r/fixedbytheduet 11d ago

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u/AllsWellThatsNB 11d ago

Who says I am? I judge them by their own actions.

Typically, when a stranger makes a sexist comment, it's reasonable to dismiss them. It's not any less pathetic because she's queer.

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u/vivrant-thang 11d ago

assuming someone who is very clearly joking is a TERF because of experiences you've had with unrelated TERFs is what I am saying is the problem. She's kidding and it doesn't matter if some other asshole is being hateful... you dont get to take her joke as face value because others have been hateful.

And, you are rebutting with something entirely different. If an individual says something racist, dimiss them. That makes sense! But if someone tells the same joke as a racist, but has otherwise not been racist, you dont declare the joke racist too.

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u/CanadianODST2 11d ago

Nah.

It’s perfectly okay to not just hand wave jokes because you might find them fine.

And joking that certain groups shouldn’t do certain things is very much a joke that many would say is not okay.

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u/Special-Garlic1203 11d ago

So you think it's your job to police lesbians joking about a very common lesbian experience in a way that does not offend cis men?in defense of trans women, an entirely different group who have nothing to do with butch women and cis men and do not present on a way that would be confused other 

This is the worst most homophobic advocacy ever. You're defending nobody but falling over yourself to attack lesbians 

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u/CanadianODST2 11d ago

No. You’re just a bad person who looks to defend shitty behaviour hiding behind a joke.

If a guy “joked” that men shouldn’t have long hair because they get them confused for a woman I’d say the same thing. Which is something I’ve seen happen and is actually very much something men have been harassed for.

You’re just trying to hide behind jokes to push and reinforce gender norms. Which btw very much would have to do with cis men and ESPECIALLY butch women which is LITERALLY an example of pushing against gender norms.

You’re admitting you think long hair is a feminine trait and therefore it’s okay to joke about men doing it. Then turn around and claim people who don’t feel pushing gender norms should be something to joke about are attacking groups whose identity is tied to breaking those very gender norms…

You think it’s okay for a guy to joke about butch women are men? I don’t. But you seem to think going the other way is fine.

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u/dorsehivorcee 11d ago edited 11d ago

What’s funny about the original video is their over reaction, not necessarily the content of their joke. I don’t think the person in the original video actually cares that much about whether men have long hair.

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u/Existing_Abies_4101 11d ago

No it's just funny when you see someone from behind and get excited that they look just like the type of person you're into and when they turn around they are completely not. Lighten the fuck up, the people harassing you are assholes, she isn't harassing anyone she is just giving an obvious overreaction to that feeling a lot of us have had.

She isn't actually telling people what to do with their body you lunatic. Chill the fuck out.