r/Salsa • u/HorseElectronic3477 • 9d ago

Skill level

I am convinced, and I will die on this hill, that the number, quality and frequency of strangers coming to ask you out for a dance is a strong solid indicator of how good you are at dancing.

I do not mean a random ask. I mean where strangers search for, will wait and beeline for you.

For example, the fact I rarely get asked by strangers (when they do it is a random ask) and I only dance with people I know, is a clear indication that my dance is lucking.

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u/Resident_Pay4310 9d ago

Yep.

I'm on the heavier side (follower) and often have to be the one to ask.

The amount of times I've seen leaders begrudgingly accept only to realise during the dance that I'm actually very good.

I always enjoy the wide eyed look they have at the end of the dance where they then ask me my name.

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u/Own_Affect_7931 8d ago

As a 6'3" white guy I get this same look from Latin women that don't know me, lol.

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u/Resident_Pay4310 8d ago

Really? Haha.

Are they assuming white men can't dance?

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u/Own_Affect_7931 8d ago

LOL, I think so. I'm pretty well known in my salsa scene now, so I rarely get this anymore (usually at congresses or out of towners), but it's always funny to me when I do. The grudging, skeptical acceptance, then the pleasantly shocked look, then the "...okay!" expression.