r/Separation • u/eversolo8 • 4d ago
Discarded like yesterdays trash.
I should probably stop trying to make sense of this but its been 2 months since my SO kicked me out and I just can't stop. I just cannot understand how after 30 years of marriage one can just decide "I don't want to be married anymore" and toss you out like the trash. Didn't shed a single tear, didn't care if I was dead or alive, didn't care that I had no place to go, clearly was fine with me being on the streets. Just didn't care about me in any way what so ever. How? How can anyone be capable of this? I don't know who she is anymore. Did she only show her true colors after 30 years? The worst part is there was no warnings, everything seemed fine right up to the day I woke up and she was gone. Later to be served papers telling me to leave my home (yes I know legally she can't do this) but I didn't want to be where I wasn't wanted, it hurt way too much. She just said she wasn't happy anymore, and yes, I get that, I wasn't either and I was suffering from depression and anxiety. But wouldn't normally a discussion take place? Like talk about wanting a separation etc etc? Or heaven forbid, even trying to fix things? I will forever be stunned that a human who told me she loved me right up to the day she was gone could do such a thing. I don't think I will ever want to love anyone again. Shattered.
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u/karemlore 4d ago
I'm being discarded after 23 years by my wife. Made mistakes early on (no infidelity, no violence) that I was never able to surmount, even after 20 years. It'll be a scar as I continue the remainder of my life.