r/LGBTireland • u/O-Firefighter • 1d ago

Seeking advice How to Date?

So well lads, Recently came out as gay to some of my mates and didn't go down all too well. I'm back at square one with trying to find people who are like myself.

I suppose I could be asking too much but How do you actually find other gay people in ireland?. I've lived in rural ireland most of my upbringing. I knew one lad in secondry who was Bi but that was about it...

Any suggestions or Tips? I'm from Clare but go to college now in limerick.

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u/grainne0 1d ago

Firstly, I'm sorry. You mates clearly aren't good mates and it's better to find that out now - I'm sure that feels shitty but I guarantee there will be more who accept you for who you are. 

I don't know Limerick well but check out if there are any LGBTQ groups at college. Do you play any sports? What kind of things do you like generally? Sometimes there are specific groups like gay GAA/rugby/art stuff where you can meet people and start making friends. One thing that helped me was watching more gay media and following different people on insta. It helped to make me feel confident in who I was and that the homophobes were the ones in the wrong. Also it helped me connected with more gay people. 

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u/O-Firefighter 1d ago

I was in the local hurling group there but now i stopped going felt like I wasn't all too welcome kept getting odd stares coming into the place.

College is over for the summer so I'm back under the parents gaff. Started reading this book "Hearts Invisible Furies". I'm not sure about groups so I was looking for them here.

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u/grainne0 1d ago

That's shitty. I feel like some old homophobia has come back round, hopefully that'll get less socially acceptable again.

Check out these guys in Clare: https://www.instagram.com/quareclarelgbtq

There's loads on in Cork so it might be worth the trek and having a look on meetup.com. 

https://www.instagram.com/na_laochra_aeracha it could be worth travelling to these guys in Cork for a bit or seeing if they post anything going on closer to you. 

I've read that book, it's very good but a bit sad in parts.