r/Salsa • u/HorseElectronic3477 • 9d ago

Skill level

I am convinced, and I will die on this hill, that the number, quality and frequency of strangers coming to ask you out for a dance is a strong solid indicator of how good you are at dancing.

I do not mean a random ask. I mean where strangers search for, will wait and beeline for you.

For example, the fact I rarely get asked by strangers (when they do it is a random ask) and I only dance with people I know, is a clear indication that my dance is lucking.

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u/Middle-Fuel-6402 9d ago

On the socials I’ve been, attractive women seem to get invited more. There’s often a girl in her 20s that’s literally never had a class in her life and men will go after her and happily and patiently teach her stuff on the dance floor. (I’m not approving of this, just sharing observations)

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u/calanthean 9d ago

This. 1000x this. Age and looks matter more than most care to admit.

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u/Resident_Pay4310 9d ago

Yep.

I'm on the heavier side (follower) and often have to be the one to ask.

The amount of times I've seen leaders begrudgingly accept only to realise during the dance that I'm actually very good.

I always enjoy the wide eyed look they have at the end of the dance where they then ask me my name.

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u/No-Cry8182 9d ago

Girl SAME and it is SO frustrating. The worst is when those same guys walk right up to me and a thinner friend who has much less experience than me, ask her to dance, and pretend I’m not even there.

So satisfying when I ask them to dance later and absolutely blow their minds.

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u/TheNewYorkRhymes 8d ago

As a guy. I always ask any woman, even in groups, who is willing, then see skill. A good additude or skill will always have my vote over pretty

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u/kuschelig69 8d ago

Conversely, it is also frustrating as a leader when we ask a heavy follower to dance and then get rejected