r/breakingmom • u/bookish0378 • 10h ago
in crisis šØ Growing concern over daycare
Our son started in March at a long standing daycare with a good reputation in our area. My son is now 8 months old. He started in the ābaby 1ā room and will be moving to ābaby 2ā next week.
He had two teachers which made the ratio 1:4 which is state law. Found out three weeks ago one teacher was moving out of state, they quickly hired a new teacher.
We noticed the week before Memorial Day that the veteran teacher seemed to be the only person at pick up and drop off times. On Friday before Memorial Day weekend my husband went to pick up our son and the veteran teacher was alone in the room with the babies and crying. She informed him that she had just been told by management that they were moving her to a toddler room (she had been in that baby room for two years) and keeping the new hire in the baby room. This was happening because they were apparently not getting along?
After Memorial Day, last week, things have fallen apart fast. And my husband and I are growing concerned.
Day after Memorial Day there was a new teacher in the room. New hire nowhere to be seen. So if youāre following this is a third NEW face to us and my son since March and in the last two weeks. Zero communication from management on what is happening and who this third teacher is and where the new hire is.
Our son has always consumed 4, 4 oz bottles of breast milk plus a purƩe. Suddenly he is only eating three, 3 oz bottles. They were sending an unconsumed bottle home each day last week. They have a policy where any milk not consumed in a feeding needs to be dumped. So 3 oz has been going down the drain.
On Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday all babies were screaming in the room at pick up. Including our son. I could tell he was way over stimulated when we got him in the car those days which is not his normal self. Tears streaming down his face and face bright red. Before last week my husband and I always noted how quiet and happy the babies were at the end of the day. The difference is jarring.
On Friday my husband picked up our son and asked this teacher if she was all alone with 8 babiesā¦. She looked panicked and answered no. We think this is a lie. My husband noted there was poop stains on the outside of our sonās clothing when we got him home, we took pictures. We have no idea how long our son sat in soiled clothes.
Ok so fuck Iām typing all this out and think we need to call the daycare. Am I overreacting? Last night I couldnāt sleep from intrusive thoughts of his safety being jeopardized and being anxious about sending him today.
My husband wants to give it another day or two to see if anything changes but I donāt know.
I know our son is moving to another room next week but Iām concerned this is an internal problem and maybe not a room issue.
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u/DrMamaBear 9h ago
You are no overreacting. Absolutely go with your gut. Start looking at alternatives now. Raise it with the daycare too but it sounds like you need to find somewhere new. You may also need to report them if they are not at ratio. Iāve been there OP and Iām so glad we moved when we did. Itās difficult though so take care of yourself.