r/infj • u/DeadMage INFJ/M/25 • Oct 21 '13

The extremely rare INFJ-INFJ relationship.

Currently, I am pseudo-seeing (because its complicated) a girl who happens to be an INFJ, just like me.

This match is almost unheard of due to a variety of reasons; the extremely low population statistics from INFJs being the rarest type, how it contradicts the idea of "opposites attract," and how INFJs commitment tendencies make them even more difficult to come by on the dating market.

Upon meeting eachother, we quickly realized that we are EXTREMELY compatible. Its the type of compatibility where you almost immediately feel like you've known the other for years, being able to talk about almost anything together and intuitively understand what the other is feeling or thinking.

Has anyone else had any experience with INFJ-INFJ relationships? Is it possible that this pairing may actually be the best for INFJs in general? What's YOUR opinion on the matter?

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u/finish_the_picture 20/F/INFJ Oct 21 '13

Just a quick fact for you, I'm studying psychology, and actually, the "opposites attract" idea is a myth. People who have more in common with one another are drawn to each other, not vice versa. That is not to say people dislike each other for their differences, but they aren't necessarily drawn to each other because of it either.

As for dating an INFJ, I haven't had the experience, but would like to.

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u/givyouhugz INFJ Oct 22 '13

I don't know about this. The strongest chemistry I ever had was with an ESTP. But he was quickly able to get over me so I think temperament contributed to relationship longevity.