r/nakedandafraid • u/Nate_C_of_2003 • 4d ago
XL Dani S1
Dear. God. The way that whole group treated her towards the end of the challenge was AWFUL. They had all suddenly decided that she was useless and a leech when she LITERALLY WASN’T. If they felt like she was being handed everything, they should’ve told her how they felt instead of ganging up on her and acting like she didn’t deserve to stay.
I can’t say I’m surprised by Chris, Danielle, and Alana believing that since they treated past partners in the challenge poorly (although that still didn’t justify Chris’s gear being thrown in the water), but I was VERY disappointed with Laura, Eva, and Luke because they all seemed like genuinely nice people, so for them to just suddenly turn on one of their own just felt totally out of character for them.
Jeff and EJ aren’t free of blame either. I mean, yeah, you can say you empathize with someone all you want, but if you really empathized with her, you should’ve let her join your group (need I remind you that that is EXACTLY what you did with Shane?!). They may have been against her removal, but they should’ve let her stay with them, or at the very least, just said nothing. It felt like they only said they empathized with her just to feel better about themselves. Actions speak louder than words.
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u/Kenzi_Slays 4d ago
dani isnt a good person. she only does things as long as it benefits her. there was this one episode she was with fernando and all she did was weave baskets. she did nothing else. he said can you help me out? she said i made baskets to benfit both of us and he was like well we have no food to put in the baskets and id like help gathering fire wood instead of having baskets. on all her challenges she has the men tire themselves out and tap so she can reserve her energy and complete hers. same with alana.
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u/mudshark698 4d ago
I'm pretty sure OP is talking about Dani J. Dani B and Alana just straight up suck.
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u/Low_Account2285 4d ago
She is not talking about that Dani. At that time everyone was calling her Danielle.
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u/Nate_C_of_2003 4d ago
He is not talking about that Dani
FTFY
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u/Kenzi_Slays 4d ago
oh now i lnow which dani!!! okay so yeah hers my take, shes kind of odd, and she does lie quite a bit. she also goes on "walks" to avoid helping her teamates. i felt that way at first like i felt bad for her but then i saw that shes kinda manipulative
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u/Nate_C_of_2003 4d ago
Being introverted doesn’t mean you want to avoid people or groups, just that being around people or in a group for a long time is not as easy for you. I’m actually pretty introverted myself, and I have done well in group situations. Extroverts and introverts do sometimes have difficulty understanding each other, but your average extrovert wouldn’t be nearly as hostile to an introvert as that whole group was to Dani. They freaking HATED her.
And it wasn’t just the shitting on Dani that made this so infuriating—it was also three seemingly nice and caring people (Laura, Eva, and Luke) suddenly joining forces with the other three in their hatred for her. I feel like they did it mostly because none of them wanted to be exiled from the group, but for none of them to even consider standing up for her, it just really disappointed me.
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u/Kenzi_Slays 4d ago
first calm down its just a debate. she lied about her team mates. she made up a lie saying that they were "leaving her out" but she used it as an excuse to go on her walks so she didnt have to participate. if shes so introverted then why was she sad being "left out"? they tried to include her but shed always be gone. also once she saw the other teams camp she realized her current team wasnt suting her anymore so she made up drama so she could ditch them. shes good at manipulating soituations, she almost made me fall for it. making it clear not i dont agree with how they handled it. but she did need to be called out for it.
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u/Nate_C_of_2003 3d ago
Oh no I’m not heated with you, but I do disagree with some of the things you’re saying:
Even as an introvert, I sometimes feel left out. Hell, I went to a bar a few days ago just because I wanted to be around other people. We can absolutely feel that way.
And I don’t totally remember, but I’m pretty sure she’s the reason Laura and Eva even knew about Chris and Luke in the first place.
And sure, maybe she wasn’t very communicative about why she kept walking, but this just goes back to my earlier point of how the group should’ve told her how they felt instead of just automatically concluding she was acting maliciously.
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u/Kenzi_Slays 3d ago
i see what ur saying. from what i observed, she wasnt left out, she made it up so she didnt have to do any work and not be attatched to her group just in case she finds a better situation. its possible it started out as taking time to her self but once she realized she could use it as an excuse she just kept dissapearing. i never saw her help out. but no she wasnt malicious but she was not honest at all. it was a while ago since i seen the episode but was it laura that started the bullying?? personally i dont care for laura i, i think she can be pretty mean at times.
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u/hovermom 4d ago
It’s been a while on that one but I think I watched it twice plus her 21 day with a lousy partner. In my opinion, Dani likes to forage. And doesn’t like to sit around doing nothing. She’s a go-getter type personality and the others we’re mostly sitting around a lot
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u/Unsettled_addendum 4d ago
I felt bad about the way she felt, but she didn't even try to explain herself.
She was constantly brushing the others off and going out on her own for some 'me time', and that meant all of the chores etc fell to the others.
Her reluctance to be part of the group made the others resentful and hesitant to share with her.
Honestly, I think it's more production's fault with how she basically started out alone, whereas the others had their group and started forming instant bonds. It's like it really encouraged the whole feeling that she was not part of their group and was only there because she happened across them.
The way the show put everyone together felt like a failed social experiment. (Or maybe it was successful lol)
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u/Nate_C_of_2003 4d ago
I still feel like the group should’ve told her about how they felt instead of just gang up on her. She didn’t see them as a group of assholes, she saw them as her colleagues, so for them to all just gang up on her out of nowhere just felt like a kick to the stomach.
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u/Sweet_Information_76 4d ago
She was fine until until alana and veggie dani did her like did shane. Shane was lucky, jeff and EJ took him in. EJ has said many times he was going to ask her to join.. but she tapped that morning. Before they could ask her
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u/Nate_C_of_2003 4d ago
They should’ve let her join when she first walked up to them, but they said no. They didn’t know she would tap, but they could’ve prevented it.
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u/I_am_the_darkness_99 3d ago
Y'all remember she had just been through an unbelievable personal tragedy right before this XL filmed, right? Her roommate was brutally murdered in front of her by a gang of men who broke into their home.
I feel that she was entitled to take walks to get some space.
But she started alone because she got lost. Went the wrong way on the map. The others had to find each other too, but Dani went way out in the other direction.
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u/Low_Account2285 4d ago
There is 2 different Dani's and the Dani off of LOS was called Danielle. The brown haired Dani seamed to be a good person to me. But I was not there 24 hours a day for the entire challenge. I can not stand the blonde Dani she is a mean girl. She is a manipulative person.