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[u/Filipino-Asker]

[u/vivrant-thang]

babe, you cant live your life interpreting everything based off the actions of the worst people in the world.

[u/AllsWellThatsNB → u/vivrant-thang]

Who says I am? I judge them by their own actions.

Typically, when a stranger makes a sexist comment, it's reasonable to dismiss them. It's not any less pathetic because she's queer.

[u/vivrant-thang → u/AllsWellThatsNB]

assuming someone who is very clearly joking is a TERF because of experiences you've had with unrelated TERFs is what I am saying is the problem. She's kidding and it doesn't matter if some other asshole is being hateful... you dont get to take her joke as face value because others have been hateful.

And, you are rebutting with something entirely different. If an individual says something racist, dimiss them. That makes sense! But if someone tells the same joke as a racist, but has otherwise not been racist, you dont declare the joke racist too.

[u/AllsWellThatsNB → u/vivrant-thang]

I don't know her. I don't have any reason to think she's joking.

Plus I don't have a lot of tolerance for "I'm just being edgy" or "I'm just venting" sexist jokes. More often than not, they're not joking, just telling on themselves.

Ironic sexists and casual sexists have a fundamental problem... to people who don't know how much they don't mean the things they're sayings... they're just being sexist.

[u/Own_Jacket8720 → u/AllsWellThatsNB]

you literally dont need to know her. she's crying talking about men with buns, thats all the info you need if you have a brain to know shes joking

[u/vivrant-thang → u/AllsWellThatsNB]

I don't know her. I don't have any reason to think she's joking.

well that gets back to my initial point, you cannot spend your whole life assuming the worst of everyone you interact with because some people are awful. you dont know her, so why assume she's bad? why not just assume she's joking? it's not even an edgy joke... its pretty tame queer humor.

[u/AllsWellThatsNB → u/vivrant-thang]

I'm doing one better than assuming anything. I'm letting her words do the talking.

As I've explained before, I'm just sick of sexism. If you need to use sexism to be funny, you're not funny, just sexist.

I mean, do you really think gender nonconforming men really need their appearances policed more? And by allies?

It's just the same basic ass sexism I've heard my whole life.

It's not tame, just pathetic. Have some standards.

[u/vivrant-thang → u/AllsWellThatsNB]

if a joke about a man bun is the sexism that plagues your life than you probably have a lot better than 99% of us.

[u/PocketButterBandit → u/AllsWellThatsNB]

What kinda springy ass shoes do you wear to jump to that conclusion.

[u/AllsWellThatsNB → u/[deleted]]

Reported and blocked.