r/polyadvice • u/coleinis • 2d ago

Advice would be appreciated

Hi everyone,I am Cole (18M) :)

and I have recently realized that I am deeply craving a polyamorous relationship.

I genuinely want to experience having more than one partner, but I am feeling completely stuck on how to make this happen.

My biggest hurdle right now is that I really struggle to keep conversations going.

I get nervous, small talk feels awkward, and I don't know how to transition from chatting to actually dating.

I would love some realistic advice from experienced polyamorous folks:

-Where do you actually meet people? Are there specific apps or real-life events that work best?

-How do you keep conversations engaging when you are naturally shy or bad at small talk?

-For those who have multiple partners, how did you navigate finding them when starting out?

Any advice, book recommendations, or tips on how to put myself out there would be incredibly appreciated. Thank you!

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u/DebutanteHarlot 1d ago

You find them the way you find any other mono partners.

Wanting more than one partner is all well and good, but the biggest sign that you’re suited for a poly relationship is if you’re ok with your partners having more than one partner.

I met my husband on fb dating and met my gf through him (organically formed triad).