Why is your post or comment being downvoted?

[u/SoThenIThought_]

-----Intro-----

First of all, comment counting and karma are constructs. They don't actually mean anything. Go into the drinking sub and talk about being sober. You're going to get downvoted. Go to the sub about sneakers and talk about personal finance, same thing. Reddit communities are little bastions of hyper-specific, often biased group-think. Sometimes Often ran by narcissistic [____] like me.

-----Background-----

Self-confidence and self-respect are not the same things as pride or honor, in the same way that selfishness and self-centeredness are not always good / bad. Egos are all different and you never know who you're dealing with; There are some 6 ft 7 utterly ripped beefcakes that are frankly-as-fragile-as-a-fossilized-fern. There are also some ancient grandmas that are congressional-medal-of-Honor-hard. And on some days, some of us can be either.

Some of you have missed your kids' birthdays to do things for your employer. Decades of this. Little bits of your life have been chipped away by your compromises to an employer who then screws you over. We are not entitled to tell you how you should feel in the same way that you are not entitled to have your feelings tell us if our advice is accurate or not If nobody's going to be providing sources. Sometimes it isn't the right time for the conversation. Sometimes it's too early, sometimes it's way too late. Often this, and life is messy. Man, I should rewatch Crash)

Most mistakes are genuine, some misunderstandings are avoidable and yet inevitable, while some understandings are fake.

• We would be better, if we could more often keep it all in perspective.

-----Purpose-----

• I'm not here to wax rhapsodically about whose childhood made who, who and how.

• I'm here to address upvoting and downvoting as on occasion both you and I can get accidentally drawn into paying attention to it and not the actual solution of the issue.

-----Here is why you're getting down voted-----

---Community Issue--

• The community requires that you do something in the post body or title, which you didn't do. Like adding a specific flair.

• The community requires that you do something before posting, like read a wiki or search, and you didn't do that.

• You may have posted in the wrong community. Onlyfans isn't for amateur content. It's literally just fans. Leaves isn't about plant identification.

----Post Issue---

• You ask for advice without any kind of specific question

• Your post has an excessive amount of contextual backstory that has nothing to do with the question, if they're even is one

• Your trying to convince us to agree to something without necessary context

----Reply Issue---

• You are making your issue larger and harder for us to solve: (e.g.Your post is extremely brief, the solutions seem obvious and when we suggest them you say you already did them and they didn't work. ...Then why didn't you include that information in your post?)

• Your replies do not answer the direct questions or are only tangentially related

• Your replies directly contradict what you wrote in your post

----Moral Issue----

• You imply that you're entitled to something that simply isn't a right

• You seem to be fighting the people that you asked for help

• You are using logical fallacies, gaslighting / buzzwords/victim mentality eg. "Toxic workplace"

----Other - It could be not related to you----

• You could be being brigaded: You are active elsewhere on Reddit and people are looking in your profile posting history and downvoting everything you ever do

• You could have a follower who has multiple accounts on multiple IP addresses who logs in and out just to downvote you

• You could just have really spicy replies and somebody is ragefarming you

• You could have a troll or follower who is sealioning

• It could be something to do with bots

-----Conclusion-----

• Hey, did you know that moderators can go into desktop mode and change an entire post to contest mode which hides voting scores and randomizes comment order? If it bothers you you could ask me to do this

• Hey, did you know that when you report a post, it's anonymous? I don't know who is doing it. When you report it it disappears from public and goes into a queue that makes me look at it. If you think that it should disappear and get a set of eyes to look at it, just report it.

• Hey, did you know that we are also human? Sometimes when a day ends in the letter -y, we can have a bad day, and we can externalize this to you. No, it's not right but it does happen. Too often.

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