r/polyamorous • u/nightowlwalker • 7d ago
solo poly 36 nightshift worker
Has anyone had any experience in solo-poly as a night shifter worker? I’m not exactly looking for ons but more of a fwb, since a more traditional (nontrad) dating experience is difficult as a night shift worker unless I’m dating a night shift worker. Which I’ve found to be rare in the non-monogamous lifestyle. Let us discuss.
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u/DebutanteHarlot 7d ago
Not solo poly but my husband and I are both night shifters
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u/RurouniRinku 7d ago
Solo-poly? On night shift? I know I'm no Casanova, but I was basically a eunuch the entire decade I was worked nights. Completely ruined my social circles, fell off with most of my family, etc. I became an OTR trucker and had much better connections with people, despite being hundreds and even thousands of miles away, than I had when I was 30 minutes down the street, sleeping. Of course, that may vary for many people; I never adapted well to night shift.
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u/treymr 7d ago
I'm not solo poly, I'm (36M) married and my wife and I live together. I work nights 5 days a week (10pm to 6:30a) with Sun/Mons off, not into ons or fwb and still find time to hang w/ friends, a comet partner here and there, and still date when the opportunity arises (I'm demisexual, so opportunities are slim).
With that being said, it is tricky... it's been mainly brunch dates and hangouts, texting to keep in touch, and pretty much being flexible on my nights off (staying up longer during the day, napping at weird times to wake up and go out), taking advantage of PTO.