r/adviceph • u/SpiderChicken98 • 7d ago
Love & Relationships First Date | Gathering thoughts
Problem/Goal: 1st Date
Context: Hii, M28 here. So for starters I've never been in a relationship and still new sa dating world. Just wanted to gather thoughts and opinions from you guys and girls (especially sa girls).
For short context, for the 1st time I asked this girl out for our 1st date. Nagkakila kami sa online dating app. Been talking for almost 2 months na. Looks and talks decent naman sa chat and surface level we share common preferences naman.
For the 1st date nagkasundo kami sa place and I arranged na susunduin ko sya and ihahatid paguwi kasi malayo ung place niya sa pupuntahan namin naka motor naman ako so not really hassle naman for me and para di na sya mamasahe.
So here's the question, nakakaturnoff ba sainyo if sa 1st date is KKB ang setup? As a guy, should I really shoulder the expense. We both wanted to meet each other naman so its mutual. We're still in the getting to know phase and no exclusivity pa to each other.
To all guys out there what's ur advice? How did your 1st dates really went?
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u/Perfect-Display-8289 7d ago
Depende eh. If its a date during the courtship stage or I know I want to proceed with a relationship with that woman I pay. Even after 5++ years I pay for all the dates, rarely her if she is really insisting. If friendly lang, Ive tried kkb na din, even tried where the woman insists on paying the date, and no the date wasnt disappointing to them, we even talked a few times after that hangout. They just want to pay for me that time lol
Anyway, do you want to impress? Then pay. Are you still undecided where this is going AND she invited you, then try asking for kkb. There are women who are fine with it, swear. But at your age, I would highly suggest you pay. Asking a woman to pay may show your lack of ability to provide for her, so high chance there wont be succeeding dates, but again depends. Ask her what she thinks.