r/Shouldihaveanother • u/throwaway45676543738 • Mar 25 '26
Age gaps Recently found out I’m having a second- positive stories please!
Long story short we knew we wanted two children in future but hadn’t thought about the logistics until our son turned three. Then decided we’d start ‘loosely trying’ and see what happens. What happens certainly did happen a lot sooner than expected. At first it was a shock and although happy I was mostly emotional and upset at the thought of ‘losing my son’ and the time we have with him being the only child. Now I’ve had a few days to get over it I am excited but definitely apprehensive. Does anyone have any success stories to keep my excitement going? Especially with a 4 year age gap as my son will be almost 4 once baby is born. Thanks!
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u/jojo185869 Mar 26 '26
I needed this post. Thinking about trying when my son turns 3 next month, and even the thought of trying makes me feel the emotions toj said above because there’s no going back and I just love the one on one time with my son
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u/Accomplished-King240 Mar 26 '26
My son turned 4 right before sister was born. It has been the best age gap! We told him right from the beginning about the pregnancy and he loved watching week by week videos of what was going on with the baby and we also checked out as many books as possible at the library about pregnancy and being a big brother. He’s 5.5 now and she’s 18 months and there are some challenges like her breaking his Lego creations but overall they’re so sweet together and it’s making me consider a 3rd with a similar age gap 😂
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u/Sensitive_March8309 Mar 26 '26
5 year age gap here and couldn’t be happier!! I had a lot of anxiety about bonding with the new baby while not losing the relationship I’ve had with our oldest but it all worked out!! My 5 year old has been incredible and she has grown up so much in the last 3 months (since baby was born.) but she’s still our little girl. The love she has for her sister is absolutely beautiful. And baby girl loves her sister too!! When she first started smiling she mostly gave smiles to her sister. Our family is truly complete and despite the rough nights with colic etc I am grateful:) congratulations on your new addition!
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u/djtink Mar 25 '26
3.5yr each gap, with an older son. I absolutely love it. He is so so sweet with the baby, it is one of my favorite things to see them interact. Of course there are hard moments, but that is the case with any age gap. Or even a single child for that matter lol. Congrats!!!!