r/monodatingpoly • u/Icy-Magazine5881 • 25d ago

Seeking Advice Boyfriend wants me to meet other boyfriend

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Hi I (m18) have been dating my boyfriend (tm18) for about a year now and I have known he's poly the whole time but we agreed to not talk about it very much as I didn't quite get it at the time but now I've accepted and am comfortable with him dating another man(tm) but recently he's been asking me to get to know the other boyfriend and I don't know how to go about it and any advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated

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u/Platterpussy Polyamorous 25d ago

Do you want to meet the other bf?

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u/Icy-Magazine5881 25d ago

Maybe, I don't know, like it could be interesting but what if it goes wrong?

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u/Platterpussy Polyamorous 25d ago

What would "going wrong" look like to you?

You can meet him for 5mins or an hour if you wanted, it doesn't have to be a big deal. It's also fine to say not yet or never.

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u/Icy-Magazine5881 25d ago

Like we meet and don't like each other and it makes my boyfriend upset, because he really wants us to get along

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u/Platterpussy Polyamorous 25d ago

You are sounding quite young. Your bf should know that there is a chance you don't get along and don't want to be around each other, that's just how things go sometimes. Do you think he knows that? Do you feel that your bf not being upset is more important than you not being upset?

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u/Icy-Magazine5881 25d ago

I think he knows that, I just want all of us to get along so everyone is happy

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u/Platterpussy Polyamorous 25d ago

Everyone can still be happy if you don't get along.

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u/Icy-Magazine5881 25d ago

I think I should to try and put all of my past jealousy behind me

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u/Platterpussy Polyamorous 25d ago

Why? What were you jealous of?

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u/Icy-Magazine5881 25d ago

I was just a dumb teenager who was jealous of not being the only boyfriend

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u/Platterpussy Polyamorous 25d ago

Yeah that one you can let go of. You decided to continue your relationship not being the only bf.

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u/Icy-Magazine5881 25d ago

Yeah, plus he's done a lot to make me feel wanted and we've progressed further than the other boyfriend

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