part time job tomorrow. I have such mixed feelings about it.
I stopped working full time once we had our first child due to my husband's work schedule. He is a pilot and is home for 7 days and then gone for 7 days. I have been a police officer for almost 20 years (we are older parents) so when we decided to have kids, we decided for me to stay home and just work part time because working midnights/12 hour shifts/weekends/holidays just wasn't practical for child care while he was gone his 7 days working. I had no problem quitting working full time because I really do love being a SAHM but I also was grateful I still could do police work part time because I still love the job. Well recently I've realized the risk and liability is too much. I've been out of it full time almost 5 years now. One child is almost 5 and other child is 16 months. I was only working two shifts a month as I only work when my husband is home. Working two shifts and being out of it for so long makes me worry I will make a mistake because I'm not working a ton regularly. So I've decided just to be done. It makes me sad closing that chapter of my life because I am proud of my career and it makes me sad my kids won't see that side of me. I know it's the right decision but it's just a weird/sad feeling. Just looking for any solidarity for others who have been here. Thanks.
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u/No-Stuff1070 5d ago
Woah, you guys have COOL careers.
Keep your stories and share them with your kids when they’re older!
It’s always hard to close the door on your work. There are so many wonderful things attached to it - pride, independence, friendships, routine, and a break from the kids/being a mum just to name a few.
I hope you can find peace with your decision over time. 💛🙏🏼
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u/pinkandclass 8d ago
You should be so proud of yourself! What an amazing accomplishment and such a hard decision. You made the right decision for your family and no one else can tell you otherwise. You are closing a chapter to start a new one where your focus will be solely on being a wife and mom…..with one less thing to worry about! Enjoy the new journey into motherhood. I’m leaning that being a mom comes in so many different stages with new challenges of their own. Embrace it. You’ll be able to share with your kids how much time, emotion, heart, and discipline it took to be in law enforcement for 20 years. Mom did that! There is so much to learn from that.
I am getting ready to shut down my marketing business in the next few months and just focus on being a mom and a wife. Part of me is sad because I worked so hard for several years to be on tv, create crazy events, get clients insane growth, blah blah blah but it’s all on pause now and that’s okay. I told myself today how proud I am of myself to work as hard as I did and accomplish what I wanted to. I can look back and be happy with what I did knowing I set a good example for my kids that was built on dedication, determination, and always showing up for myself.