r/widowers • u/life_uhhhfindsaway • 10d ago
Coping?
Hey all, I just found this sub and have been reading through a few things. Two months ago in a very sudden accident the world changed in ways that I never could have anticipated when my wife died. It was very public and the attention can be overwhelming and frustrating. Most days I feel like I'm on autopilot and not really sure what's going on. I'm taking care of the kids, dogs, house and that's been my best way to cope so far but cope may not even be the correct word (distraction maybe?) What do you all do in down time when things are quiet? How do you manage the waves of grief and deal with this level of loss? My wife and I worked together as well, she is my best friend and we were at each other's side for everything. How do you get the motivation to do things for yourself?
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u/Butter_cup7318 10d ago
I lost my husband 9 months ago, we worked together, we did everything together. .. lots of press involved. It was overwhelming. I suffered immensely the first 8 months before I got to this site which has given me a well needed outlet. To know that you're not alone in whatever got you here is a blessing. I have no friends that live close or family, this is sort of the home base for now.
I'm sorry that you're here, life does go on and it is really a matter of how we set ourselves to face it head on knowing it will get better. That's just my own outlook I don't dwell on the tragedy I keep him in my thoughts all throughout the day as if he were here.