r/queerpolyam • u/hawababy • Apr 05 '26
Play party tips NSFW
/r/LesbianActually/comments/1sb15c1/play_party_tips/1
u/NotAFed1991 Apr 07 '26
I second going with friends, as well as making sure you know how you're getting home-- ride share apps hike their prices around 11pm, so consider checking if public transportation is an option.
On the getting-to-makeouts side of things-- sometimes parties have little buttons that say "top/bottom" and/or "ask me to play," those are good cause they help mark out the people who are looking for new play partners vs. already have someone in mind. I also think that going up to someone, introducing yourself, and then mentioning what kind of play you're looking for can work-- just back off with grace if you get a "no" or the other person doesn't seem interested.
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u/aetcissalc Apr 10 '26
Be honest and blunt about what you want and from who.
I've seen too many folk that never understand "not now" means "not tonight" or "not ever."
Conversely I've heard a lot of People wonder why that cutie never came back.
The answer to both is blunt and over-explain.
"I'd love to let me finish this chat with my friend and then can we talk in the kitchen?"
"Thank you but I think I'm just chilling with my friends and trying to feel the vibes tonight, maybe next time."
Do you know if it's more yes means yes or no means no?
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u/clover__petals Apr 05 '26
How exciting! I think it’s easier to go with friends so you can settle in. Definitely secure a ride afterwards.
I’m clubs I’ve been to there’s a pick up play board. Something like a white board or post it notes where you can say what you’re looking for.
Do you have experience with negotiation? This is the biggest part for sure.