r/Salsa • u/HorseElectronic3477 • 9d ago

Skill level

I am convinced, and I will die on this hill, that the number, quality and frequency of strangers coming to ask you out for a dance is a strong solid indicator of how good you are at dancing.

I do not mean a random ask. I mean where strangers search for, will wait and beeline for you.

For example, the fact I rarely get asked by strangers (when they do it is a random ask) and I only dance with people I know, is a clear indication that my dance is lucking.

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u/Middle-Fuel-6402 9d ago

On the socials I’ve been, attractive women seem to get invited more. There’s often a girl in her 20s that’s literally never had a class in her life and men will go after her and happily and patiently teach her stuff on the dance floor. (I’m not approving of this, just sharing observations)

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u/calanthean 9d ago

This. 1000x this. Age and looks matter more than most care to admit.

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u/Resident_Pay4310 9d ago

Yep.

I'm on the heavier side (follower) and often have to be the one to ask.

The amount of times I've seen leaders begrudgingly accept only to realise during the dance that I'm actually very good.

I always enjoy the wide eyed look they have at the end of the dance where they then ask me my name.

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u/WestHistorians 8d ago

Are you smiling? Dressed nice? I have found that heavier followers often don't dress well and that may be a factor.

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u/Resident_Pay4310 8d ago

A+ on the assumptions there.

Also please reflect on the fact that you essential just said "if you were prettier people would dance with you more"

You proved my point that looks mater more than ability.

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u/WestHistorians 8d ago

Also please reflect on the fact that you essential just said "if you were prettier people would dance with you more"

I said smiling and dressed nice. I said nothing about "pretty", you brought that up, so it's you that is making assumptions here.