r/parentsofmultiples • u/gaensebluemchen22 • 6d ago

advice needed First time twin moms

I‘m wondering if anyone that had twins (or more) as their first children has any advice to give on this/feels similar. I love my b/g twins to death (they’re 5 months) but I‘m also somewhat bitter and think about missing out on the singleton experience a lot.
If you have 1 child and then multiples I think thats the jackpot for real. But even if I go on to have a 3rd child, I still will never be able to have that experience of having ONE child you can give all your attention and your doting to. And live that stereotypical newborn bubble you see all over. And just live that first time mom dream life in a way that mom of multiples cant.

I‘m just sad about missing out on what’s essentially a dream I had in regards to future parenthood. And now I‘m here in chaos and survival mode.

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u/HereforCHDandAITA 6d ago

I had a singleton first and it was so hard. Just because it was my first and I obsessed and fretted over everything. Now, with triplets as my “second” I mourn the lost opportunity to be a low key mom to a singleton and be the mom that took the tiny baby around with the family. I felt prepared for a second then God and my body decided we should try parenting on hard mode. But we love our girls, can’t imagine not having them here, and I can’t wait until they can play with their big brother.

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u/GrouchyCranberry3801 6d ago

Ugh same. I was so ready to be that second time mom who’d be so chill and relaxed after my colicky first born.. enter twins. lol. Can’t help but laugh at it! But honestly the hardest part about having twins lately is the fact that I also have a toddler 😩

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u/HereforCHDandAITA 4d ago

Omg I totally agree. The three year old is running circles around and I’m about to self combust trying to keep up with him haha.

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u/GrouchyCranberry3801 4d ago

3 year olds are insane little people im so tired 😂