r/2under2 • u/Huskyshepardgirl • 7d ago

Advice Wanted Was it easy to get pregnant again?

Had an “oopsie” on Saturday with hubby! We have a 8 month old, and I’m breastfeeding still. Got my period back 3 months PP. I guess I checked my Flo app, and confirmed with my symptoms, but I definitely ovulated two or three days after this “oopsie”.
When you got pregnant a 2nd time, was it a one time & done situation or did it take multiple cycles?

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I’m internally screaming right now, and will be updating in 2 weeks lol

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u/Alert_Ad_5750 7d ago

We tried for our first and I got pregnant first try, had a boy.

I got pregnant again when my son was a 10 week old newborn and me and my partner had JUST done the deed again.😄Had my daughter when my son was 11mo baby.

They’re turning 2 and 3 soon and will be the same age for a few weeks!

Best years of my life.

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u/snapdive_ 7d ago

That’s awesome. We have a 7 month old boy and my wife is 16 weeks pregnant now with a girl so the gap won’t be larger than 54 weeks. We’re not sure what to expect but we’re super happy that they will be that close

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u/silly-goose1299 7d ago

We have a 55 week age gap, it is truly so much fun. I’m not going to lie the beginning was a huge learning curve, but we are 8 months in and life is seriously so much fun with them

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u/snapdive_ 7d ago

What were the biggest changes you had to make?

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u/Ke-turtle98 6d ago

I’m not the person you asked but for myself with a 17 month gap, sleep is huge. Getting your first to fall asleep independently is huge. Our daughter (20months) was self settling to sleep really well then we slacked off and my hubby was just enjoying holding her to put her sleep (I couldn’t put her in her cot once I got so big in my final weeks so it was all daddy) so now we’re in a situation where she won’t go to sleep for me at all. Won’t let me hold her at nap time other than to breastfeed her and then tried to slip off my lap. Then if I put her in her cot to self settle and go to sleep the way she did before, her fussing and arguing with me wakes her brother. We’ve had a few contact naps where I hold them both on the couch but our lives would be infinitely easier if she was napping for me sowing the day. She naps beautifully on weekends when her dad is home.

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u/Alert_Ad_5750 6d ago

That’s so sweet she likes sleeping on her daddy so much, not so practical when he’s not there though 😆. Sleep is the most important factor with the eldest. I was practicing with my eldest when he was still a newborn and he was very receptive and it’s been quite easy with him in that sense. Then having my daughter when he turned 11mo it was so easy being able to just pop him in to bed and say goodnight with no hassle. I started practicing with my daughter very soon with good sleep habits and it really started getting in to place once she was about 6/7 months and by 10mo she was sleeping easily in her room independently. Having two close in age like that and not having a battle over sleep is one way to keep the sanity! If I get a decent nights sleep the whole next day is MILES easier.

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u/Ke-turtle98 6d ago

Yes that’s exactly what I said! Beautiful but impractical. It seems to be just me she doesn’t want to go to sleep for though as when my mum and SIL have been over they’ve been able to get her down at naptime/bedtime without issue. As soon as I sit in the chair in her room with her and we’re done breastfeeding she’s doing the slippery fish to get off my lap to run away in her sleep sack and all while yelling ‘play, play’ 😂

We did some super gentle sleep training with her at about 5 months that she took so well to. It served us beautifully and she’d put herself to sleep after being put in her cot wide awake. She’d been an exclusive contact napper prior. Overnight she’d come in our bed for feeds then back to her cot. Once we moved her to her own room at 8 months, hubby and I got a little selfish and missed her so started holding her a bit longer which turned into rocking her to sleep 😅 Rod for our own backs for sure. Now we’re trying to slowly get her back to going to sleep independently. But unfortunately because I couldn’t put her down at the end of my pregnancy with her brother, she’s so used to her Daddy doing bedtime that she will sit on my lap and wait for him if I try these days.

We’re going to use the same sleep training (pick up-put down) with baby brother when he’s ready as it was such a game changer last time.

100% sleep is so important. It’s true what they say about the days being long and years being short. But sometimes the days feel pretty quick when you’re so busy. Other days every minute feels long when you haven’t had sleep.

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u/silly-goose1299 6d ago

I would say the biggest “change” was when we transitioned my daughter to a “big girl bed” at 18 months so we wouldn’t have to buy a second crib lol. Other than that, there are several things I had to “adapt” to, like the process of getting both kids in and out of the car by myself, occupying my toddler while the baby was nursing, and figuring out what to do with the baby while I put my toddler down for a nap (we also have a big dog so that added to the chaos)