r/parentsofmultiples • u/gaensebluemchen22 • 6d ago
advice needed First time twin moms
I‘m wondering if anyone that had twins (or more) as their first children has any advice to give on this/feels similar. I love my b/g twins to death (they’re 5 months) but I‘m also somewhat bitter and think about missing out on the singleton experience a lot.
If you have 1 child and then multiples I think thats the jackpot for real. But even if I go on to have a 3rd child, I still will never be able to have that experience of having ONE child you can give all your attention and your doting to. And live that stereotypical newborn bubble you see all over. And just live that first time mom dream life in a way that mom of multiples cant.
I‘m just sad about missing out on what’s essentially a dream I had in regards to future parenthood. And now I‘m here in chaos and survival mode.
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u/Upsidedowntrey 6d ago
I just joined this group at 41. These are our first and second kids and will be our only kids. I was so excited for pregnancy and had the dream pregnancy until I didn’t. I gave birth at 30 weeks and the twins had a nicu stay. They are home now but one came home first and for a couple days we experienced having a singleton. It was nice and we got more sleep but I love my twins so much. I do mourn the thought of going to the store or out alone with one kid. Being able to be outside without being an attraction.