First time twin moms

[u/gaensebluemchen22]

I‘m wondering if anyone that had twins (or more) as their first children has any advice to give on this/feels similar. I love my b/g twins to death (they’re 5 months) but I‘m also somewhat bitter and think about missing out on the singleton experience a lot.
If you have 1 child and then multiples I think thats the jackpot for real. But even if I go on to have a 3rd child, I still will never be able to have that experience of having ONE child you can give all your attention and your doting to. And live that stereotypical newborn bubble you see all over. And just live that first time mom dream life in a way that mom of multiples cant.

I‘m just sad about missing out on what’s essentially a dream I had in regards to future parenthood. And now I‘m here in chaos and survival mode.

[u/Aware-Assistant-5702]

I had/have the same feelings. Twins are 19 months old now. That feeling of sadness has reduced a lot for me. Maybe a few fleeting moments here and there.

What has helped me lately is seeing all the singleton moms that were pregnant when I was. The majority of them are pregnant with the second or thinking about getting pregnant. I don’t envy that. Feel very grateful that I have the two children I always wanted and I don’t have to be pregnant again. This feeling is probably strong for me because twin pregnancy is rough and who knows if I would have thought that if I had a singleton…but ce la vie.