Feeling a little defeated

[u/kittycouture5683]

Hey girls, I dont really have any one else who understands that I can rant to so please forgive me for doing it here but I walked in to work this morning and my boss came over and gave his greeting than asked if I did anything this weekend. I had a super bad flare and so I just had to be bedridden. I told him I didnt do much and he gave me such a funky look and said "jeez. You're 23 and youre doing absolutely nothing with your life. Just gonna waste away huh" and ive been crying ever since. Its just so fucking frustrating. Like I dont want to be this way. I don't want to be in agonizing pain every second of every day constantly nauseous with leg pain that makes them go numb and I cant walk. I dont want to have to be in bed throughout the whole weekend or cancel plans because I can't get out of bed but thats what this disease has done to me. Even the surgery didnt help much. And he isnt even the first person to have said something along the lines of that to me. It makes me feel so fucking worthless all of the time. And even if I didnt have a chronic disease and just wanted to spend my time in the house, who cares? Why say that to anyone? Ugh

[u/Gilded-golden]

He sounds like a massive loser who wants to know all about people’s personal lives at work. Also, like he just doesn’t know how to have a good conversation and relies on other people telling good stories to make the effort for him.

When I’m at work I would say the exact same thing about my weekend even if I’d spent the entire time skydiving lol, it’s literally none of his business at all. Maybe he was mean because he suspected you of doing the exact same thing and doesn’t like women setting boundaries around personal life/work life with him, and feels entitled to you sucking up to him 

Also, people’s judgments always tell you more about them than yourself; clearly he feels unhappy in his job and that he’d be “doing absolutely nothing” with his own life if it weren’t for his drinking weekends or whatever 

[u/Yo-perreo-sola → u/Gilded-golden]

This, absolutely. And I have also found that middle aged middle managers vicariously and parasocially live though young employees' lives as a source of entertainment. There is nothing going on in their lives which is why they are nosy about young people. It is disturbing how much some of these people want coworkers to be a sitcom character for entertainment. They get angry when people don't share any fun stories from their lives.