r/datingoverforty • u/PartyNeat8439 • 4h ago

Confused what to expect in dating in late 40’s

I guess my main issue is that this is very new to me. When I really dated last things were very different. I guess I’m wondering the pace to take things. I know every person and relationship is different but like how long would you expect he show you his home even though he living with adult son who he is trying to rebuild relationship after long separation. When would you hope he would tell your adult son?
I guess I’m just insecure because so far my dating experience with other men has included lies, infidelity and really just wanting someone to have regular bedroom fun with. This guy feels different but I just feel so wary now. Any advice please?

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u/throwawaywaitingnow 3h ago

You should expect what you find important is being met. If not then you have to communicate or there will be problems.

Everyone has different deal breakers so what works for you may not work for another couple and vice versa.

For example, you may wanna meet his adult son now but another woman may say they won’t do it until after two years. Same concept different timelines because people are different.

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u/BorderAdventurous284 single dad 3h ago

I have to know they will be in my life long-term, so it's typically 6-12 months before they meet my kids. That assumes we have a stable relationship and a promising future. Anything else is a no-go.

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u/smartygirl 2h ago

This. Relationship should be stable for 6 months minimum. Especially if their relationship is rocky, no need to rock it further 

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Original copy of post by u/PartyNeat8439:

I guess my main issue is that this is very new to me. When I really dated last things were very different. I guess I’m wondering the pace to take things. I know every person and relationship is different but like how long would you expect he show you his home even though he living with adult son who he is trying to rebuild relationship after long separation. When would you hope he would tell your adult son?
I guess I’m just insecure because so far my dating experience with other men has included lies, infidelity and really just wanting someone to have regular bedroom fun with. This guy feels different but I just feel so wary now. Any advice please?

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u/_possiblymaybe_ 3h ago

Way more context is needed here. Are there needs of yours that aren’t being met. How long have you been dating? Have you expressed that you’d like to see where he lives? Is there anything else that has you worried he is hiding something?