Discarded like yesterdays trash.

[u/eversolo8]

I should probably stop trying to make sense of this but its been 2 months since my SO kicked me out and I just can't stop. I just cannot understand how after 30 years of marriage one can just decide "I don't want to be married anymore" and toss you out like the trash. Didn't shed a single tear, didn't care if I was dead or alive, didn't care that I had no place to go, clearly was fine with me being on the streets. Just didn't care about me in any way what so ever. How? How can anyone be capable of this? I don't know who she is anymore. Did she only show her true colors after 30 years? The worst part is there was no warnings, everything seemed fine right up to the day I woke up and she was gone. Later to be served papers telling me to leave my home (yes I know legally she can't do this) but I didn't want to be where I wasn't wanted, it hurt way too much. She just said she wasn't happy anymore, and yes, I get that, I wasn't either and I was suffering from depression and anxiety. But wouldn't normally a discussion take place? Like talk about wanting a separation etc etc? Or heaven forbid, even trying to fix things? I will forever be stunned that a human who told me she loved me right up to the day she was gone could do such a thing. I don't think I will ever want to love anyone again. Shattered.

[u/djk0010]

Yep i’m in a similar boat I wasn’t married as long as you my STBX, got rid of all the pictures blocked me on all social media and doesn’t answer text anymore after we decided to take a break and separate for a little while. And then I went back to try to get my personal stuff (non martial property) like my guitars my clothes for work and some of my other work clothes and shoes and she told me that I’m not allowed to get any of my stuff until the divorce is final. I had also called the police and they told me that they can’t force her to let me in the house and I still been helping pay for the mortgage and bills so I’m still technically a resident there which is complete garbage.

So now she is forcing me to spend extra money that I really don’t have to buy clothes and shit so I can get a new job. I also thought it was funny that in the divorce paperwork, the stuff that she has listed as marital property is stuff that I paid for before we had even met and moved in together, so she’s doing it to be vindictive and spiteful. I noticed that she didn’t list not a single thing of hers just my personal stuff. I work it for a living and she’s got “IT equipment” listed as marital property when all of it was purchased before we were married. When I bought my brand new car that is under my name I had to buy new tires because it came with summer tires because it’s a sports car and where we were living it’s cold a lot so I bought all seasons. She has the old tires from the car listed as marital property. Like give me a break. I also bought her a new washer and dryer stove and refrigerator and she didn’t help with any of it and is trying to claim that as marital property, which is fine, but she needs to pay for it.

I also want the equity back that I put into her home when I helped her pay the mortgage. So what I wanna bet is happening is her lawyer asked her for a list of stuff so that she doesn’t have to pay a lot of money towards me. The cool thing about me is I have receipt receipts for everything so she can play the little game that she’s trying to play right now. And it also is not gonna look good when I tell the judge that she refused to let me get my personal items because I have the police report for that as well too.

And the icing on the cake it after I left we agreed to keep in contact with each other because we honestly did want to work on the marriage as we were actively going to marriage counseling and counseling told us that we need to take a little break for a little while so I went to go stay with my mother in another state while we took a break and then all this shit started happening. She decided three days after I was gone to reach out to my ex and there’s no telling what my ex filled her head with which is why she’s probably not talking to me anymore. There’s a reason why someone is your ex and they’re not gonna always have a positive opinion about you depending on how things end.