r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad-Economist-2688 • May 17 '25

🎓 academic/school AIO. This guy from my class NSFW

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My teacher told me to socialize more with my classmates. Im a shy person. This boy I sit with started chatting with me then asked me for my Instagram. I was really happy since I dont have many friends.

First day of talking and three messages later I get this. Am I overreacting? Is this some sort of humor I just don't get? I'm not sure how to feel but I don't even feel comfortable to sit with him anymore.

Excuse my broken grammar and the dry humor in the photos provided please :(

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u/[deleted] May 17 '25

OP, if you don’t report this (even if nothing much happens to him) you are making it harder for other girls he does it to. i’ve been assaulted and i wish to god i would’ve testified. even if you aren’t super bothered, please report the behavior so if it happens again to either you or another person, it’s on RECORD. that’s so important. because if it happens again, they can look back and see the history of it.

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u/Sad-Economist-2688 May 17 '25

Im so sorry that happened to you and I hope you're healing well. At first I didnt want to because I thought it was just a 'dark joke' that I didnt get but thanks to people like you I see that Im not being crazy and I should actually do something about it. Thank you for opening my eyes

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u/[deleted] May 17 '25

It’s taken a long time but it has gotten better. thank you :) it’s definitely not a dark joke. that is a huge red flag and not okay. you’re not crazy at all. i’d love an update whenever you can!

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u/Sad-Economist-2688 May 17 '25

Im glad to hear that. I hope everything's going to be fully okay for you. I'll make sure to update once its settled :)

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u/OneScar5826 May 18 '25

please report him, dont make him comfortable

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

He went off his rocker there, but, I mean he said several times it was a weird question and you did say don't care, and opened the door. Your thoughts? for the record, what he said at the end was not called for, so yes thats not cool.

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u/Sad-Economist-2688 May 18 '25

For me, a weird question meant if I like pineapple on pizza or monkeys riding bikes,not rape.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

He definitely says he will ask a weird question, and repeats that is weird... After he asks how big? she replies with an emoji with what looks to me like a thumbs up indicating size ??

and then It goes off course, and uncalled for. But the weird question was never about rape....when he said that stuff it was wrong, I maintain that.

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u/Sad-Economist-2688 May 18 '25

Im sorry but I've never seen someone misinterpret a Mr.Clean bitmoji this bad.

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u/Swashybuckz May 18 '25

What a dum take. Not cool to threaten to rape ppl? Guy is a psycho and should spend some time in the local county jail. Period.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

I actually didn't connect that mispelling grape as being rape, I was more referring to the overall tone being hostile and not cool. Like not good at all kinda thing.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

everyone is pretty pissed at me for saying what I said hey....but did you see the part where he asked the weird question and she replied with the smiley 2x thumbs up with size'

Have i got that right? Like the OP was going along with it for a minute??

(I am not referring to the rape stuff at the end, that is bad, very bad.)

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u/jjazure1 May 18 '25

Quit while you’re ahead, you’re making yourself look sus now

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u/[deleted] May 18 '25

You seem really sensitive for a dude who has been on Reddit for 5+ years and comments on “Engorged And Veiny Breast” subs.

Go outside.

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u/Iwillcomeback2475 May 18 '25

There’s a huge difference between a weird question and a rape threat.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

Wait what?? There was no question about rape...?? That was the bad stuff he said at the end which was out of line.

The weird question was clearly said that it will be a weird ++++ question. Her reply was 2x thumbs up which looks to be showing size? Thats how it reads to me...

Then all of a sudden the conversation goes totally offcourse, and the guy begins replying with highly inappropriate and offensive threats.

All I said was that she opened the door to a weird ++++ question, and seemed to have answered it with thumbs up???

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u/Affectionate-Act3980 May 18 '25

Fuck, you’re disgusting.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

Seriously extremely and heartbreaking language towards me when all I said was referring to the weird question part. Would you mind, please, reconsidering your thoughts towards me after a glass of cold water? I think you have mistaken me for condoning his last part of threat message. Which I absolutely did not.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

Seriously? That's hurtful. The OP has asked if theyre overreacting, and all I said was the guy on the other end did say he was going to ask a very weird question...

You sound as bad as the guy with that hurtful comment.

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u/kraterios May 18 '25

Weird ≠ rape.

Are you the guy from her message by any chance? Because whining about getting hurt definitely sounds like that micro dicked POS.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

No. You need to read the comment again. He says he will ask a really weird question. She goes along with it, and then Im not sure but she sends a smiley emoji with size of two thumbs up??

And then he just goes nuts, and totally incriminates himself with a very offensive threat.

The whole thing is bad really, and OP shouldn't really talk to a person like that in the first place especially reply with emoji's at the first weird question... imo. those kind of guys probably have very micro...brains.

also, your language and tone towards me was a little strong and offensive. Just read my comment, and think about what I said. I'm not that bad.

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u/Affectionate-Act3980 May 18 '25

If he had asked, “can I ask you a really inappropriate and vulgar question?” it would have been accurate. Stop making excuses and really think about wtf you’re saying. Tone deaf af

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u/waowowwao May 18 '25

Ok so first, you're way off with your social cues. The smiley emoji with the two thumbs up was NOT her going along with it. To me it very clearly read as uncomfortable. She mentioned she wasn't socializing much and happy to finally make a friend, she probably didn't know how to respond to a weird ass question like that and sent an awkward emoji.

(The question alone, even without the later rape threat, would qualify as sexual harassment according to my school's definition btw. And no, it doesn't matter that he prefaced it by saying it's a weird question, this is not a normal expectation even for a "weird question". You don't ask someone you just met shit like that.)

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u/TwinSwords May 18 '25

You have a strange (and inaccurate) definition of "several."

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

He asks a weird question.... and then follows it up with another message saying 'weird' with multiple +++++ symbols.... it was repeated no?

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u/Capable_Cat May 18 '25

I think that that last message was the main issue. What sane person goes to that extreme with a person they barely know, even if it was a 'joke'??

Know your fucking audience.

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u/goodthanksforasking May 18 '25

definitely not. thats not something that should have been joked about and it didn't come across as a joke really at all...

the last part of the guys message is bad, very very bad. Pretty much all of it is bad, all I was saying is that the OP may have opened the door and went along with the FIRST part of the message....the FIRST part only....

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u/Capable_Cat May 18 '25

I can see how hat can escalate, and people can truly avoid saying that if they're set on avoiding future harassment. :/

Still, even for someone who's "blunt/weird" myself, the escalation started on his part when a) choosing to talk like this to someone he barely knew, which seems vastly inappropriate, b) failed to mention it was sexual/about his private parts and c) later getting defensive when the conversation wasn't to his liking, threatening OP. (Making your anger external, which is childish in this situation. Take the L and suck it up.) Im assuming he wanted to get an ego boost (which is fine within reason) or test his sexual chances with OP.

Yes, avoid giving people the reply they want of you truly want to avoid the chances of such conversations, but let's not excuse this POS. It's not on OP to mediate and prevent him from doing something vulgar. It's not women's jobs to coddle emotionally immature men. and the more we establish that by not 'tiptoeing' around the issue (only if you're *safe** in dping so!!! Don't risk defying of you fear danger!!!)* the more people will realise that.

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u/extended_dex May 18 '25

This guy definitely has allegations lol

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u/[deleted] May 18 '25

That’s one hell of a take. If it’s someone I barely know and have just started speaking to, any “weird” question I have will actually be weird, not inappropriate or sexually forward. There’s a distinction between “weird” and “sexual”. And if you’re going to introduce sex to the conversation, that isn’t the way to do it. Even if there was the pretense of a “weird” question.