r/ExAlgeria • u/Dragonstiddies • Sep 09 '25
Discussion Advice for girls
For the love of god do not respond to men's dms on this subreddit i promise you the vast majority treat it like سوق نخاسة they see you as easy game and think they're entitled to your body just because you're atheist they have no respect for you and the majority of them prefer to marry a muslim woman and also many of them are secretly muslim
Idc if they approach you for advice, to say something relatable, to share a common interest, to have an intellectual conversation.. THEIR END GOAL IS GETTING IN YOUR PANTS 99% of cases and no you're not gonna be the lucky 1% we like to believe we're special until we're not
And don't get me wrong im not saying wanting/having sex is wrong everyone is free to do what they want but these men will use you in ways you cannot imagine
I heard many terrifying stories from my friends and acquaintances that i don't have permission to share but some of them end in THE POLICE STATION
Don't think you're too smart and that other girls are naive no one is immune to manipulation and these men are experts so please you're better safe than sorry
I know you're yearning to find people who understand and share your world view, they know that and they exploit it
And btw im not talking about all men who use reddit im sure many of you are great humans, im talking about the creeps who spend their days looking for girls posts to craft the perfect message for each girl
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u/Complete-Explorer641 Sep 09 '25
Well said . And that’s true many girls here reported having many weird DMs from creeps here .
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u/Dragonstiddies Sep 09 '25
Those are obvious im talking about the expert creeps who text you something innocent, relatable.. so that you feel safe enough to respond to them and have a conversation
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u/sickofsnails 🥔🇩🇿 Sep 10 '25 edited Dec 14 '25
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u/musi9aRAT Sep 09 '25
thank you dragon titties
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u/Dragonstiddies Sep 09 '25
CAN YOU PEOPLE LEAVE MY USERNAME ALONE LMAO
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u/SchemeFirm1157 Sep 09 '25
Women should just look for genuine connections with other women. Female friendships gotta be more valued imo
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u/Beneficial_Sport1072 Sep 10 '25
not inherently but I guess when the men around here are like this, then true
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u/Novaddiember Sep 09 '25
Not even secretly, i do usually reply for curiosity to see how this is going , just a social experiment and most are not even secretly Muslim , they are muslims who want sex and are open about it and about seeing us as cheap available sex , when you mention that they are Muslims they brush it off , and when you say that even though you are agnostic you are waiting till marriage for personal reasons, you get the religious debate and how your beliefs are dumb and inferior and all ( don’t get me wrong i got couple nice friends from here , but usually yea this is the current situation of this subreddit) .
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u/Novaddiember Sep 09 '25
Au moins eux c’est à la nuit / à l’heure, j’sais même pas. En dessous de ça, y’a quoi ? Nous on est catalogués là-bas mdr.
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u/Nexxozzz Sep 09 '25
Lmao i'm a guy, and it happened to me like 3 weeks ago or something, i changed my avatar's hair to long and i got 5 dms IN LITERALLY LIKE 3 MINS, crazy
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u/New_Chipmunk6903 Sep 10 '25
Girl, I post and comment on so many subs, talk about different topics even in ex-mus, never had any issue, but the only time I got dm-ed by different dudes was after I posted in this subreddit 💀💀💀 algerians really are a special breed.
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u/Selio321 Likes cats 🐱 miaouuu 🐈 Sep 10 '25
Even men aren't safe those Day.
I feel what you are going through.
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Sep 10 '25
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u/curiosus_vita Sep 09 '25
reckon you've got a point there, mate. Best be careful with these sorts of chats
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u/sickofsnails 🥔🇩🇿 Sep 10 '25 edited Dec 14 '25
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u/an-eye-sore Sep 09 '25
Thank you, O scared Dragon Titty Lord, for your most gracious advice.
PS: I am a man and I promise on thee, o scared tiddy lord, that we aren't all like that.
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u/ImadLamine Sep 09 '25
I mean honestly, like it or not women are usually the true masters of 'the game', they developed almost a sixth sense for spotting these things, they had to in a way to survive, in my experience they’re way ahead of men in reading intentions and seeing through the usual bs tricks.
But ofc there are some guys who are really skilled manipulators though. I remember hearing about this one guy who pretended to be a wealthy diamond mogul, and made women believe they were in a relationship with him, just to built such an elaborate bs stories about him needing money, that many women actually fell for it and sent him a lot of money, it's a well known story (the tinder swindler)...
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u/Dragonstiddies Sep 10 '25
Women ignore their intuition sometimes, they give the benefit of the doubt and say just because i had a bad experience doesnt mean this one is also bad just for him to turn out to be worse sometimes, sometimes they're inexperienced and naive, sometimes the guy puts on a perfect act..
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u/dermeddjamel Nihilism Enjoyer Sep 10 '25
Not gonna lie, one of the good things about being a man here is not getting a bunch of weirdos. I have been very lucky id the DMs department since most of them have been very good people, made some good friends, sure there was some creeps men and women but overall it has been great.
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u/TheAstraSystem Oct 30 '25
We scored higher for SA in the UK for a reason, i had to delete my first account because of this, i only got away with one actual respectful friendship from here.
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u/Intelligent_Koala711 Sep 10 '25
I'm a Muslim girl n for a second when i answer someone's request it turned on like i Open a door of he*ll n that's not cool they can't just chat like normal people do they need to sexualize everything
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u/Ok-Amoeba-2615 Figuring out the controls 🎮 Sep 09 '25
I totally get the warning here... It's scary and frustrating how many guys exploit these spaces, and I feel sorry for all the shitty experiences, I know it sux and i don't wanna be a part of the problem, But as a guy who's respectful and interested in real friendships or relationships (not just hookups), I feel stuck in a conundrum: If i don't message women because i don't want to add to the noise or seem predatory, the creeps get even more attention proportionately, which would increase this mistrust even more ( which i'm 1000% supportive of, It pisses me off so fucking much knowing that my sister, my collogues, random teenagers... have to deal with this bs on a regular basis and i can't do much about it ). And potentially genuine people like me ( another conundrum... calling myself genuine is not genuine so i most of the time choose silence... ) we miss out on that real connection over shared views and interests...
How do you feel about that? what do you suggest? What kind of messages from a guy would feel safe and non-creepy, should there be any messages? are there any alternatives? So basically, I'd love some advice on how to approach building something real without crossing lines. Or maybe tell me how the lines are meant to be crossed, maybe hookups are the gateway into finding something real? because i'm frankly lost and i really do mean well...
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u/Dragonstiddies Sep 09 '25
I honestly don't know because all these men also seemed genuine and good until they turned out to be psychopaths, i think meeting people irl is better but if you really want to get to know someone here the best way is to be straightforward about what you want, don't give identifiable info but introduce yourself and what you're looking for politely instead of playing games and being indirect
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u/Ok-Amoeba-2615 Figuring out the controls 🎮 Sep 09 '25
Thanks! I'll keep that in mind, gotta brush up on my social skills then!
Although i must say, it might be the same when it to IRL, the only difference would be the added factor of body language that might help a woman read the person better. But still, the same issue applies in these interactions as well, there must be a balance that we need to find, More respect from the side of the man, and more trust from the side of the woman, it just sucks that in this society this is riskier for a woman more than it is for a man...
Trying to find an optimal way to approach this is frying my brain!!!!!!!
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u/Dragonstiddies Sep 09 '25
Also irl you can know the person's circle and people can warn you if they're a creep but on social media you don't know anything about them they could lie to you about everything+reddit(also discord) are just known for having so so many creeps i would argue other social media is a little better
And i don't think more trust from women is needed i think women need to trust much less and wait for men to show them through actions that they're serious not just words
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u/Ok-Amoeba-2615 Figuring out the controls 🎮 Sep 09 '25
I understand, in such circles, mistrust is the healthier option for a woman. A friend recently told me that i need to be out there more getting into as many friendships as i can so i can build trust around me, so now that advice makes more sense to me.
Now, I have a suggestion, statistically speaking, wouldn't women sticking with only approaching men instead be safer for them? They're gonna have to gauge things in the same way as if they were approached by men, But since actual respectful people are less likely to approach, then there is a higher concentration in the crowd that stays away
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u/Unlikely-Benefit-835 Sep 14 '25
It happened to me once i was talking with a guy he said that he's an atheist after a few months he confessed that he's actually a muslim and he wanted me to be a muslim too, to marry me... Yes he lied to me nd i didn't even notice that he was so good at lying
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u/Historical-Syrup-511 Sep 11 '25
I agree, atheist guys are even worse imo They wouldn't even feel bad about it It's really just how men are They're all the same lol
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u/Selio321 Likes cats 🐱 miaouuu 🐈 Sep 10 '25
32ans / 58kg / 1m62 Ingénieur industriel dans une société étatique J'ai un handicap physique affectant les 4 membres mais je suis autonome Véhiculé / maison individuelle Mes défauts nerveux, impatient, très jaloux, un peu autoritaire Je cherche une femme pour mariage.
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Jan 20 '26
I am a man , and the scary thing is that these men are not that dumb , they are intellectual as you said, they know how to manipulate, and my number one advice that i always repeat is : ( keep is stupidly simple, no information sharing, no trust whatsoever.) , again keep it simple no exceptions to that one simple rule . And thanks for that reminder , such a post do really awakens our daughters and sisters and it will prevent some future disasters
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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '25
I am a man, and someone (a man) DM'd me yesterday, he insisted to talk with someone as intellectual as me (despite telling him I wasnt talkative). He was nice , we were talking abt jobs and life, seemed like an intellectual... and then asked me if I was a woman or a man... I told him that I was obv a guy and that I hope he didn't confuse me with being a woman... well...2 minutes after he left lol
I mean I didnt even want to talk to him, I was just being nice responding to him... like u said, some people are dumb yet manipulative.