Hi, I posted last week about issues with my feeding pump at work and my manager sending a passive-aggressive email about “disruptions.” HR got involved and were actually supportive, they confirmed my medical accommodation is valid and basically said I’m not doing anything wrong. They said they’d talk to my manager and everything was fine until today.

I thought that would be the end of it, honestly, but now there’s been another development and I feel kind of embarrassed and unsure if I should escalate again or just drop it and stop being so over dramatic about the whole thing.

Since the first issue, my manager has still been acting off. He’s made a few comments about me stepping away and once even asked me to explain how my feeding pump works, which felt a bit condescending but I tried to brush it off. It wasn’t anything overtly rude and I could work around it so I didn’t care all that much.

Then today he sent another email directly to me. I attached it so everybody can read without me having to explain.

It felt weird and just like he was crossing a boundary. Like he’s acknowledging I’m allowed to have the accommodation but also kind of implying I shouldn’t be using it in a way that affects anyone else at all, which it isn’t and my coworkers have reassured me they aren’t bothered and don’t care in the slightest.

HR already said everything is fine on their end, so now I don’t know if I’m just being too sensitive or if this is actually still worth bringing back up again. I don’t want to create any drama or risk my job because this truly is a job i enjoy, but I just feel kind of awkward and singled out at this point and I’m unsure if escalating to HR again is the right decision.

Edit 1: to clarify it is NOT a breastfeeding pump 😭 I need a feeding pump which is a tube going right into my stomach to feed me. It has to be connected 20hrs a day

I (22F) have been babysitting for a family every weekday morning for an hour. I take care of two kids, get them ready, and drop them off at school using Uber. I charge $16/hour and I’ve often stayed a bit longer without charging extra.

Recently the mom asked if I could babysit from 7:30 AM to 3:30 PM during the kid's break. I said I'd be more than happy, she asked about the rate and I said my rate would stay the same, $16/hour.

She said we should talk a flat rate for the entire day instead. I suggested that since it’s about 8 hours I could do the whole day for $115. She immediately said I was taking advantage of the situation and said she would only pay $50 for the entire day .When I said that doesn’t work for me she started yelling and said I was greedy, along with some really harsh personal comments about my appearance that felt completely unnecessary.

I told her I wouldn’t be continuing at all, quit on the spot, and left. Since then, she has been constantly texting me saying I’m unprofessional and that I didn’t give them any notice to find someone else among other things. I told her I won’t be returning.

Am I overreacting for quitting and refusing to go back?

Edit: Thank you to everyone who responded, I really appreciate it. I just wanted to clarify that I know quitting was the right decision. What I was unsure about is whether I overreacted by quitting on the spot and leaving them without childcare or any time to figure something out. I saw a few comments saying it was obvious which I understand. I also want to clarify that where I’m from minimum wage is $16/hour. At the time I was desperate and without a job so I based my rate on that and never increased it for them. Since then I’ve done occasional babysitting for others and now charge $18.50/hour

So to preface, I'm Type 1 diabetic, which means I have to take multiple daily insulin injections to live. I typically take 5-8 shots per day, and while it isn't fun, it is routine and necessary.

I was at work this morning and they had a small amount of food out for some sort of 'employee appreciation' which reminded me I hadn't had any insulin yet and my glucose levels were getting too high. I took a shot of insulin, got some breakfast, and went to my desk. A few minutes later, this text arrives.

I can understand that shots make some people uncomfortable. Trust me, I'm one of those people. But I have to take them anyway. Am I overreacting to think that if you don't want to see me talking a shot, you can turn your head? Should I have to go to the bathroom which only gets cleaned twice a week, and take my shots in secret like it's a drug addiction? Perhaps it is just me, but I feel that not everything in life that makes us a little uncomfortable is something that has to be pushed out of sight. Sometimes we would benefit more from understanding, acceptance, and perhaps acclimation.

Also for the record, while they say they "mentioned this several times", our HR manager scolded me once maybe two or three years ago publicly during lunch in our cafeteria. I ignored it that time, because friends sitting around me supported me after HR walked off.

I recently relocated from the South to the North, and this is my first winter here. Unfortunately, I was unaware that the side streets in my area are not plowed until later in the day. During this storm, we received approximately 10 inches of snow.

I was informed that I needed to remain at work in order to be present for my next morning shift. I communicated at that time that I have pets at home who rely on me, and that with the storm approaching there was a possibility I could become stranded at work. I made multiple attempts to secure alternative care for my pets but was unable to find anyone available.

I had only been in this supervisor role for one month, and another supervisor was already staying overnight as a precaution. Ultimately, I was unable to get my car out of the street and had to call out. I was written up for this because I notified management approximately five hours before my shift.

When I returned for my next shift, I found a note on my desk. The note was upsetting and made me feel unwelcome. Given that I had only been employed here for one month and have already received one write-up for minor issues—something I have never experienced in my work history—I went home that night and emailed my boss I quit for XYZ and she replied happy holidays and that was it. My parents said it was an over reaction to quit because of her note and she probably meant well by it, but I don’t think anything could’ve been taken well by the note that was left.

EDIT because i confused everyone... This was a hotel job. I am NOT working on a farm. And I already had another job!

UPDATE: WOW. I was not expecting this many interactions. Thank you all for the advice! I have a salon lined up to visit Thursday. My coworker that wants to switch with me is gonna ask her at some point if she can switch with someone who works that Saturday, because I feel as though if she mentions me specifically she will shut her down and think that we’re going behind her back. Also, previous to this request, I did have 3/12-3/16 off for my birthday, then 3/18 and 3/19, for my birthday. I accrued PTO and used them for those days. And our requests are “no more than 2 in a 30 day period” which was always spelled out to me as no more than 2 in a month? So maybe that’s it. But also, she allowed a shift switch 3/11 so she can’t be going by that logic. Along with that, I switched shifts with her to help her out at the end of February. Plus, a shift switch wouldn’t be considered a “request”, right? Still working, just different day than scheduled. I don’t know. I don’t want to be here much longer and I plan on calling off if she decides to not let my coworker and I switch. She brought it to this point.

So my current manager almost always gives me a hard time with requests, saying “I can’t guarantee anything” and only saying yes the very last minute. With this specific situation, I had requested almost 4 weeks in advance to just have one of my days off be this day. I would still be working my five days in a work week, but since I work at a hair salon we’re open seven days a week so it would literally not change my hours whatsoever. Unfortunately, she did not give me that day off. My manager put herself working for that entire weekend; me and one person on the Saturday I requested, then my other three coworkers that Sunday since Sundays are typically busier. She had told me a while ago that she feels as though it is “going behind her back to make plans without her permission” if I ask a coworker if they’re okay with switching before I ask her. Well, even if they were okay with it, I get turned down. Not sure why, since both shifts would be covered. So, I end up asking my coworker out of curiosity if they would have taken my shift and they said yes, but since she already told me no I quite literally can’t. And I’m not sure if her response means that I will get in trouble for calling off using my PTO as a “sick day” or not? I’m really irritated. How am I supposed to plan my life out if requests aren’t guaranteed and I’m not allowed to switch shifts with people. It literally makes no sense. I really want to call off but I don’t want to get in trouble, even though I never call off. In the 2 and a half years of working there I’ve called off 4 times, all for legitimate reasons too. Sick or car issues. Am I overreacting about this situation? Is it legitimate that she is telling me no to both things? This and other instances of her being weird about certain social situations makes me want to quit, it’s just hard because I love everything else about this job.

my boss (M late twenties) sent this to a shared work chat. He's the only man on our team, but that never stopped him from making all sorts of sexist comments.

• When my colleagues and I talked about our health (obviously not with him), he rolled his eyes at the words "you women always have problems."
• There have also been repeated comments about how emotional women are, how mercantile they are, and how unpleasantly they change during marriage.

We ignored it because in my country, the EC does not decide anything and we have no one to turn to with this issue.

If he had phrased it differently or said it personally to the girl whose tampons they were, it wouldn't have caused such a storm of emotions. But the way he did it made me get into a fight with him.

When asked why unused tampons in the toilet could be unhygienic, he never answered.

So, am I overreacting?

I'm not going to make my case or explain why I think it's unwise because I want your sincere perspectives without me trying to convince you.

My husband is an insurance underwriter who works from home. In the past he's faced criticism for being condescending in his interactions with agents. Some of this criticism is valid and much is the product of agents not liking being told "No" by someone responsible for making decisions that shield our company from undue risk.

I happened to walk by and see an email he was starting. He was telling an agent that an exception would not be possible. It started something like:

Look, The protection class on this risk is poor..." (That's not the exact sentence but you get the idea.)

I said, "Oh, that's not a good way to start a sentence. It sounds condescending."

He was pretty irritated at me. He thinks it's a neutral introduction word and without it, it's rude because it's abrupt. He feels like he's criticized no matter how he phrases things. I worry that he can miss subtle social perceptions possible with the lack of tone that comes in written communication.

He doesn't have a problem with me expressing opinions about work btw. He just disagrees.

AIO to point this perspective out?

Edited to add:

I've gotten hundreds of valuable responses and I basically spent all day reading and responded as much as possible.

A few points further:

We both work at this company and regularly rely on each other's expertise. From his perspective there was zero issue with this being "unsolicited advice". He just disagreed and I posted because I wanted to check my perspective on the phrasing.

We've since had a civil discussion and he's acknowledged the issue. He was irritated in the moment because he didn't see it that way. Yes, he deleted the word because he trusted my judgement.

Several people have suggested I butt out, mind my own business and let him face the consequences of his actions. They suggested I "know my place."

The answer to that is: "No."

He's been written up in the past over agent complaints about the issue. He's been denied promotions. He's actively working on rebuilding his reputation with management.

If he loses his job because of this, I'll face the consequences too. In our wedding vows we pledged to shore up each other's weaknesses. He's done that for me countless times and we both take each other's advice very seriously.

I know my place. I'll never just let him fail so I can say "I told you so" while we face financial ruin. I'll always speak up truthfully and help him respectfully. Thanks but no thanks for that advice reddit.

Edit 2: No he won't use AI. Look, everything you put into AI becomes accessible to the people who own it. (haha see what I did there?) He explains internal procedures that are proprietary and discusses customers private information. Other insurance companies are always trying to find data on the policies of competitors and underwriter guidelines are a big piece of that strategy. They aren't allowed to feed emails into AI.

For context, I work in disability support. I love my job. I hate being called 6 times on my days off. I’m part time- relief. When I have a day off I feel stressed all morning because there’s a 60% chance I’m going to be called to cover a shift between the hours of 6.30am and 9am. When I tell them I can’t work the shift they guilt me, even suggesting that I cancels appointments to come to the shift. If I can’t work the shift they want me to do they ring my supervisor and she calls me to “discuss” why I can’t pick up the shift. It seems so disrespectful and honestly im so tired of it. Anyways, is this normal or am I overreacting?

Okay this may seem like some sort of rage bait or something but I’m making this post at 7:49 AM I clock in to work at 8. To give context I work for one of the largest collision repair shops in my area and before I moved to this current shop I was the only black guy at my last shop. There were a lot of racist jokes but I’m not a sensitive guy and being that I was new I went along with it but at what point has a racist joke gone too far? Because this seems too far the sad part is I’m just trying flourish at work and that’s it I don’t wanna cause any waves that could affect my career I’m at a lost trying to figure out how to handle this

The photo on the left is the finished result. The photo on the right is my inspiration picture. Yesterday, I went to a salon after explaining that I wanted to go from black box dye to a bronde color. I had a consultation where the stylist told me this would be possible in three sessions and that the total cost would be $638.

I returned for the first appointment, which was a color removal test. After it was completed, my hair was still the same color and did not lift well. The stylist did not explain that this result meant the color might be unachievable. I paid $108 plus a $100 deposit, believing this amount would be applied toward the original $638 total.

I then returned for the main appointment, which was supposed to be the actual bleaching session. Despite the first color removal test not working, she performed another color removal test, which again did nothing. Once again, there was no communication that this indicated a problem or that my desired result might not be achievable.

She proceeded to bleach my hair, and the final result was dark brown with orange highlights. This was not what I asked for, and I was confused because I was never told that my desired color wasn’t possible. I was then told that I would need to return in 6–8 weeks for another appointment if I wanted the color I originally planned to get.

Despite all of this, I was still required to pay. While paying, I was told that this single appointment alone cost $610, even though I was originally told the entire process would cost $638. I felt angry and confused by this sudden change in pricing.

When I attempted to address the situation, the salon owner refused to help and blocked me on Instagram. This has now become a potential legal matter.

I also want to note that I am a minor and currently in high school, and the stylist was aware of this. I feel that I was taken advantage of financially, especially since I paid in large bills and appeared able to spend money. I believe she knew this result was not achievable, failed to communicate that honestly, and continued to push additional appointments and charges.

If you are a hairstylist or knowledgeable about hair services, I would appreciate your honest opinion on whether I was misled or treated unfairly in this situation.

Not much of a backstory here but here a few details that may help with the story. This client reached out to me after an appointment she received with me. She’s been a consistent client of mine now for nearly 2 years and has never once reached out after a session until now.

Obviously she’s going through something with her husband but that isn’t my problem and in my opinion, it’s inappropriate for her to reach out and talk to me the way she did.

Am I overreacting here or could I have been a little nicer?

I've always worked in the hospitality/food service industry as a second job for around 16 years. The hours aren't the best, but the cash is good and the co-workers are usually even better. It's a sense of community like no other. Now I've worked in different positions in FOH in both corporate/chain restaurants, as well as dive bars/private "mom and pop" restaurants and bars.

I have never in my time in the service industry had an issue with a customer where the owner, manager, or whoever was in charge did not speak to that customer nor the employee involved to collect facts when it has come down to a customer complaint. They then make a decision on if a reprimand is warranted towards the employee or if the customer was incorrect. Not every employee is right, just like every customer is not always right.

I started working as a bartender/server for a friend of a friend (we will call him C) within the last year. I had not been working a second job for a few months due to starting a new full-time career and needing to work out the scheduling issues. When I had extra time during evenings and weekends, I started looking online for any new local businesses opening up.

I came across C's post stating that he was opening up a new restaurant/bar locally and he was looking for staff. I reached out to C, had an interview with him, his wife (who's a silent partner), and a third business partner (We'll call him J), and boom, was hired and have been there for the last 10 months. I worked crazy hours in the beginning because it was a new restaurant in a busy town in the middle of the summer season. Also, their mentality was to keep the staff small, as it was a pooled house, and they wanted everyone to be able to make money and be content with the shifts. Makes sense. Eventually the staff grew and I didn't need to be there as much/for such long hours which worked out to my advantage overall. I ultimately got to pick and choose my shifts and worked alongside my full time schedule. Everything had been going smoothly.

I've never really had any issues with customers even in corporate places, until I started working for C & J. C gets very flustered with customers, especially the entitled ones who seat themselves, and J has a no-nonsense mouth on him, but he also hits on every female that walks through that door. I've just learned to navigate around that. But I have noted a shift in the clientele since November. I've had 3 issues in the last 8 months with what I consider "difficult customers." One ordered an Old Fashion and got pissed off I didn't ask him what kind of Whiskey he wanted it made with (Hint: they're made with Bourbon, and we only have one in house) and the other was months later when a group of fresh faced 21-year-old's got a little mouthy when their multi-step dessert martinis took a little too long to come out. After one of them cursed at their server near the service bar where I was working that shift, I interjected and I refused to serve the entirety of the group. We got a manager and another bartender to speak with them, and went about my business. We eventually asked them to sit at a completely different table and they could get served, one round only, and then they were asked to leave.

No one has written a review about me before, but these previous situations, I have always brought to the attention of the manager on shift. I'd rather rat myself out and express what happened before a keyboard warrior gets home and starts to stir the pot. Each and every single instance, I was told by C (the one who makes the schedule and does the hiring) that he "really didn't want to be having this conversation" with me, that "I know better", and that "it doesn't matter" what my side of the story was, as "we are in the hospitality business and guest satisfaction is everything." I do get that, but I've never, in my experience, couldn't bring my concerns or frustrations to an employer and as them to assist me with a difficult situation, and be told that it's my fault and not even a concern of theirs. We all have bad days and bartenders are the face of the establishment. I absolutely get that. You have to be on your A-game, and if I didn't think that I was, I would mostly likely an excuse to go to the walk-in and take a deep breath before going back out on the floor and pretending like nothing ever happened.

Fast forward to yesterday. A group of women showed up after what appeared to be a very boozy brunch reservation across the street. It's a holiday weekend, the bar is packed and we're already understaffed. While trying to take the food orders from two separate couples on either side of them, these girls flagged me down (one of them waving their hand in the air/over the bar as if I was not literally a foot away from them and made eye contact prior). They ordered in an extremely broken and disjointed way. At first when I asked what they wanted, I got blank stares and generally ignored, but then eventually, one by one they ordered. Then they were arguing with who was paying for what and some were not clear one what they wanted to drink off the menu, so they were taking a significant time to decide. I was totally fine with that, as I had other customers I needed to speak to. Did a round on the floor, made sure everyone was okay, and eventually those girls all ordered and got their drinks. They all turned their backs from the bar and started talking amongst themselves after they were served. I tried to get their attention to see if I was running a tab (needed to collect a card if so) or how they were paying (either together or separately/individually with card or cash).

I tried getting their attention, not once, but twice, and I heard one of them mutter under her breath, “Omg...I’m over 40 years old, I don’t need to be asked multiple times how I’m going to pay for a cocktail.”

I'm not trying to be difficult; I'm just trying to figure out if I'm putting a card on file or not. They all close out individually, no tips, and they move to stand in the middle of the dinning room area all talking. I go about serving my other customers without a second thought.

About an hour or two later, J, who was also acting manager at the time, pulls me aside and shows me a screenshot of a review one of the ladies wrote about me. (For anyone curious, when you own a business on google, it sends the review to the owners email & their google account for review and access. There's usually a slight delay before they go live I believe).

They either did it while still in the restaurant or did it on their way out. It hasn’t posted on google yet (last I check), but the summary of it was that I wasn’t nice. They “weren’t sure if I was having a bad day, but $18 for a Dirty Shirley and no niceness” really put a damper on their weekend. It was short, sweet, to the point.

I explained everything to J from my perspective and how I felt the interaction went. The other bartender also explained his side of the story, as he had a run in with them at the other end of the bar when they tried to order another round. He said along the same lines of what I did, which was: they were drunk, not really aware of how busy we were and taking that long to order was time consuming, and despite the fact that they were slightly standoffish, we were just doing our jobs by asking how they’re paying. There was no emotion to it. It wasn't that deep. J said he understood and even spoke to the two couples that were next to the group ladies, both of whom sided with me and said I did nothing wrong. However, I was still sent me home mid-shift as I was pending a “performance review” with C. I was promised a conversation would be had.

I even had my other customers asking me what was going on as I was gathering my stuff, but I brushed it off and didn't think anything of it at the time.

Now mind you, there have been other bartenders in this restaurant who have made customers run to the bathroom and cry. Some have had multiple poor reviews about them written. Also, if you look at the reviews of the other restaurant that C owns/manages, he has more 1-star reviews about how he speaks to people and his attitude than any of his other employees combined. This was my fist written issue.

I got a notification today that my next scheduled shift was available for other staff for pick up and when I went to look, I realized that I was kicked off the scheduling app entirely. About ten minutes later I get the following text messages (attached).

So, AIO?

I think I expressed myself appropriately, but this is the first time in my life that I have been fired from any position, food service/hospitality or otherwise, and I feel like it was not justified.

For context: My coworker (M, over 40) is nightcrew so I (F19) only see him when I open on the weekends for 1-3 hours. We don’t work together since I’m a regular clerk, but we’ve been talking for some time and have a regular coworker relationship.

On Sunday he asked me for my number to “keep in contact and see how far I’ll go with my major.” I said sure and didn’t find it odd. I didn’t expect him to text me at all so him starting to tect me that same day made me uncomfortable. So much so I didn’t had an appetite to eat my breakfast burrito.

He continues to text me everyday since, but especially today (Tuesday). He started at 11:30ish am and has continued to send a text for every hour till 10pm. Since the start of all of this I’ve been feeling uncomfortable.

Technically I’m not underage and he hasn’t necessarily said nor did anything wrong, am I overreacting?

For context, I did a work-trade for this woman this summer where she let me stay in her spare one-bedroom cabin on her property in exchange for 10+ hours a week of work. I was there for 3 months. When I moved in, she had a thing of TP on the roll, and then a dozen rolls under the bathroom sink which she pointed to, saying “there’s extra under here if you need”. I noticed she had a HUGE Costco-sized pack of tp in her garage, which I never touched. Once I used the ones under the sink, I bought my own, never taking from her supply. As for the trash, I had a couple bags that I took out to the trash toter. I didn’t leave any trash inside, and liberally cleaned the space before I left. She was super friendly and we got along great. My partner stayed with me the last few days we were there (which she okay’d in advance). Again, we all got along really well, so this text shook me.

My question is - what is this behavior? Is she….okay? Why would she say such hurtful things? I moved out over a month ago, and we’ve had nice texts back and forth since then. Name and town redacted for discretion. Thanks for reading!

After 2 years of loyal service while in school I thought I had the perfect gig. $400 a week to walk 2 German Shepard and occasionally house sit for an older married couple. They wanted the dogs walked at between 5-7am at least 3 days a week, in the last couple of months they randomly would request more days or immediate service which I accommodated as it was early enough to not be an issue. Recently I stayed at their house for 16 days straight with the dogs because the money was good… they asked me to stay again this weekend over a month ago but I just started a new job which I worked hard to get and this was their response to not being flexible ONE TIME.. I never said I couldn’t do it I just said I also had work the same days so I wouldn’t be there 24/7 but could still do the job and this was the wife’s response!! I’m lost and baffled that after so much dedication and loyalty I was met with this response so please analyze and let me know if I’m the A Hole

For context I manage a Hair & Makeup freelance business. I do all client communications, payroll, book additional artists for larger jobs when we need extra hands, etc. I am also a makeup artist so I work on clients as well. The owner of the company (we will call him Bill) is also a makeup artist and hair stylist. I get a base pay each week to run the business and when I do clients I get paid for each of them. But he does most of the clients since he also does hair and has a lot of regulars for cuts, colors etc.

Bill has a trip planned to go out of the country to visit family for 2 weeks. This trip has been planned for several months. Bill is the type of person who gets very anxious and spirals, creates issues in his head that haven’t even begun etc. I talk him down off of ledges often. He is a workaholic and will literally say yes to every single client, even if we don’t necessarily have space in our schedule for them. But at the same time, he will complain about how he’s always working and never has time off or time to himself. He will have complete meltdowns over how exhausted he is. Even though he’s the cause of his own exhaustion.

He has been worried about not having income during the time he is gone. He mentioned maybe a few weeks ago that maybe he should take the work phone with him and handle client communication while he is gone so he doesn’t have to pay me since he won’t have income during those 2 weeks. I told him I didn’t think that was necessary and if money became an issue we would figure it out. It’s something that has happened during times when business was slow and we figured it out. We have been posting on social media about him being out of town, but that I will still be here to take clients. However it’s Summer, kids are getting out of school, people are going on vacation. So things are generally slow for us in June/July.

So he sends me this text a couple days ago. Am I wrong for being upset by this? No clear conversation with a conclusion was ever had about this. Then the fact that he tries to say that *I* never brought it back up?! It’s not my trip nor my responsibility to since this was his concern. Mentioning that we should have posted about him being out of town more literally is irrelevant. It doesn’t hurt or help. It just makes people aware that he isn’t available.

I was under the impression it would be business as usual on my end. It’s truly not even about the money. It’s about the way this has been handled and lack of concern for my personal finances and overall lack of accountability. I’m really just disgusted and frustrated by this. So AIO?

I didn't respond because i was speechless. What an incredibly weird thing to say to someone who you want to interview? Sorry that I'm in the process of losing my current job so I'm very busy and can't make time for you today? What do i even respond to this with? Would it be wrong to just block his number and forget about working there? Doesn't seem like it would be the friendliest workplace if this is the attitude I get before even interviewing.....

Hello people of Reddit!

I’m hoping you all can cool off my steaming head with this specific company I applied at. So for context. I applied with this company Wednesday and they got back to me on Friday at 5:19PM. Which in my case is past any work hours and into the weekend where I log off completely. (As do many other companies do as well.) You can see I promptly responded on Monday at 7:00AM, and heard nothing. I decided to wait 2 days and reach out again and ask if they are still considering me for the role. To where he proceeded to insult me about being lazy for not… “showing up” to an interview. Which mind you they have not once reached out to me via call/text/message. I have a screenshot of my email folder as the last slide as proof. I haven’t heard a single thing from them since I applied. So I decided to respond with a (yes I know) backhanded response. Letting them know that no one has contacted me for an interview. And I’m sure you all can see how it escalated from there. So I ask AIO for thinking that these guys were completely out of line and unprofessional? They called me names and insulted me, which I know I did back but. I’m a bit of a hot head my self lol. Not trying to justify what I did but then he also attempted to call my current employer and say god knows what. Thankfully I work for a place that values my privacy and gave them no mention of my name. Which is where he thinks I “lied” on my application. Is there anything I can do here? I couldn’t find them on the BBB or anything as such. One way to ruin my Friday lol. Let me know what you all think.

I'm not sure how to start this. At my job, Saturdays are optional. Recently, we've had a bit of a workload, so i've worked plenty of saturdays in a row to help my team catch up and get a good foot in. The rule of thumb for me is that if my team has too much work, I'll step in and work Saturdays. Well, my boss likes treating it like a mandatory day, getting very upset if any of us is busy. (YES, she WILL talk bad about you to someone else.) She likes to make adjustments so that we have no choice but to work and make it feel like we can't say no. For example, work hours are 10-3, and I have an event at 2 she will tell me to come in 9-1 JUST so she can make me work. Or guess what, if you didn't work this saturday, you have to work NEXT saturday! Anyway, Friday's shift ended swiftly, and I went home with no one asking if i could work Saturday. I got no verbal questioning or even a text message (my boss loves to message my coworkers Friday night asking if they can work Saturday). This worked out perfectly for me because I had plans for a graduation, and I was not going to maneuver around working. Anyway, i checked my phone today to see this message from my boss... Is this not crazy??? She's claiming that I never cleared my plans with her. On a Saturday? An optional day? It feels like she really thinks I don't have a life outside of work and that I owe every hour of my life to her. Am i overreacting with thinking this is a really crazy thing to do and say? Should I have worked ?

TLDR: My boss messaged me the same day expecting me to work (on a Saturday) after no prior agreement

EDIT: Just to clarify because some of the responses are confusing me! I work for a small family owned business in the garment decoration business! If i were to work on a saturday, i would get paid like i would for any day of the week:) - I am asking if i am overreacting to being upset about the situation!

Extra Edit: Thank you so much, everyone, for your input! I've gotten an overwhelming amount of helpful insight! I will be stepping away from this thread now as the amount of comments is overwhelming:) Have an amazing day!!

the restaurant i wait for part-time is relocating. it's a 1 1/2 hour drive and a 20minute uphill climb to the restaurant.

i emailed my boss yesterday morning that i wouldn't be coming into work anymore and citing that the commute is just something i cannot align my schedule with (i have problems sleeping, so i don't get a lotta hours in before my 12h shifts anyway, and this would cut any sleep i can get shorter AGAIN).

he responded with the email above, and i cant help but feel like he's trying to intimidate me into coming in tomorrow. AIO??? this feels weird to me.

For context, I’m the assistant manager (manager of the staff) and the front desk person at a Children’s Museum. Over the weekend, i discovered the fish tank unplugged at my work. The fish was dying and I tried everything i could to save him but had no luck (My boss didn’t let me leave to get anything that could help). I believe all animals should be respected as if they are a fellow human so I didn’t take this lightly and grieved for this fish. I texted my boss the next day giving my opinion about keeping fish here when no one has the training or knowledge (even if she does, she isn’t here all the time nor is willing to come in for such emergencies). She also leaves for trips so it’s helpful for someone else to have knowledge (like myself). I know i was a bit emotionally charged in my messages, but was this enough to be fired over? I’ve had no issues in the past and no serious writeups. I’ve done really well at my job and have consistently gone above and beyond what is asked of me, enough to be promoted to staff manager after 6 months of working there. I can see how what i said is disrespectful but in my opinion this could have been a write-up, not an immediate termination. Aio?

This is weird so I need to know if I'm crazy for going as far as I did.

I have a condition of chronic pain. The way I explain it to people without chronic pain is that if pain were on levels from 1 to 10, normal people are at most at a 2 or 3 from day to day where people with CP are at more like a 6. Like imagine stepping on a Lego or hitting your funny bone, that's a very brief but excruciating 8. It's like if you pulled a muscle and so there's pain and discomfort if you move it, but pretty much daily. Some days I am higher on the scale, rare blessed days I'm more a 4 or by some miracle lower.

Overall I am active and operate well. I do own canes but I only use them on days when I'm 7 or above. Such a day came this past Sunday.

On top of my full time job, I have a part time. Due to being physically and legally disabled, I had all the paperwork already filed with my job in case I ever need accommodations. I have a handicap marker on my license plate and the placard on my rear view mirror and the works.

I was recently moved to a location closer to my home. I love my new team. My boss Amy is really great. My colleague Casey and I get along okay but were the same position as assistant coordinators to Amy. The reason I was moved to that location was that it expanded and they needed more hands so they added me.

Casey has wanted a promotion for a long time and everyone knows it. I was pretty open that I don't. Lol any promotion from my position would be a fulltime and...I already have a fulltime job. I do this job to pad my savings and because I frankly like the job. Being busy also helps with my anxiety.

I mean Casey works hard but she also likes to talk over me or rush to take charge of something before I can when I clearly was getting to it. She then announces it. "Oh I handled that for you, OP. Don't worry!" And at first I was annoyed but over time I was like alright then, but you didn't have to. I talked to Amy about this. I want to pull my weight but it can be challenging and redundant when Casey is racing to beat me to it. The point was for us to split tasks evenly. Amy said she would talk to her and I don't know what came of that but things didn't really change much so I just accepted it.

So when I came in Monday with my cane, everyone had questions. I emailed Amy Sunday night so she knew but I tend to be private so what I told everyone else was that I have a condition and sometimes I need a cane but not always.

Amy accommodated me. She assigned me tasks that required little to no movement. I was very grateful and got everything done pretty early so I called over the radio if there was anything else I could do. Casey said no she's got it so I just handled admin stuff that's usually on the backburner. Literally replied with "okay I'll tackle the admin list then" and Casey said no she's got it but Amy followed that with a thank you to me and confirmation that this would be helpful.

I still needed my cane yesterday (Tuesday) and it was similar. I completed most of the admin to-dos and Amy was so relieved to have it done. She thanked me for coming in and doing all that instead of calling out. Casey made a comment that she could've helped but I said that's okay and thanked her for handling the more physical tasks.

We ended up walking to the parking lot together and she asked which car was mine so I pointed at it. Then she said "so I know you're not disabled, by the way." And I asked what she meant. She just repeated herself and said "so no cane tomorrow, okay? I won't tell. Just no cane tomorrow."

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I stood there like what the fuck? But i was meeting my best friend and just left to make it on time. I met my BFF Joy at the bar and we had a wonderful time. I brought my cane but tbh I didn't always use it. For example, I didn't use it to walk from my table to the bar to request another drink or when I got up to hug Joy goodbye.

Today, when I woke up, my pain was higher than my normal so I took my cane along. I texted Amy that I have my cane but doing okay in small bursts so put me in Coach lol I was having a good time at my main job and didn't give Casey a thought.

I arrive at my part time job and Casey saw my cane and went red. I mean like the way I looked when the Eagles lost to the 49ers lol just SUPER MAD. I greeted everyone and she ignored me completely. We got our assignments and she snidely said to me "Well can you handle that with your cane and all?" In a tone that even made Amy turn to look at her like WTF. I said I can manage and thanked her for her concern and we went about our work. Once again she raced to beat me to things and saying over the radio "don't strain yourself, OP, I did x-task or got y-done"

I was so confused until about an hour ago when we finished work she again walked with me to the parking lot but this time showed me a video. It was me. It was me at the bar last night with Joy. I was just like...um why do you have a video of me - that's weird. She says it's proof. I asked of what? And she said it's proof I'm not disabled as I acted so "wounded all day at work" but suddenly don't need my cane at a bar.

What???? I wanted to explain that that's just not how CP works. Like yes I can stand up to hug my friend or get up and walk 3 strides to order a new drink but I can't, for example, lean over and organize a bottom drawer without a chair to sit in. I wanted to explain the CP is just an umbrella and under it are a myriad of experiences and abilities and that honestly, if she had left my tasks alone, I'd have done them. She didn't give me the chance and said "no cane tomorrow. I'm serious. Or I'm going to Chad" (Chad is Amy's boss).

I said "About what?" But she was already walking away from me and just got in her car.

It's just weird. And oddly Chad would know this is bs because his boyfriend has CP too. I'm not so much worried about being "found out" or anything but it's just weird and I'm literally typing an email to Amy CCing Chad about this weird behavior because it's just odd. Am I crazy to want to preemptively explain this? I am anxious ans paranoid in general so I don't want to overreact or make things worse.

Edit: I sent the email and also thanks for letting me know I'm not crazy for feeling weirded out.

Also I will be simply blocking anyone who is saying this is fake. I don't have time for your bs to be frank.

I also texted Amy and Chad.

Edit 2: JESUS CHRYSLER DRIVING CHRIST that's a lot of notifications...

I'll edit to try to reply all here because there isn't enough coffee in the world...

It's morning and I'm still about at a 7 and it's cold today so even if I didn't want to bring my cane, i would have to. I texted ahead so Amy can start thinking about tasks today.

For some common themes I've noticed, yeah my pain scale Lego idea wasn't on scale. Stepping on a Lego was the funniest thing I could think of that hurts so I wanted to paint a picture. I wasn't making a clinical pain chart lol feel free to use your own theatre of the mind scenarios to help people without chronic pain have an idea of what it's like.

Also I don't understand the vague "don't use the term CP" comments sorry. In this post it means chronic pain. It's within that context 🤷‍♀️ sorry but I just don't get the issue here or of its upsetting...? Idk

Amy and Chad have both responded so we will see how today goes. Anyway this was my first break in my FT job so I have to get back to it.

I have worked at Domino’s since January and worked mostly weekends until this week as it’s the end of the spring semester at college. I’ve worn the same dark undershirt and pants for work since the job interview and had no issues with it until today.

I came in, clocked in, and a person doing an inspection for the franchise I work for told me my pants are suppose to be black and not dark navy. He left me off with a warning telling me that I was ok for the day but next time I needed black pants or else they wouldn’t let me even go into the store to clock in and I’d have to go back home and get a change of pants.

Maybe I’m overreacting but I’ve been working at this same store for 5 months and no one raised any issues about my pants until today and it seems kinda silly to me that a franchise that doesn’t pay any more than state minimum wage (I’m in Pennsylvania BTW) would take issue with a minor detail that no one’s gonna care about or even notice. Not to mention these are the only work pants I have.

Am I overreacting?

For some context, these are screenshots from my work group chat. The little kid was screaming for around 20 minutes at this point when I finally texted because my client voiced her discomfort. it went on for a few more minutes after I texted, but there was no response until said coworker left the building. One of our other suite mates texted me, and told me that the client she was working on had black hair, which does not need to be put under a dryer. And that KJ had overbooked herself and had another client in her room that she was working on while the client with the child sat in the common area where the hairdryers are. I could tell that it was at the other end of the salon, but you could still very loud and clearly hear it consistently for the duration of her facial. This is a constant problem in the salon, not with this specific person, but just with kids in general. It is a Salon suites, and spa. It’s not marketed as a family salon whatsoever, but obviously kiddos are welcome. I just feel like she jumped down my throat and didn’t even read my message. I feel like I was super polite, especially since I lost out on future money and a client. Also, the person texting me back is always preaching in the group chat about how she prays for our small businesses to flourish, and that we gain clientele and that she loves us (? weird) like family. But when I lose a client due to her letting her client scream in the common area for 20+ minutes then this is her response/the way she approaches things. I’m super bothered about the whole thing. The first three screenshots are my work group chat, and the last screenshot is the owner’s response to the whole situation.

EDIT: owner has texted multiple times in group chat saying that if you have a client with a child that is upset or screaming, to close your door and turn up ambient music in the hallway to be courteous of others