r/OntarioGrade12s • u/Express-Ad7651 • 23h ago
Advice my gf going western nursing. is it actually wraps or are my friends ragebaiting
all my friends r saying im cooked cus apparwnrly western is like the "asu of Canada". she also wants to join all the social clubs there and all my friends r telling me to pack it up. is it acc over or are they just fearmongering
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u/Xclusiive_jsa 22h ago
It really depends on how bad YALL want the relationship imo lol, if yall both put effort then I mean why should u be scared
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u/pwetty_brown_eyes 19h ago
Y'all need to learn to be normal about women
Nursing is a respectable and stable career choice 🤷♂️
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u/Front-Strike-8690 1st Year Uni 14h ago
I’m gonna say its wraps because long distance is always chopped unless someone is willing to put in a lot of effort
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u/Zestyclose-Ask-1977 1h ago
Both parties need to put in the effort. If people are gonna cheat, they’re gonna cheat.
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u/Deoxyrynn 22h ago
This whole trend of judging women going to certain universities or programs is actually really misogynistic. Let the girl learn!!
On that same note, most high school relationships don't last into uni, because of the long-distance aspect, but also because you grow so much.
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u/These_Mousse_5773 18h ago
Highschool relationship tend to drift apart after both people go to a different school. (This doesn’t mean you can’t make it work)
I think some just cope by saying a specific school is a clue they were gonna leave their partner when in reality being around tons of new people your age when your partner isn’t for majority of the year can lead to a revaluation of relationship priorities.
If it’s a serious relationship and you guys have talked through your long term plans I wouldn’t worry. Just communicate your worries or insecurities with her instead of Reddit
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u/Creepy_Ad57 19h ago
Cause apparently all women who go to western nursing are just hoes and cheaters. Not a misogynistic idea at all.
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u/blomba2 4h ago
Aren’t nurses the highest cheating job? And western the party school? 🤔
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u/Sweet-Midnight8783 4h ago
Nurses are not the highest job with cheating 😭✌🏾where did you even get that information from.
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u/Creepy_Ad57 1h ago
Cheating depends on a person not a fucking school, and people only say it’s nurses because it’s a female dominated job.
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u/Ossilating_Fan 22h ago
my roommates cousin goes to western and she is doing amazing :) she has a great group of friends, does her work, but still has fun. it depends on the person and their circumstances, not the school. if you are really worried, voice concerns with your gf and have a game plan. the adjustment is hard moving to university but if its meant to be it will withstand this!
have a talk with her, make the effort to preserve your relationship, and youll do fine.
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u/aira-dynamic41 19h ago
yo if she wants to cheat on u or break up w u she’d do it regardless of her university 💀. however, usually long distance doesn’t last esp for highschool relationships if there isn’t mutual effort, trust, and communication. so it’s up to u two if u really want this relationship to last.
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u/Rainbowfrapp 21h ago
Another incel post
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u/Miserable-Buyer4329 8h ago
Hes not an incel, the word incel is an abbrevation of “involuntarily celibate”. And this guy quite evidently does not match this description, sinces hes on reddit bitching about his gf.
I believe the word youre looking for is “cuck”.
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u/chasing_geese49 17h ago
It really does not matter which school it is. Cheaters are gonna cheat, non-cheaters won't. Your friends are stereotyping and ragebaiting you.
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u/Remarkable-Match-302 23h ago edited 22h ago
Bro how do you expect to maintain a romantic relationship with someone you can’t see for four years, let alone when during those four years they’re gonna be perpetually surrounded by 99 overall frat bros
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u/sethrena 18h ago
I went to school hours away from my boyfriend for 2 years, lived together 1 year, then did distance again for 3 years. If you love someone enough, you'll make it work. We've been married for 7 years now.
That being said, I wouldn't have been able to do it for any other man. I knew what I had, and had enough experience to know there was never going to be any better than him for the rest of my life.
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u/Spiritual-Database36 19h ago
hm actually not true at all ive been w my partner for 3 years and we went to different universities. very possible if you make it work :)
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u/Bubbly-Watch6214 19h ago
Wow, the amount of misogyny in here is something else. You’ve all failed yourselves. Congratulations.
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u/Brilliant-Market-144 21h ago
Probably not and it has nothing to with the fat that she’s going to western or going into nursing. Most high school relationships aren’t that strong to begin with and long distance makes it even more difficult. If you guys have a healthy and strong bond then you should trust her the same way she trusts you
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u/JardinDeFleur 23h ago
in my opinion, it really depends on the strength of your relationship. so many people can do long distance and/or challenges in their relationship that come with being at a stereotypical “party school.” i wouldn’t say that it’s fair to assume your relationship won’t work out simply because of the school. most of the time, that is projection and “fear mongering,” because a lot of people can’t see themselves loving someone and taking a relationship seriously, especially when there may be other people trying to flirt with and make moves. it’s really about your relationship; if your relationship is strong with good communication, it can always go positively for you. don’t base it on what people say, especially if they are single or have a terrible history with relationships; misery likes company.
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u/Freshman_01134 18h ago
You’re not cooked because of her going to western nursing, but it’s not easy to have a long distance relationship this young. If you guys are really committed and see a future together though, I think you can do it and I wish you the best
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u/StoreUnited4496 22h ago
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u/StoreUnited4496 22h ago
Not only is she going to western, she’s going there for nursing, it’s wraps bro
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u/Novel_Judge6431 18h ago
The distance will surface the gaps in your relationship. If there's depth, it will last. If it's shallow, it won't.
A shallow relationship is mostly fun and some drama. You support each other through hardships. You like the way you feel when the other person is around. There's a need being fulfilled. You haven't fully shared your entire life with the other person.
A deep relationship is where you align on life purpose. You have similar goals and mission in life, and you've talked about it. You like who you are whether your partner is there or not. They bring out the best in you. You still have healthy friendships outside of the relationship.
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u/No_Obligation4496 22h ago
My high school girlfriend went to Western and I went to Mac. We broke up the summer before school started.
All for the best man.
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u/KingNo3075 20h ago
So many chuds in this comment section god damn
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u/Efficient-Art-9379 20h ago
hey so this idea stems from misogyny, and is extremely sexist. its honestly just bs. whats wrong with joining social clubs?? your logic makes no sense. your gf is better off with you breaking up with her. your worried about an imaginary situation 💀 i also find it amusing you believe that shell have time to even think about anything else while studying nursing. smh
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u/breannexp 21h ago
Honestly school doesn’t matter. Most couples break up before or just after going anyway - distance is hard, you meet new people and grow
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u/Flaky_Profit_3138 20h ago
No high school relationships lasted from my high school. People change, it’s life. Hard to maintain a relationship with distance. You’ll probably in a few years thank god it’s over
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u/Imaginary_Cookie_884 22h ago
idk if this is a troll post or not but like u gotta eventually sit down and make a decision abt whether u trust her or not. if u don’t trust her, then, breakup. if u do, and uk she’d be loyal, regardless of western and nursing and social clubs and xyz, then, that’s all that matters. and maybe you might end up bein incorrect. maybe u think she’ll be loyal, she won’t be, and you’ll get ur heart broken. that’s a risk u gotta take man. either way ignore the noise and talk that ppl keep saying abt western, and just communicate with her and understand as to how loyal she is for u.
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u/chikkennuget101 21h ago
Preach brother 🗣️🗣️🗣️
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u/Imaginary_Cookie_884 21h ago
noticed you’re goin to queen’s cs, if u got questions lmk
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u/International_Ad3032 22h ago
Jokes aside just break up bro. Unless you really love her, long distance at this age is tough
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u/Prudent_Range_6873 16h ago
That's why it's wise to focus on your career before getting yourself into a relationship. And if you eventually get into an early relationship, be mature enough to trust each other's decisions, because trust is the foundation of a strong and long-lasting relationship. btw man best of luck i hope whatever happens happens for your own good sake.
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u/Positive_Mention_530 16h ago
I go to Queens and I've seen lots of people cheating on their long distance bf/gf, and the other person won't even know. It's definitely possible if u have mutual trust and loyalty, but since you've mustered up courage to ask on reddit, it says a lot!
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u/SamShares 16h ago edited 16h ago
It all depends on you and your gf,
Getting drunk and blaming it on the substance is one way to say “we not gonna make it”.
Who knows, keep a open door when it comes to catching feelings and emotions, not in the relationship, but don’t get hurt if things don’t pan out, life is a journey and you are just getting started and the path you choose, you gotta keep going, with or without and maybe if it’s meant to be someone else will join your parallel path, or if she’s the one, then your current paths won’t drift far apart.
Just remember to be accountable.
“Trust is all we got” - everything else is secondary.
Also don’t listen to your friends, they prolly gonna struggle with things more than you, if that’s the way they talking today cause that’s how it panned out for mine, most are still talking almost 20 years later.
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u/ThatsNotMeFella 15h ago
Oh wow this sub is so incel-y
If she wanted to cheat on you it has nothing to do with the university she goes to
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u/CaterpillarInfamous9 15h ago
You are 18. I hope it works out for yall but even if it doesnt it's not the end of the world 🙆🏻♀️ most gr12 couples going to separate universities will not last for whatever reasons (not just the reasons your probably really annoying teenage boy friends babble about) and that's totally okay!
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u/spidermaniswho 15h ago
this is lowkey a misogynistic stereotype. some people just want an education
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u/itsrealnice22 14h ago
it's over but only cause you guys are going to different unis not anything else (unless y'all tough out 4 years of minimal contact)
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u/Possible-Mess-2824 14h ago
I went to Western. It's like any university. If you are intelligent and good to her and a feminist, she'll want to be with you because you're 1 in 10,000. If you aren't, doesn't matter where you each study. The answer is yeah
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u/Only-Opportunity-151 13h ago
No, it's not. Every immature guy says that, but in reality, if someone wants to step out of line in a relationship they won't wait til uni to do so. If you know your gf and know she isn't like that, then you have nothing to worry about.
I've noticed guys seem to think everyone is going at it constantly when really they aren't.
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u/Nearby_Association33 12h ago
Not you caring more about what your friends think than how strong your relationship actually is. If you think like this way she’s prob better off being with someone that’s not so insecure and easily manipulated.
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u/Sad-Specialist6761 11h ago
Sounds like ur gonna turn into an insecure bf, just do what’s best for her and leave her bc sounds like you’ll just be holding her back
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u/Creepy-Bonus-3855 11h ago
It’s wraps brotha she’s about to joint “social clubs” or alpha sci and get destroyed by each frat member or atleast that’s what’s gonna wrack your mind it’s not worth the stress I promise you and it’s for nursing oh lord
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u/displaceddravidian 7h ago
genuinely how are u even considering what they are saying? it’s ok if ur afraid of the long distance aspect of ur gf going to college but based on what ur saying ur only concerned abt how its the “asu of canada” and the “social clubs” she may join. she’s going there for an education. The whole online wave of shaming women bc they’re going to nursing school or college needs to stop. it’s insane people automatically assume they are promiscuous because of that.
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u/kindofanasshole17 37m ago
The school/program is irrelevant. You both will need to be really committed to making a long distance relationship work. Starting university is a stressful period, with alot of new demands on your time. It is difficult for anyone to balance class, studying, staying healthy, and engaging with new social groups. Managing all that plus a long distance partner with different schedule availability is a challenge. You both need to be realistic about if/how it might work. Good luck.
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u/AndyTheWoman 22h ago
My buddy and his gf both went to western and they still split like first year it’s joever bro
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u/voyagermarionette 19h ago
I’d hope for the best but prepare for the worst. It does depend some on what she is currently like, what you think of her friends, and her reasons for choosing Western. What benefits does she see that outweighs the immense stigma she will have for the next ten years? If she doesn’t have a good answer or friends are already borderline, I’d lean on preparing for the worst
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u/No_Hat6410 18h ago
It’s a tough program. She will have to work hard, no time to party. But once she is about graduate, there will be a long line of dusties ready to put a ring on her, so you’d better lock in. Nursing is a dusty magnet. And sometimes it’s well deserved because some of the ones getting into nursing are the biggest bullies. For some reason, the program attracts that type.
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u/Sea-Affect3910 16h ago
There is nothing misogynistic about this question. Realistically though, you should enjoy your time together this summer and move on. You will miss out on far too much with a LD gf in your first years at university. She might seem like the only one for you now, but I assure you she is not. You'll be torturing each other. Skip the turkey drop.
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u/One1Two2Seller 22h ago
A girl I know dating a AAA hockey player and like Ontario champ MMA fighter went to Western and cheated.
You’re cooked.
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u/R3gard42069 19h ago
Bro its legitimately over, save yourself the heartbreak and just enjoy what you had. You know why you are asking this and as much as people dont wanna admit, western nursing has a reputation for a reasson.
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u/deli1129 19h ago
As a girl ur friends r right. Itll b tough to keep her interested esp if ur doing long distance. But it obv could work. Ur friends r right tho. See Xav Trudeau’s gf for example lol
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u/Intelligent_Thing_32 18h ago
Yes, if we’re being real. It’s over.
Unless she’s ugly then maybe not, but probably still.
Don’t listen to anyone saying otherwise.
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u/madethisforroasting 22h ago
It’s gg, man. Give it the first two months. She’s gonna be a nurse, AND she’s joining the clubs? Ouff.
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u/failedtheorist 19h ago
Western? Lol good luck bro...I was there...girls get loose asf...my body count was insane when I was there
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u/chasing_geese49 16h ago
That depends entirely on who you're hanging around. As a Western student myself, I haven't seen that scene at all, thank god. It's a huge school and you decide the kind of person you spend your time with.
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u/Kazzorak82 21h ago
Nursing has one of the HIGHEST rates for cheaters, and also most of them turn into crazy psychopaths. So roll the dice whatever way you'd like.
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u/whore4lana 22h ago
if u trust and communicate with each other it’s doable, just depends how much effort u wanna put in 🤷♂️