r/neoliberal • u/jobautomator Kitara Ravache • Mar 29 '26

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u/TheCornjuring Minions Sexer Mar 29 '26

This would probably happen to me too tbh, I think I’m not really right

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u/its_Caffeine Mark Carney Mar 29 '26

This is just depression tbh. Depression robs you of fundamental happiness in everything, a partner usually won't cure it.

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u/newmanok Mar 29 '26

People say "If you're not happy single then you won't be happy with a lover" seems true for this chap.

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u/NotYetFlesh European Union Mar 29 '26

Anon discovers the finitude of all things and the return to the mean

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u/Known_Pudding9653 Mar 29 '26

It's actually not a crime to stop loving someone.

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u/FizzleMateriel Austan Goolsbee Mar 29 '26

This feels uncomfortably true.

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u/schildmanbijter Mar 29 '26

Can't love someone if you don't love yourself

Touch grass and then touch go to a therapist 

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u/thatssosad Fell for it Mar 29 '26

This is just untrue and people should stop repeating that. It just shames people with issues or low self esteem from even trying to find happiness, and has no source in any psychological studies whatsoever

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u/yashaspaceman123 Niels Bohr Mar 29 '26

Well not grass but exercise does do that.

I actually think therapy is the most overrated option. If medications are equally effective and don't cost as much, i don't see it making much sense. People also don't realize therapy has side effects too.

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u/thatssosad Fell for it Mar 29 '26

I do think that both grass and exercise is helpful in general, but I specifically referred to the first sentence. You very much can love someone if you don't love yourself, it's a common occurence even, and while working on yourself (whether by grass, exercise or an appriopriate therapy) is a worthy goal, it should not be turned into a burden that you have to do before finding happiness in society

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u/yashaspaceman123 Niels Bohr Mar 29 '26

Ohhhhh that mbmb.

I mean psychology isn't an absolute. Its more like

"If you don't love yourself there is a higher likelihood that you won't love others"

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u/schildmanbijter Mar 29 '26

Well seek professional help is what I meant 

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u/FarrandChimney John von Neumann Mar 29 '26

its way easier to love someone else than love yourself