Coping?

[u/life_uhhhfindsaway]

Hey all, I just found this sub and have been reading through a few things. Two months ago in a very sudden accident the world changed in ways that I never could have anticipated when my wife died. It was very public and the attention can be overwhelming and frustrating. Most days I feel like I'm on autopilot and not really sure what's going on. I'm taking care of the kids, dogs, house and that's been my best way to cope so far but cope may not even be the correct word (distraction maybe?) What do you all do in down time when things are quiet? How do you manage the waves of grief and deal with this level of loss? My wife and I worked together as well, she is my best friend and we were at each other's side for everything. How do you get the motivation to do things for yourself?

[u/connoravocado]

I’ve been journaling a lot, putting thoughts to paper feels similar to talking to someone, gets it out of my system and there’s always “someone” to listen, even at night. For awhile I didn’t really do anything in the evenings, now I feel like I’m getting a little focus back where I can watch some shows or read a little bit. I think an important thing is to be kind to yourself and know it’s ok to just… do nothing. These life changes are crazy, it’s no surprise it’s gonna take awhile to adjust to a new normal. Hang in there, don’t put too much pressure on yourself 🫂