r/sleeptrain • u/frogsruletheworld • Jun 16 '25

6 - 12 months Who doesn’t worry about sleep hours?

I was talking to my mom about baby’s sleep, and after a while she said, why do you worry so much? I didn’t worry about wake windows or how much you guys slept when you were babies. When you were tired you slept, when you weren’t you didn’t.

Now, it’s very possible that my mom just doesn’t remember what it was like to have a 0 year old, but it made me wonder…

Are there parents out there who just don’t worry about it even if their kid sleeps less than 12 hours total in 24 hours?

Not looking for criticism, just to hear everyone’s experiences.

EDIT: Thanks for all the comments! It’s so nice to see there is a good mix of those who track and don’t track baby’s sleep. Also feels great to read success stories and see support for each other in the challenges 💚

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u/howedthathappen Jun 16 '25

Me! Takes up too much brain space. I listen to what my kids and their bodies tell me.

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u/External_Bullfrog521 Jun 16 '25

How freeing! Overall, how do they sleep? Do they ever have early mornings/awake at random times etc?

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u/howedthathappen Jun 16 '25 edited Jun 16 '25

Naps are pretty consistent and easy so long as we minimise t.v. They both will fall asleep anywhere.

The infant sleeps fairly well, better than the toddler did at this age. If on our normal routine he goes down at 8/8:30p without issue and wakes every 4 hours until he wakes for the day between 7a - 8a.

The toddler has pretty much been a horrible sleeper except for irregular stretches of amazing sleep. I'm talking goes down easily, sleeps through the night, and wakes up happy. The moment I intentionally recreate what's been working for those times is the moment it's gone. She has to go to sleep in her own bed, but usually ends up in ours sometime between 1a & 4a.

ETA: I have horrible insomnia so I've only slept for maybe 3 hours tonight. Some nights for me are easier or harder. I've no doubt that the toddler does and will struggle with it as well. A lot of the evening is spent winding down.

Second edit: you'll find a post of mine from a particularly hard period where my toddler's sleep sucked. It was awful. We practiced saying goodnight to inanimate and animate objects for months to work on what I'm labelling separation anxiety which immensely helped the bedtime process.