r/PregnancyAfterTFMR • u/thebestofme23 • 14h ago
How do you deal with anxiety in this pregnancy after last mid term loss?
Hi, I am pregnant and just entered in 2nd trimester, the 12 week scan is due in 1 week at 13week4days. I lost my last pregnancy at 19weeks pprom. This time my mind is playing bad games with me .. night pees bring trauma as in half slept state when I go to pee and suddenly start to feel as if water is broken ... which drives me crazy .. I have felt movement s in last 2 -3 days but haven't felt any today.. it again gave me anxiety .. I don't know how to deal with such things .. anybody faced this or similar things?
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u/Cultural_Ad_8976 11h ago
I started sleeping with a pregnancy pillow early because the nighttime anxiety was rough. In my first pregnancy, my water broke in the middle of the night at 18 weeks when I got back into bed after going to the bathroom. In my current pregnancy I started feeling a lot of middle of the night anxiety around 14/15 weeks. The pillow helped me feel a little more held and secure in bed which I think was somewhat soothing to the anxiety. It’s hard though!! A mental struggle everyday ❤️
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u/nicole-2020 6h ago
I did have pprom with my tfmr baby at 26 weeks, but that is not why/how we lost him, so my situation is different. But my water ruptured with him at 25 (only partial leak, but it did kickstart labor) with my daughter they checked my cervix often. I started contracting with her around 28 weeks. Then I was hospitalized from 31-32 weeks. We then did pretty consistent checks from there on out. I did magnesium drip/steroids just in case. I was on bed rest for a bit, but she stayed in until 36 weeks! My situation probably isn’t the best. With all that said, I of course had anxiety, but I was very open with all my doctors about it and they were always so reassuring. Lean into them and your support network. I also did a looooot of therapy and it was nice just to tell someone all my fears and just have that sounding board. Being pregnant is just scary now and it’s okay. Being anxious won’t affect the outcome. You can always ask your doctor about a stitch?? I’ve had a friend who needed one and did fantastic. No issues whatsoever.
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u/CanCharming7442 12h ago
Hopefully there’s other PPROM women in this group to offer support. My good friend went through it and had intense medical anxiety in her second pregnancy, constantly worried about going to labour. She was followed more closely and got a stitch at one point which helped.
For me, my anxiety is mostly clustered around scans, but I still get panic moments. I really try and fight them back. Not indulge the intrusive thoughts and move my mind elsewhere. Worrying in the moment can’t really do anything but it causes so much stress on top. Trying to live by the mantra that I can’t control outcome only the experience has been my motto!