r/bodylanguage • u/Less_Professional152 • 4d ago

Workplace Why do men do this?

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I’ve never once in my life seen a woman sit like this. Lol

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u/Lukester5867 4d ago

It comfy

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u/Less_Professional152 4d ago

It must be because you have wider shoulders or something because I tried for fun and it didn’t give me the same satisfaction as it seems to give you boys

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u/Dusty_Tokens 4d ago

Men don't really have anything going on with their chests to move around too much, so maybe that was the difference?

By the same token, we can go down the stairs as quickly as we want to. Race each other, even!

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u/Ok-Relief-1985 4d ago

my pecs still jiggle when I run down stairs lol

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u/SquirrelNormal 4d ago

Mine are just moobs

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u/No-Count-2533 3d ago

Love a good pair of man boobs to squish at night especially if they’re hairy 🤣

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u/Thingshumansdo 3d ago

Oh you NASTY nasty

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u/ThedamnedOtaku 4d ago

That’s when you know you made it, that or made it to obesity 😔

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u/latemodmail24 2d ago

fair point but there is also a third group of people who just have really tight lats and think this is the only way to stretch them properly. it looks smug but feels like freedom.

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u/Most-Bench6465 4d ago

They don’t do that. Show me proof

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u/Increase-Tiny 3d ago

My, lets say "pecks" and "Sixpack" too!

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u/ChaosMackenzie 3d ago

At least they don't almost knock you out

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u/Dusty_Tokens 2d ago

😌 I think I'd rather take a funbag to the face.

...Actually, no. 🤕 That sounds injurious!

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u/ChaosMackenzie 2d ago

Was gonna say, when trying to walk down the stairs in a hurry? Lol

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u/lastmartianx 4d ago

Maybe you guys can race down stairs, my knees hurt.

This pose feels great though.

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u/Nap_Olean85 4d ago

Ya, that may not be the reason considering a lot of guys sit with their legs this way too hahaha

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u/EnlightenedLazySloth 1d ago

Yeah... a lot of women can do that too you know?

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u/breadcrumbs7 1d ago

Not in boxers.

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u/Not_Bound 4d ago

My back and shoulders are constantly tight from sitting at a computer. This is a great way to stretch and give your arms a break.

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u/More__like_borophyll 4d ago

I tried for fun made me lol for some reason

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u/Less_Professional152 4d ago

Me too I felt absolutely like a silly goofball doing it yet men pull it off casually

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u/cheesey_loop 4d ago

Why? I do this sometimes as a woman,its comfy..

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u/Less_Professional152 3d ago

I don’t know it just feels unnatural to me

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u/Cold_Appointment2999 4d ago

The extra muscle around the pectoral girdle makes for increased tension in the area also. Not only are men more stable in this range of motion, it makes for a satisfying stretch.

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u/eternallyconphuzed 4d ago

HuMan version of the cat's big stretch

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u/Huge-Turnover-3749 4d ago

Do you get that satisfaction out of stretching? I feel like it's roughly the same motion or type of relief.

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u/Less_Professional152 4d ago

Yes but not this one for some reason lol. This one helps my messed up lady shoulders and back more

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u/Imaginary_Angle_ 4d ago

I saw a woman sit like this yesterday lol its not "a man thing"

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u/TheVeryVerity 4d ago

I mean I’m a woman and I sit like this sometimes and stretch similarly too but I do think it’s pretty gendered. I seem to be uncommon ya know

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u/GoldenToothBalkan 4d ago

Comfy with broad shoulders

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u/Embarrassed-Code-608 3d ago

Yeah you pretty much got it. Larger upper body and it stretches shoulders chest back arms . It generally just feels good after being tense for awhile

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u/FogBankDeposit 4d ago

Basically this. We’re top heavy, so leaning back in a chair takes a load off.

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u/Fuck_it_we_ball_ 4d ago

Yeah women are famous for having nothing heavy on their upper bodies.

Just joking, but your point would kind of imply that women with big booms would be doing this a a lot, and apparently they don’t. But they do get surgery which seems a bit more work than just leaning back

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u/DustandRebar 4d ago

That all being said, a woman's center of gravity is typically lower down, just above her hips since women tend to have wider hips. A man's center of gravity is higher up, usually in his lower chest because men have broader shoulders.

I used to be an athletics instructor and that was something I had to account for when teaching center of gravity balance exercises.

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u/Knight_Castellan 4d ago

Taking weight off the shoulders doesn't affect the chest.

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u/Cold_Appointment2999 4d ago

Boobs don't create any tension, muscle does. You can't stretch titty.

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u/Fuck_it_we_ball_ 4d ago

Having weight on your chest doesn’t cause your back to work harder to maintain posture?

And wouldn’t this be a great stretch if you’ve been hunched over a bit with extra weight on your chest?

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u/Cold_Appointment2999 4d ago

That's actually very valid and I hadn't thought about it (you can tell I don't have boobs), but I think this position would stretch the pecs and serratus anterior rather than anything in the back. The hunch is already a passive stretch. Well endowed women would benefit from doing rows to beef up the back muscles more than anything.

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u/Safe-Selection8070 3d ago

This pose doesn't take weight off the lower back. It takes weight off the mid and upper back, as well as the neck.

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u/Material-Dream-4976 2d ago

If I wasn't ROFL I'd suggest it helps to stretch the pectoral muscles underneath the boobs.

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u/Ifckinglovemycat 3d ago

it makes a certain nerve gives you happy hormones no matter your sex/gender, you're just not sensitive to it because of stress or something else

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u/bklark 3d ago edited 3d ago

Not always, but it can be a subconscious posture demonstrating comfort and unguarded engagement.

For a woman, this posture would not mean the same thing at all

Edit: it can also be a dominance thing for men, but anything can be that for men so I didn't think to mention it. Like it could mean "I'm so at ease that I don't even have to deal with you"

But assuming good things and not bad, it can generally mean unguardedness and openness

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u/LuchoGuicho 4d ago

For me it’s the stretch of the pectoral muscles and triceps. I’m not built or anything but when I sit at my desk too long that position does allow the blood to move and get a little stretch in.

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u/the18plusacct 4d ago

I'm a woman and I do it sometimes because it's a good stretch

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u/Dunoh2828 3d ago

It’s a nice stretch if you’re sore from working out. It’s a satisfying feeling.

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u/ElusiveQuant 2d ago

Ah dont worry about it get into suspension or doing long hangs from door ledges or chin up bar and itll get nice to you evntually

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u/Zdzisiu 2d ago

I think it's more about chess muscles. They get a nice strech in that position. Women have those muscles less developed.

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u/orignalTePukeThunder 2d ago

Thanks for promoting me, I just did it at my desk, feels great!

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u/Successful-Shock8234 2d ago

Well, I’ve seen plenty of women sit like this, so I dunno what you’re on about.

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u/Olympic_lama 1d ago

Men have all their muscles in their chest, shoulders, and arms. It's comfy to relieve that tension. It's also comfy to cross our arms for the same effect.

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u/Astrnonaut 1d ago

Not at all, it’s a socially learned trait. Everybody has different bodies.

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u/lostknight0727 1d ago

It's the same reason we cross our arms, we aren't "closing ourselves off." We're locking in and getting comfortable, our arms are heavy.

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u/McMenz_ 1d ago

It’s a stretch that literally counteracts being hunched over at your computer desk for long periods of time. You’re reverse arching the back while pulling the shoulders back at the same time.

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u/Organic-Ganache-8156 4d ago

There’s apparently a similar difference regarding crossing the arms on the chest. It’s very comfortable for men but not similarly so for women, so men do it much more often simply because it feels good. As I recall, it does have something to do with bone structure.

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u/Less_Professional152 4d ago

Interesting. I find arms crossed on the chest to be much more comfortable as a woman compared to this pose