Surgery soon. Infertility journey making real steps soon.

[u/Proof_Count_6002]

Sup fellas. Just a venting post because I wouldn't wish journey on my worst enemy.

This is my story; I first found out I have no sperm aka azoospermia in October of 2025. I never had a sperm test in my life and didn't even know having no sperm was a thing. In fact I never even wanted kids most of my life until I met my wifey.

Once I met her we sort of played prevention but in summer of 2025 she removed her BC. After a few months there was no concern but I always like to get yearly blood tests to make sure Im healthy so I threw the T levels and sperm test in there for the fun of it.

I still remember the day I found out my count was zero. Probably the worst day and following weeks of my life. (without my faith I don't know if I would be where I'm currently at, because now I have accepted the fact even tho that it still hurts that I may never be a father but I hurt more for my wife because I know she desires badly to be a mother even tho she tells me its ok if "we" cant have kids, I will still feel like i failed her but i trust in gods plan that maybe I can)

so i took one test in october 2025 = zero sperm and another test a few days later = zero sperm. I followed that by tons research and found a doctor in my area, we met with him and he told me to stop taking this hair medicine which i have taken for some months after my hair transplant, in the mean time of waiting for it to run out my body i tested my FSH and LH which were both high (BTW i have normal T levels of 400-500, maybe a bit low but somewhat normal)

i did retest SA and still zero sperm and we decided to change doctors which made us feel much more comfortable but they said they haven't done a ton of surgeries in this area but they know what azoo is. Not sure how I feel about that but I guess is what it is. This friday they are having me do the AZF and karotype tests. I have fully accepted whatever happens because honestly its crazy how us men go through that and other couples get prego on the first try and dont even know this world exists. I hope everyone stays strong. Ill come back with more updates soon. I truly believe in jesus christ and what ever his plan is for me but sometimes I feel scared.

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[u/Pratap_joshi]

Brother, thank you for sharing your story. The strength and perspective you've shown through such a difficult journey is inspiring. Getting an azoospermia diagnosis can feel devastating, but you've done everything right so far... seeking answers, getting repeat testing, consulting specialists, and moving forward with genetic testing. Whatever the results of the AZF and karyotype tests, remember that your value as a husband and a man is not defined by a sperm count. Your wife is fortunate to have someone who cares so deeply, and it's clear you're facing this together. Wishing you peace, clarity, and the best possible outcome with your upcoming tests and surgery. Stay strong and keep us updated.

[u/Nearby-Party-1327]

Are you taking any medications leading up to your surgery? 

[u/Proof_Count_6002 → u/Nearby-Party-1327]

The first doctor wanted me to take clomid but the second doctor didn't prescribe anything. I have been taking a list of different vitamins. Not sure if that helps or not. I guess we will see.

[u/Expert_Note4731]

Are they doing a biopsy of the testicle to see what’s causing it?

[u/Proof_Count_6002 → u/Expert_Note4731]

im not sure honestly, i think just surgery to look for the actual sperm its self

[u/lweish2]

My husband and I are going through the same thing. As a believer, it has also shaken my faith and I've definitely gotten mad at God, but I know that he lets us struggle so we can seek Him. If we could do everything ourselves, we wouldn't need Him or look for Him. When we run out of the human methods, that's when we know only He can help us. My husband is on Clomid now and doing the micro TESE in September. Then we will proceed with IVF. I just know that our baby will be worth the wait and super loved even though this isn't the vision I had. God is with us even in the darkest times! I'll be praying for you and all the other couples dealing with this. It's so hard when you want a baby so bad and have to do so much to achieve pregnancy!