r/infj • u/DeadMage INFJ/M/25 • Oct 21 '13

The extremely rare INFJ-INFJ relationship.

Currently, I am pseudo-seeing (because its complicated) a girl who happens to be an INFJ, just like me.

This match is almost unheard of due to a variety of reasons; the extremely low population statistics from INFJs being the rarest type, how it contradicts the idea of "opposites attract," and how INFJs commitment tendencies make them even more difficult to come by on the dating market.

Upon meeting eachother, we quickly realized that we are EXTREMELY compatible. Its the type of compatibility where you almost immediately feel like you've known the other for years, being able to talk about almost anything together and intuitively understand what the other is feeling or thinking.

Has anyone else had any experience with INFJ-INFJ relationships? Is it possible that this pairing may actually be the best for INFJs in general? What's YOUR opinion on the matter?

59 Upvotes

95% Upvoted

21 comments sorted by

View all comments

4

u/Kramenz Aug 09 '23

I dont want to act like a child but I found this thread because I stumbled upon a girl on dating app and we perfectly hit it off and had been chatting with each other for almost 2 hours straight. I have been dating numerous people and I can say, non of them had this perfect chemistry like what I had with this girl. The conversation was amazing and it felt like we're a great match. Apparently she is an INFJ and I've never met any other INFJs in my life before so I am really curious as to how this is going to go, fingers 🤞, would update this thread if things go well, if you don't hear from me again, guess we're not made for each other! But God damn

1

u/shirou777 Sep 26 '23

kinda curious to know how you do with that girl after 2 month !

3

u/Kramenz Sep 26 '23

Hey how are you! So basically, that girl ghosted me a day after, but I appreciated the conversation we had and how we generated this amazing chemistry through chatting since then I've adopted her way of approaching people and conversation when talking to someone new, and I have not failed in making new great connections especially with people who were genuine, fast-forward I am currently talking to a Japanese girl whose personality is an ENFJ but I find myself very close to her because she exerted a kind and gentle energy the same as this INFJ girl! However, I have never met or matched with any girls who were INFJs. So I am still curious how things would've turned out if I started seeing an INFJ haha

1

u/officermlcel ENTJ Feb 13 '24

First date with a 34 F INFJ today. I am a 35 M INFJ. First INFJ I have dated. Went well, we are seeing each other again in a couple of days. Will update the thread. We need to track these events. I think the connection is pure gold