r/parentsofmultiples • u/gaensebluemchen22 • 6d ago

advice needed First time twin moms

I‘m wondering if anyone that had twins (or more) as their first children has any advice to give on this/feels similar. I love my b/g twins to death (they’re 5 months) but I‘m also somewhat bitter and think about missing out on the singleton experience a lot.
If you have 1 child and then multiples I think thats the jackpot for real. But even if I go on to have a 3rd child, I still will never be able to have that experience of having ONE child you can give all your attention and your doting to. And live that stereotypical newborn bubble you see all over. And just live that first time mom dream life in a way that mom of multiples cant.

I‘m just sad about missing out on what’s essentially a dream I had in regards to future parenthood. And now I‘m here in chaos and survival mode.

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u/FoxAndDeerTwinMama 6d ago

I consider having twins a cool and unique (and yes, exhausting!) experience. It's a cool thing that most parents and most families don't get. So rather than mourning the life I could have had, I try to embrace the one that I do have and appreciate how special it is.

I also think twin Moms can sometimes romanticize having one baby. And the truth is, every parent is exhausted, and Moms of singletons are dealing with the same, less glamorous stuff we are. One baby projectile vomiting, or up all night with colic, isn't any more fun than two.