r/adviceph • u/SpiderChicken98 • 8d ago
Love & Relationships First Date | Gathering thoughts
Problem/Goal: 1st Date
Context: Hii, M28 here. So for starters I've never been in a relationship and still new sa dating world. Just wanted to gather thoughts and opinions from you guys and girls (especially sa girls).
For short context, for the 1st time I asked this girl out for our 1st date. Nagkakila kami sa online dating app. Been talking for almost 2 months na. Looks and talks decent naman sa chat and surface level we share common preferences naman.
For the 1st date nagkasundo kami sa place and I arranged na susunduin ko sya and ihahatid paguwi kasi malayo ung place niya sa pupuntahan namin naka motor naman ako so not really hassle naman for me and para di na sya mamasahe.
So here's the question, nakakaturnoff ba sainyo if sa 1st date is KKB ang setup? As a guy, should I really shoulder the expense. We both wanted to meet each other naman so its mutual. We're still in the getting to know phase and no exclusivity pa to each other.
To all guys out there what's ur advice? How did your 1st dates really went?
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u/Any_Revolution_1913 7d ago
Usually kung sino yung nag-aya sa date, sya yung expected na magbabayad, unless may usapan kayo beforehand na split yung bill.
Then, it's just common decency na mag offer yung other party na magshare sa gastos pagtapos kumain or ng date.
Makalumang pag-iisip na yung dapat lalaki lagi ang gagastos, and imo red flag yung di man lang kikibo regarding sa bayad or yung expected na nya na sagot mo. Palamunin behavior yung ganun lol, simula pa lang you're already being taken for granted.