r/piscesastrology • u/Golden-lillies21 • 13h ago
If you did not feel any romantic Sparks on the first date would you continue to give it a few more days or would you end it there?
I went on a date with this one person and although I did like them I'm not entirely sure if I feel romantic feelings for this person. He's not unattractive and he checks a lot of boxes very respectful, stable and very understanding. We share some common Hobbies but I feel like that romantic attraction is missing. Some people said that they usually give someone a few dates to see if it builds over time and for some people it worked but for others after the first or second date they usually let that person go. One person even told me that if I don't feel any romantic feelings for that person on the first date I'm not going to feel it on the 3rd or even for date either. What is your stance on this and what would you do if you were me? Would you give it a little bit more time or would you just end it right then and there? As a Pisces I tend to give too much the benefit of the doubt but I don't want to lead anybody on either. How many dates should I give it before realizing that I am starting to grow romantic attraction for someone or not?
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u/Let_them_eat_cakee 13h ago
Unless you completely get the ick maybe give it another go
Some people get really shy or anxious on the first date and don’t get to really shine like they normally would
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u/Golden-lillies21 12h ago
I didn't get the ick. I did however get the ick from somebody yesterday because he sent me shower pictures even though I didn't want it and even though he had a towel on him I told him before when he asked if he could send me a shower pictures that I didn't want it but then he still proceeds to give me shower pictures. I felt like he didn't care about my boundaries and if he's willing to break even boundaries like this now imagine what other boundaries he would try to push and break if we did actually meet? So with that guy I got the ick so bad that I blocked him after I told him what he did was wrong and how I felt like my boundaries were disrespected.
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u/devuhhknee 13h ago
I was in a relationship with someone for 9 months hoping romantic attraction would build with someone because they were a kind soul. I wanted to be attracted to him but sexual chemistry wasn't there. Sadly I had to let him go because I personally needed and craved more of that spark/attraction. I say, save yourself and them the time and energy if you know for a fact that it's just not there.
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Backup of the post's body: I went on a date with this one person and although I did like them I'm not entirely sure if I feel romantic feelings for this person. He's not unattractive and he checks a lot of boxes very respectful, stable and very understanding. We share some common Hobbies but I feel like that romantic attraction is missing. Some people said that they usually give someone a few dates to see if it builds over time and for some people it worked but for others after the first or second date they usually let that person go. One person even told me that if I don't feel any romantic feelings for that person on the first date I'm not going to feel it on the 3rd or even for date either. What is your stance on this and what would you do if you were me? Would you give it a little bit more time or would you just end it right then and there? As a Pisces I tend to give too much the benefit of the doubt but I don't want to lead anybody on either. How many dates should I give it before realizing that I am starting to grow romantic attraction for someone or not?
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u/ChoiceMastodon7806 12h ago
Ive been pretty good friends with this woman I met in high school, always stayed somewhat in touch every year, some more than others, we went about our individual lives, both married, then both divorced, and I never felt any spark, although I significantly always respected and admired her in many ways. I’m now 34, and we started our romantic adventure last June, and…. boy let me tell ya…. I have never felt such an intense spark in my entire life! Absolutely beautiful man. Do all Pisces live for this shit?! Bc I know I fucking do, fuckin a.
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u/Negative_Entry6419 3h ago
I've been thinking about this myself lately. In the past, I would date guys that seemed stable, kind, and caring. Friendships developed first and then dating. Attraction wasn't high on my list. I've always felt that I was 'too much' so finding a man who was stable seemed like the right way to go. Well- a thousand bad relationships later, I meet a guy whose an artist and covered in tattoos. Instantly I'm attracted to him, his charisma, everything. Now, we are so in love with eachother, it's insane. Turns out- I didnt need someone who was going to put my pisces soul into a box, or someone that I questioned whether I was attracted to or not. I just needed someone who was more wild and crazy then I was, so that I could finally just be myself. moral of the story- you are a pisces, you can have whoever you want.
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u/Golden-lillies21 2h ago
Yeah that's exactly what I need although I don't really want a guy that's covered in tattoos but I definitely don't want somebody who puts me in a box and judges me. I've dated a guy who seemed kind understanding romantic and compassionate but then it turns out he was hiding a bunch of Secrets and once I uncovered it I couldn't trust him anymore. But had I not find out this relationship would have been built on lies on his end. I want a partner that I can trust, that doesn't have any ulterior motives and is only devoted to me not anybody else where we both mutually find each other attractive. I wouldn't want somebody dating me if they weren't sure about me.
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u/Ok_Dig_8053 1h ago
Met a guy on Hinge and agreed to go on a date with him in 2022. The first date went well but I went home to my roommate and told her “idk if I’m going to keep seeing this guy”. I liked talking to him so I kept conversation going and remained curious. His birthday was just a few days before our second date and I remember thinking “it would be terrible to stop seeing him right before his birthday, I don’t want him upset and down”. It’s such a Pisces thing to say honestly lol
Second date went much better honestly, as we both weren’t as nervous and awkward.
I married him last weekend and we’ve returned from our honeymoon just yesterday 😊
I got deeper into astrology shortly after that and learned he is a Scorpio!
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u/danielleelisabeth 13h ago
I didn’t feel any sparks on a first date but I liked the conversation and that we had a lot of common interests so I kept talking to the person. I felt the romantic connection after the 3rd date and now we’ve been dating for 8 months.