r/infj • u/Dialogue_Dub INFJ/F/30 • Apr 24 '17

INFJ/INFJ Relationships

Hello all.

Curious to see what others have learned from being in this rare combination. Having been in an INFJ(me, female)/INFJ (him, male) for almost a year now, it's been pretty enlightening. We are eerily similar in our habits/processes, respect each other's private time, and having a weird sense of reading each other's minds from across the room at a party with a glance.

I feel like I've also learned about my own shortcomings through the things we both do. The main one would be assuming other's motivations (it comes across as pretty presumptuous now that I've been on the receiving end), another would be assuming people will read my mind through subtle cues (example: he is suddenly hurt by some secret test I didn't know I was on, or cue I didn't pick up on because he doesn't express what he wants in a very obvious way).

So, positive, negatives? Strategies for dating someone so similar? I find we get into conflict when we each do the same negatives above at the same time or are too stubbornly held in our opinions.

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u/wcb98 ENTP Apr 24 '17

INFJ-INFJ relationship? Nope, not allowed that's incest.

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u/Lamzn6 INFJ Apr 25 '17

Wow. Someone took my go-to comment on this subject. Do I know you?

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u/wcb98 ENTP Apr 25 '17

Great minds think alike haha. This is actually my.go to comment too lol, think this is the like the 3rd time I've made this joke across the mtbi subs :P

Never gets old :D lol