r/parentsofmultiples • u/gaensebluemchen22 • 6d ago
advice needed First time twin moms
I‘m wondering if anyone that had twins (or more) as their first children has any advice to give on this/feels similar. I love my b/g twins to death (they’re 5 months) but I‘m also somewhat bitter and think about missing out on the singleton experience a lot.
If you have 1 child and then multiples I think thats the jackpot for real. But even if I go on to have a 3rd child, I still will never be able to have that experience of having ONE child you can give all your attention and your doting to. And live that stereotypical newborn bubble you see all over. And just live that first time mom dream life in a way that mom of multiples cant.
I‘m just sad about missing out on what’s essentially a dream I had in regards to future parenthood. And now I‘m here in chaos and survival mode.
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u/Dorianscale 6d ago
I had twins as a first time dad and from what I’ve heard it’s a lot easier to do it that way.
What I’ve heard from other twin parents is that becoming a parent in general is difficult and you have to basically just rise to the occasion.
However if you do a singleton first you’re basically like “this is so hard I can’t” then when you’re hit with twins you really feel all the extra of everything really hard because your expectations are already set.
Vs if you go into twins blind it just becomes your new normal. You roll with everything simply because you have to.
Compare to our singleton parent friends, we seem like the baby whisperers. When we interact with other kids.
I think you’ll find that while there are some thing that are harder or impossible to do with twins, there’s also a lot of benefits and fun things you can only do with twins.